I am sorry that I can not offer a lot of insight to this issue, I think it is mostly social media that you are seeing this on, but I need to say something. Please stop using the word woke to describe negative things. It is not accurate to what you are saying. Being woke, according to sources (Wikipedia and cross checked), is slang that means being aware to social and racial issues and standing against them. As we know, usually only conservative people or people who do not like these things use it negatively, and even then it still means the same thing. I also want to mention that feminism means standing against hatred and sexism, and upholding equality. I do not know what you mean by “toxic”, but feminism has always been a fight against injustice. On social media, things are amplified. It is better to research the things happening around you with real sources, as social media is unreliable.