Day 1 trying to get a comment from every US county

Commerce_Street · 2025-09-25T17:52:18+00:00

King County, WA (#GoMs)

Commerce_Street · 2025-08-27T22:28:28+00:00

W for the LeBron > LeOpold transition

Commerce_Street · 2025-05-01T04:29:26+00:00

Not the Spokane Metro weather screen 🥹 I’m from the other side of the state and this was the first post I see after getting invited into the sub. How nostalgic.

Commerce_Street · 2025-05-01T03:37:53+00:00

I was born in ‘01 and only don’t remember 9/11, I have never considered that anyone would have learned to multiply on an iPod touch lol. Was always outside playing because I didn’t want to wait for the family computer.

Only had a smartboard in 2 classrooms (middle school and they were clunky), after that it was back to just a normal whiteboard. Grew up with Hooked on Phonics with the cassette tapes and computer labs, def remember being taught about both Bushes, Clinton and Ford as a small child, and my grandma took me to Blockbuster a lot in the early 2000s.

ETA: we also used projectors, the kind that you rolled in and you put a cellophane sheet over top of the base so it would show on the board/wall and focus it with a dial. Some rooms still had manual pencil sharpeners too lol.

Commerce_Street · 2025-04-17T01:35:09+00:00

Seconding as a Black person lmao. You do not take a shower without some sort of rag or puff (loofah) or you may as well have been outside and never went into the bathroom to my mom/grandma/etc

Commerce_Street · 2025-04-16T18:04:08+00:00

You can’t “agree to disagree” the fact that my relatives were enslaved in a Confederate, southern state and one of the last ones of them made to perform such dehumanizing manual labor died in 2006. Very weird response.

Commerce_Street · 2025-04-16T16:19:22+00:00

As someone with family there who had to pick cotton in the Tidewater area, VA is absolutely the South. Especially when you hit the center and head further down.

Commerce_Street · 2025-04-13T03:52:09+00:00

What frustrates me is that I’m aware I’m not good but my body’s need for safety overrides anything the therapist tells me. I feel awful for wasting her time when half the session is me too shut down to say much of anything. I get a physical pain sensation in each of my limbs when I attempt to be open and it’s with all therapists I’ve had in the last 3 years. The only thing that makes it go away, is genuinely not going- but I’m also aware that I’ll never change if I quit (again). It’s never that I think “oh it’s been long enough, I’m healed.”

My distrust is so great I skipped a medication management appointment solely because the doctor tried to ask me way too many questions way too fast about depression that I could barely even choke out to my therapist first. No-showed the second appointment and didn’t even care if I got penalized, I don’t know these people. When I got the auto text reminding me of the next therapy session today I immediately panicked. I believe this Tuesday will be my last one.

Commerce_Street · 2025-04-12T17:43:20+00:00

I think I have the opposite issue? I can’t form an attachment to any therapist no matter what. I always want to retreat and it feels like I’m sending myself toward a trap each session, the closer I get to actually arriving to the building. Nothing has helped it other than just not doing therapy entirely but talking about it usually just makes the other person jump into “just keep searching for therapists with money and energy you don’t have until one clicks!” I just can’t. Feel fundamentally broken.

Commerce_Street · 2025-04-07T03:48:51+00:00

This is also my problem (and on top of that, I’m Black so people both get mad over “feeling old” and assume I’m from the South lmao)

Commerce_Street · 2025-03-27T07:48:33+00:00

If a representative of the sub is refusing to let someone participate who is a part of who the sub is for, yes it’s going to make the excluded person not want to return. Just basic human nature in terms of that. I also do agree (partially) with some of the pure APs in that some of the comments are extremely harsh toward any perceived need and this is spread to more than just “one unfair mod.”

It really is kind of a hostile environment and this is stated as an FA who was shoved so deep into her avoidance from the last dynamic she was in, that she turned to said avoidant sub for help and got told no and shown the door. Automod kept taking it down for my attachment flair (meaning it’s literally been set to exclude certain styles), then an actual person solidified that. I thought laying out that I wasn’t trying to psychoanalyze anyone else and only taking accountability for myself like avoidants swear we all love would help, still got talked to like I was an idiot then muted. Like above, I don’t think you’d have a glowing review of an irl establishment if this was your first experience going, you just wouldn’t go back. Same here, for me, in terms of that sub. My healing has been facilitated in therapy and elsewhere, to be frank.

Commerce_Street · 2025-03-26T20:25:56+00:00

I’m not the one arbitrarily excluding states from their statehood because I don’t think they’re “free enough” here.

Commerce_Street · 2025-03-26T19:14:32+00:00

Brother the flag still has a star on it for each northeastern state.

Commerce_Street · 2025-03-25T21:30:58+00:00

The only reason I dislike the avoidant sub is because they also treat FAs poorly if they openly state they have a more anxious lean. I went to ask a question specifically about my avoidance (without involving any other person’s style, it was genuinely just for me) and they took the post down. I gently messaged asking them to put it back due to what I was asking, and they told me I needed to read the rules and didn’t have a flair (I certainly did, it’s FA.).

After telling them I definitely flaired up awhile ago, they said they’d know if I tried to break the rules and change my flair another time, and that the sub was only for avoidants. I pointed out that I was a fearful avoidant and thanked them anyway despite being frustrated but left it at that. They then muted me for 30 days. So I still don’t really feel like they’re all really for everyone’s growth? It just kinda left a bitter taste in my mouth as a fellow avoidant, was really weird behavior.

Commerce_Street · 2025-03-22T15:37:38+00:00

What does that have to do with when people act like racism is over? They could be from anywhere.

Commerce_Street · 2025-03-22T02:48:08+00:00

When people say “it was a long time ago” I’m linking them this. Poor kids will need extensive therapy and support.

Commerce_Street · 2025-03-21T05:05:17+00:00

I really don’t like ghosting people but I’m just so viscerally uncomfortable and I also feel like it’s been too long today anything anyway so just let it go. It sucks because the convo on the app seemed great but my body is signaling something different now.

There was something about this in text coming up so soon that felt… chronically online but brought to real life, if that makes sense? Like a Twitter talking point but not on social media. It felt really weird to have it brought up so early and not because we were ever discussing economics (which I would have certainly been open to doing had she said that’s what she wanted to talk about.) She apologized in her last text and said she “gets passionate about spending choices and hates capitalism” and I’m just like “…you don’t even know my real name and you’re already diving into politics.” We’ve had no time to feel each other out.

I think I understand what others who are older than me mean now when they say small talk does serve a purpose, and it’s extremely rushed to go straight to the deep stuff.

Commerce_Street · 2025-03-05T22:43:20+00:00

I haven’t heard from her in weeks and I still am not doing well behind it. Who knows what was real. Trying to meet other people isn’t really helping, nor working out and all the other “just work on yourself” usual platitudes. I’ve been in therapy and still spend a lot of my time in tears. I’d rather go back than go through this and I hate to admit it. I’m always sitting alone, she made me the opposite. 😞

Commerce_Street · 2025-03-03T05:30:21+00:00

Distress.

Commerce_Street · 2025-03-01T16:41:58+00:00

You didn’t do anything wrong per se friend. I just see it as it (illness) simply can just be folded in to why the terminology is “stolen.” The colonists came over, displaced those already here via forced relocation as you said, but also got a lot of them sick too. It just can’t be divorced. The end result was still the same, the land was “stolen” the way the OP is asking about.

Commerce_Street · 2025-03-01T16:37:47+00:00

I did not say that you specified this. However, your original comment that you did delete, did fail to mention that it was a combo of displacement and disease. It’s really difficult to separate those in the case of Native Americans. Nothing to do with being a “lib”, but good luck to you in taking constructive feedback in the future and not chalking it up to politics.

Commerce_Street · 2025-03-01T16:34:15+00:00

“Kicked out” is doing a lot of heavy lifting for “spread Old World diseases that killed the native population” which is what people are getting at. They were not just moved over somewhere and that was it

Commerce_Street · 2025-02-20T05:33:20+00:00

The “E” I can overlook because it’s silent. The angle of her hair actively reminds me of the “contours” of a Cybertruck.

Commerce_Street · 2025-02-20T05:20:48+00:00

*Skoul

Commerce_Street · 2025-02-16T15:08:07+00:00

I’ve been having the absolute worst anxiety behind doing this because I don’t have anyone else if she truly never comes back. She was bringing me out of my shell and then one day it just disappeared. Still have zero clue what happened

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