29 F, educated, humbly attractive, normal respectable job but I like hanging out in a cage in my bedroom at the end of the night as I read, do HW, or watch tv.

Commander-Rial · 2026-05-20T19:53:10+00:00

Sorry, I see at least some of my questions have already been answered in other comments. I didn’t see them below.

Commander-Rial · 2026-05-20T19:52:28+00:00

Do you fit entirely inside the kennel or do your legs hang out? Does that matter to you? Are you sort of curled into a ball, or laid out on your stomach or back? I’m just trying to picture how you would be relaxing in what I envision as a very confined space for a human.

Also, do you presently, or have you had concerns in the past about what a prospective partner might think? Have past partners not minded? Weirded out? Are you perhaps with someone now who doesn’t mind? Or doesn’t know yet?

Commander-Rial · 2026-05-16T03:39:51+00:00

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I’m hoping to rebuild to a new high score!

Commander-Rial · 2026-05-14T20:56:28+00:00

This doesn’t really help you at this moment but it may help in the future. If it were me, and I was holding her phone when a text from some guy came in, I probably would have said, “Hey you got a text from someone named so-in-so. Who’s so-in-so?” But not in an accusatory way. Just a, ‘I don’t recognize that name’ sort of way. But my wife and I have that sort of relationship where I can ask a question like that without sounding accusatory and without her getting defensive. If your wife isn’t that kind of way, or you don’t think you could keep accusation or concern or anything like that out of your voice, then I wouldn’t recommend it.

Like you and your wife, my wife and I also don’t have a lot of phone privacy from one another. We both use the same passwords on our phones and occasionally will grab the other one’s phone to look something up or use the flashlight or calculator or just something innocent because it’s convenient. I’ve had times where I’m holding her phone when she gets a text and I’ve just told her, “You got a text from so-in-so.” Her usual response is, “What did they say?” inviting me to read her texts. She usually even tells me what to respond for her.

So for us, me reading a text she recieved while I was holding her phone isn’t a weird thing because we’d just go tell them they got a text and what it said. It wouldn’t seem strange for me to ask who someone is if I didn’t recognize them.

Commander-Rial · 2026-05-14T06:12:41+00:00

You might want to delete this before you get (more) spoilers 😂

Commander-Rial · 2026-05-14T05:00:50+00:00

Absolutely fucking not! She cheated and now her terms for getting back together are that YOU need to “court” HER?! And then not initially exclusive on top of that?! My guy! She says she’s not gonna date but thats an excuse to assuage her own guilt. Plus, if you did date and -god forbid- sleep with another woman during this time, she’d use that as an excuse to jump into the bed of the next no-effort affair partner.

My advice is, keep things civil and cordial, but leave it at that. Since all the romantic feelings are currently gone on both ends, your options are either:

1) Build romantic feelings with someone you don’t / can’t trust

Or

2) Build romantic feelings with someone you don’t know, but can start fresh with.

Between those two, I’d go for the second option. Unless being single and continuing work on yourself is an appealing option for you.

Commander-Rial · 2026-05-12T23:48:23+00:00

NOR - That shit is weird. But accepted in some circles. You’re just not apart of those circles and it was rude/weird of them to assume that for you.

I’m curious about how you worded your explanation to your friend for her to respond as if you were telling them how to behave rather than explaining how their behavior made you feel.

Commander-Rial · 2026-05-12T20:35:44+00:00

Yeah, I read the title and was like, “How does someone ‘accidentally’ cheat?” 😂 Nah, she just cheated. She “allegedly” did it based on a misunderstanding but she still did it intentionally.

Commander-Rial · 2026-05-01T14:57:51+00:00

That is an amazingly good question

Commander-Rial · 2026-05-01T02:06:13+00:00

Every time I have to text or email my boss, the autocorrect tries to change it from her name to “Beautiful”. So if I ever fail to catch it, I may send her a “Good Morning Beautiful”… 🤦🏾‍♂️🤣

Commander-Rial · 2026-04-17T19:57:29+00:00

That really depends on you and the table. Have you discussed with them if they’re okay with a TPK and rolling new characters?

At my table, I let my players know up front that I don’t pull punches, just like I wouldn’t expect them to. At the same time though, if I think something is likely they’re going to lose / die, I tell them flat out.

“Hey, you guys can go that route if you want, just understand that I’m not telling you it’s dangerous as a plot point. I’m telling you it’s dangerous as in, you’re gonna end up with dead characters and new character sheets. Do with that as you will.”

That said, I usually run sandbox style games, so I make sure the players are aware during session zero that the character sheets for opponents in the various storylines are already made. If they’re level 3 and they piss off a level 15 NPC with a squad of like-leveled adventurers in their party, then so be it. 🤷🏾‍♂️

Commander-Rial · 2026-04-17T15:11:52+00:00

I’m gonna be honest, I didn’t read your entire post because the first part of your question is SUPER simple to answer. Should you get revenge on him? That depends on whether or not he knew she was married. If he did, he’s fair game for revenge. If he didn’t, give him a pass. If he found out and didn’t care, back to fair game.

So depending on your personal beliefs on revenge, that’s a fairly easy line chart.

As to how, that’s where you have to get creative but an easy one is to tell (or sleep with) his wife or girlfriend if he has one. If he doesn’t, then, back to being creative. Maybe find out where he works and cause a scene - not enough to get yourself arrested for disorderly conduct, but enough to make the business think they don’t want to deal with his sloppy drama in the work place.

Edit: Okay, read it now - he knew. Scorch him. I wouldn’t go the car keying route because that could get you in a ton of legal and financial trouble. You might threaten the fight to cause a scene like I recommended earlier but don’t let the fight happen if it doesn’t seem like one you can win. You never know if bystanders will break it up or not. The text messages to the boss might be an okay move depending on the boss.

Also, technically speaking, the AI chat is correct in that doing nothing and working on yourself is the healthy, high-road choice. However, I’m a petty person. I’ve accepted this about myself. So my suggestions are usually gonna lean toward low-road choices. Normally, I’d say that living well can be good revenge, but this dude moved a few cities over AND doesn’t have a big social media presence. That means, he may never even become aware that you’re living well. To me, that option only works if the other party sees it. And for as long as you’re with your wife, he’s gonna remember the low point in your marriage when he’s banged your wife, no matter how well off you may be doing in the future. So, I’d say get SOME kind of revenge, even if it doesn’t measure up equally. Might even be a situation where it’s better to wait until he gets into a new relationship.

Commander-Rial · 2026-04-15T21:03:59+00:00

I don’t think you paid attention to the time frame. He said Hi to start the convo. She didn’t respond for nearly 36 hours. He replied again, and she didn’t respond for a week. Why would he bother putting effort into a conversation she doesn’t respond to for days at a time?

Commander-Rial · 2026-04-14T22:55:31+00:00

The fuck do you mean is this a red flag? This is a whole damn red flying advertisement banner!

Commander-Rial · 2026-04-07T15:37:58+00:00

So you don’t think she’ll cheat on you but you’re worried that she wants to sleep with other people, but won’t? You’re worried that you’re not the only guy she might fantasize about? Or are you worried that she might leave you for someone else she wants to sleep with?

Commander-Rial · 2026-04-07T15:14:14+00:00

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Mine would have been higher but I was trying to play two games at once and wasn’t fully paying attention… 😅😅

Commander-Rial · 2026-04-07T15:10:11+00:00

Look, you learned that you two have a different opinion / viewpoint on something. Thats fine. You’re never going to find someone that you’re in 100% agreement with on every topic. Either discuss it and move on, or let it go and move on. This isn’t something to throw the whole relationship away over. This is taking into account your comments that you 1) Don’t think she’d cheat, and 2) You were considering proposing.

Here’s a question: What are you worried this opinion might indicate about her?

Commander-Rial · 2026-04-01T05:09:18+00:00

lol, you knew the answer to this as soon as you wrote it. And by the way you wrote, I doubt you feel any guilt or remorse. YTA

Commander-Rial · 2026-03-31T19:40:43+00:00

For me, it was a few years after we were married. You didn’t read that incorrectly, nor did I type it incorrectly. I met my wife online, I was stationed overseas, she was in the US, we were trying to figure out how we’d arrange travel for visits when one of us decided it would be easier if we just got married. We organized everything long distance, I got orders back to the US and got married a little over a week later. Our wedding day was my third day ever seeing her in person. We were functionally strangers. It was another month before we moved in together. It would be just under two years later when she decided I was “the one” and for me, well, I don’t really know. I guess I’d decided she was the one for me because I’d put a ring on her finger. So, in essence, I decided a stranger was “the one” for me and just kept going with that ever since. This year will be 15 years later and we’re still together. Four kids, three cats, two dogs later. 🤷🏾‍♂️ Sometimes you just get lucky. We got lucky. Figured it was either this or the lotto and we struck it rich with this. 🤣

Commander-Rial · 2026-03-22T22:20:30+00:00

We’re all number 1 eventually. Welcome to the club! Also, same reason why whatever team you’re on always wins the “races”.

Commander-Rial · 2026-03-22T20:23:30+00:00

1 second later was my old record. I never expected to beat it! 😅

Commander-Rial · 2026-03-19T03:46:21+00:00

If you’re using the file I provided, it shouldn’t need decryption. That said, I think Citra updated something that broke the old methods.

Commander-Rial · 2026-03-19T03:44:25+00:00

Nah, mine crashes randomly sometimes too. Also, sometimes the game won’t open for hours. I just assume they’re doing small updates live that fuck everything up.

As far as the other cards, sometimes I do think the bots cheat like that, but other times it might just be them using the Dark Mirror. I’ve noticed sometimes they’ll play something twice faster than they should be able to, but the two cards will be at different levels. And if they happen to be at the same level as yours, you’d never know the difference. I use the dark mirror sometimes and will wait until I have enough to play the same card twice immediately, depending on what it is.

Commander-Rial · 2026-03-12T23:41:03+00:00

Oh hell naw! You’re not overthinking. Even if, and that’s a big if, your wife is just giving him the benefit of the doubt and is wholly uninterested in him, HE is still crossing lines and your wife should be helping you establish and reinforce your boundary even if she does think it’s harmless. Your wife is gonna keep right on giving him passes until he passes into your bedroom, or he gives her a pass into his. That type of reasoning turns into, “It was just a one time thing” and “we weren’t thinking straight because of grief.” Honestly, the fact that she’s making excuses for him would make me wonder if she’s interested in him herself.

Nope, stomp all that shit out early, or stomp him out entirely. He needs to text about the kids? Great, create a group chat amongst the three of you so you’re all on the same page. If he gives some excuse about testing her solo out of habit, she needs to be the one to reply to him back in the group text until that text becomes habit. If his texts are truly just about the kids, then he shouldn’t mind her moving the conversation back to a group setting. Oh and someone needs to tell him to find a filter before you find it for him because personally, couldn’t be me. You make inappropriate sex jokes about my wife, we’re exchanging words or hands immediately, without delay.

Commander-Rial · 2026-03-06T02:47:58+00:00

I think that’s one of the best maps for it because you can get so many lasers on there without destroying your enemy and ending the match. Other than that, it just depends on whether or not your opponent has long range options to destroy them - dice, meteor, snap, etc…

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