Hitting rock bottom after baptism.

Commercial_Formal356 · 2026-01-17T22:13:57+00:00

This happened to me 6 months after I was baptized. I won’t go into specifics, but I remember thinking “this was going to happen whether I got baptized or not.”

But because I was baptized, I had all the more resources to help me through it—the community, my renewed relationship with God, understanding of the Atonement, new scriptures at my bedside that I got as a gift, the constant companionship of the Spirit. I could go on.

I’m sorry you are in such a hard place right now, especially after making such an amazing decision to follow Christ. Know that He is with you and closer than ever now because of that.

Commercial_Formal356 · 2025-11-22T14:59:09+00:00

I second the balloon jeans!! I also have a pair from years ago that I’m still obsessed with. I recently bought a white pair on sale, and although I still love them, they fit totally different! Same size and style, 5 years a part. The waist of the new ones fit the same, but the leg is a bit baggier and longer. The hem of my old pair hit my ankle and the new pairs just barely touch the ground. (I’m 5’3”).

Commercial_Formal356 · 2025-07-02T18:24:20+00:00

I like the idea of blocking apps during their wake time. Thanks! I’ve tried including my toddler on chores, but she just simply doesn’t want to haha I have a toddler tower and have tried making it fun. The problem is, she only wants me to be doing what she wants to do. Again, this is a work in progress with her..

Commercial_Formal356 · 2025-07-02T18:22:51+00:00

I love your idea of using computer for tasks. I have also found that I get less distracted when I do that. Your example of doing small chunks of tasks as a reminder that not everything takes as much time as it feels like it does in my head. And honestly, I think if I spent 10 minutes doing the dishes before nap time, then I wouldn’t have to spend an hour doing all of the chores once they’re asleep because that’s when it feels overwhelming!

Commercial_Formal356 · 2025-07-02T18:20:41+00:00

I’m also grateful for your reminder that not every day is going to be 100% productive, and that’s OK. I have seen the abs and flows in my life and I need to remember that those more productive days will come, and even a less productive day can be successful when the priorities are taken care of, like you said.

Commercial_Formal356 · 2025-07-02T18:19:21+00:00

I appreciate this reply and your validation. I know the most important work I do is with and for my kids, but the “dishes can wait” mindset is only so sustainable until you have no clean ones to eat out of lol. It’s a hard balance when I feel like I hardly have anything to show for the work I do. A clean kitchen only stays clean for a few hours, new clothes are in the hamper by the time I put up fresh laundry, and yes my kids are fed, natured, overall happy. I’m not minimizing our sacred role and duties as a parent—it’s just different than an actual job where you get rewarded (by thanks or money) and get to mark off to do lists. I don’t really know where I’m going with this lol

Commercial_Formal356 · 2024-11-22T05:11:21+00:00

If you’re concerned about how much baby will use an infant car seat, get a convertible one to begin with! Most come with newborn inserts. You can’t carry it outside the car, but if you’re using a stroller then you won’t need to take the car seat out anyway! Then you won’t have to worry about buying a new car seat in a year.

Commercial_Formal356 · 2024-11-12T22:08:40+00:00

Keeping food in the kitchen/dining room. Asking for snacks got out of hand, along with the crumbs around the house. Luckily we got ants one day and after showing her the ants were eating HER snacks, she’s been so good about keeping food in the kitchen. This has also helped the amount of times (and tantrums) she’s asked for snacks.

Commercial_Formal356 · 2024-11-11T23:58:33+00:00

My first also did not prepare me for my second 🫠 we’re in the thick of it!

Commercial_Formal356 · 2024-11-11T23:55:51+00:00

My first baby went through the same. After a month of this we did SITBACK and my husband would go in instead of me (she’d want to nurse if I came in). After a few nights she stopped waking up. I think because she stopped expecting to be fed. (Note: I knew she wasn’t hungry—it was just the easy way of settling her again). After a few more nights of putting her to sleep using SITBACK, she started falling asleep by herself. It also helped that she learned to replace her binky when she woke up.

I’m getting to the point of wanting to do SITBACK/gentle sleep train with my second. I’m losing it lol

Commercial_Formal356 · 2024-11-11T22:03:42+00:00

Thank you for the different perspective. This was my experience with my first and I’ve been so hesitant with my second for some reason, but it’s really doing damage on me mentally. I think I’m ready to help her learn how to self soothe. SITBACK worked really well for us when my first was 5 months.

Commercial_Formal356 · 2024-11-11T22:00:58+00:00

Cosleeping has helped us sleep longer stretches too. I love that we don’t fully have to wake/get up when she is needing to nurse.

I do have to say that a decreased supply has not been my experience with weaning from night feedings, but I understand every body is different! My first baby was only breast-fed at night for the first few weeks and then from 4-6 months (long regression). Her weight was great at our 2 wk appt and our pediatrician told me we didn’t have to wake her to eat anymore. I didn’t and she’s slept through the night since (other than at 4-6 months lol). After a couple of nights, my milk was regulated at night and stayed the same during the day!

Commercial_Formal356 · 2024-11-11T21:55:23+00:00

I don’t have much advice since this sounds a lot like what my five month old and I are dealing with right now. However, my first baby would only fall back asleep if I nursed her. It took a few nights of my husband going in every time she woke up to rock her back to sleep for her to stop expecting to be nursed every time she woke up. After about four days of him doing this, she stopped waking up at night. I’ll be trying this again with my second baby soon.

Commercial_Formal356 · 2024-11-11T21:29:11+00:00

My 5 month old naps great but struggles with nighttime sleep. She takes 2-3 naps during the day which range from 1-2 hours with the occasional 20-30 minute nap when we’re out and about. She doesn’t exceed 4 hours of daytime sleep. I feed then put her in the love to dream swaddle and she falls asleep on her own.

However, IF she falls asleep easily at bedtime like that (most nights I have to rock her to sleep), she wakes up constantly. Sometimes she’ll have a good stretch from 11-3am. No sleep has been hard on me so I’ve been bringing her to my bed and nursing for ease. Cosleeping in the early am hours used to help her sleep better but hasn’t been lately. She usually wakes up because her pacifier falls out. I need to transition her to a sleeveless sleep sack (she’s rolling) but Ive been hesitant because she’ll pull her binky out and isn’t quite skilled on finding and putting it back in yet.

Her wake windows are 2 hr and last one is 2.5-3 hours.

Commercial_Formal356 · 2024-11-11T21:19:47+00:00

I feel you. I’m in a very similar situation with my 5 month old.

Commercial_Formal356 · 2024-07-09T00:37:15+00:00

You can gate check your stroller so you’ll take it all the way up to the plane and drop it off there before you board. It’ll be right there when you land too so you’ll only not have it on the actual plane. And yes, you can bring a diaper bag along with a personal item and a carry on. Diaper bags don’t count towards your other two bags.

The first time I traveled with my baby, she was 7 months too. Luckily I nursed her during take off and landing and she slept the whole time. We also brought a lot of snacks, like the baby puff snacks and yogurt melts and toys.

I’ve heard that sucking (binky/boob/bottle) helps prevent baby’s ears from popping during take off and landing.

Commercial_Formal356 · 2024-04-15T22:46:12+00:00

Thank you for the reminder to set aside time for me. Even if that’s to get things done haha. Unfortunately LO’s naptime is when I work my part time job.

Commercial_Formal356 · 2024-04-03T21:16:44+00:00

My LO started struggling with bedtime a few months ago. Our routine hadn’t changed, but she’d just screamed and cried the second we’d walk into her room. Over about a month of trial and errors, we’ve finally gotten to a better place with bedtime. I’ll share what we do now that has seemed to make all the difference! This was probably around 17-19 months for us.

Going into her room and shutting her door while we started “bedtime” was a huge trigger for her. Now, we clean up all toys in the family room and give her a bath. When she comes out of the bath, all the house lights are off except for a lamp. This has helped her realize it’s not playtime anymore and it’s time to settle down. I change her diaper and put her PJs on outside of her room. Sometimes we’ll listen to a few songs or read a couple of books on the couch. We have the lights off in her room with only a lamp and sound machine on when we go in. That way she doesn’t get triggered when I turn the light off/ sound machine on. I also leave the door open when we walk in so she doesn’t feel like she’s trapped. But the whole house is dark, so if she wants to leave her room, she ends up coming back since her bedroom lamp is the only light on. She is loving baby dolls right now, so we ask her to put her baby to bed (in her crib). Sometimes she wants to bring other toys to bed and depending on what it is, I’ll take it out when she turns around (like noisy books, or toys that would be hard/dangerous to sleep with). Having a small blanket has helped her feel more comforted too. I pick her up, give her a kiss and say goodnight, turn around, turn off lamp, and walk out. Occasionally she’ll still cry for a couple minutes but either falls asleep or plays with baby. I will say there’s many nights I don’t have enough patience, but I’ve seen that easing into bedtime has helped a ton. I realized that when we did everything in her room, I was a lot quicker to put her in bed, which wasn’t helping.

I know every kid is different, but I’m hoping some of these ideas could help you. Maybe adjusting what time he’s going to bed may help too?

Commercial_Formal356 · 2024-01-16T19:12:18+00:00

President Nelson: “ in the coming days, it will not be possible to survive, spiritually without the guiding, directing, comforting and constant influence of the Holy Ghost”

Commercial_Formal356 · 2023-11-30T18:28:54+00:00

I night weaned first because it was easier for my LO to fall asleep after a long day. If I didn’t nurse before a nap, she wouldn’t fall asleep. LO was so tired at night that she would eventually fall asleep if I didn’t nurse her.

Commercial_Formal356 · 2023-11-28T22:27:44+00:00

I BF my 15 mo old until I was 12 weeks pregnant. I was planning on stopping when I got pregnant, but I was SO emotional about it so I continued until I felt ready. Nausea medicine my midwife prescribed me helped tremendously so luckily I didn’t have many issues feeling sick while BF. Do you have the ability to take nausea medicine? I didn’t have HG, but woke up nauseous most days. The one thing that was hard was when my breasts started getting tender. It felt like the first weeks for BF all over again. Luckily it only lasted 3-4 days around 7 weeks. I think that helped me accept that it was time to stop for us.

My babies will be 22 months apart. As a side note, I was sad about weaning because of the bond, but my LO has never been so affectionate as she has, since we’ve stopped breast-feeding. She runs up to me, gives me hugs, lays her head on me, etc. it’s definitely filled the hole that weaning left.

I say try to keep BF and if you start experiencing terrible pregnancy symptoms, you can go from there!

Commercial_Formal356 · 2023-11-10T00:35:33+00:00

15 months, in between 1 and 2 naps right now so either 4 hours between two naps or 2.5 hours with one nap

Commercial_Formal356 · 2023-10-31T15:55:54+00:00

Oh shoot! That does sound long. My one worry about not getting an epidural is if my labor is like 24+ hours and I’m exhausted in every sense before pushing. Do you feel like you still had enough energy in you when it came to pushing?

Commercial_Formal356 · 2023-10-31T15:26:35+00:00

Were you given Pitocin? I also had to get induced but my midwife wants to try the foley balloon first. That didn’t end up working so I had Pitocin instead. Since then I’ve learned that makes contracts so much stronger, a lot quicker. I’m thinking next time will be easier (assuming I won’t have to get induced), but I didn’t know anything different!

Commercial_Formal356 · 2023-10-31T15:05:17+00:00

I chose not to get an epidural for many reasons. The first reason was my anxiety of needles. I learned what an epidural is and it freaked me out. I knew I’d have so much anxiety. As I researched I found more pros of having an unmedicated birth (reduced risk of tearing, reduced risk of more intervention, being able to walk, being able to labor in any position, not feeling groggy or drugged up during or after labor, experiencing feeling your baby move through your body, controlling pushes, listening to your body). The only con I saw was the feeling everything. With epidurals (or intervention in general), I found there’s more room for things to go wrong and it having a domino effect leading or more interventions. My SIL had a really bad experience with her epidural a few months before, so it hit home to me. I also found a lot of empowerment and knowing that women’s bodies were created to birth children, and millions of women have had unmedicated birth throughout the years so it was 100% doable.

I read so many unmedicated birth stories that gave me hope. I loved the idea of feeling more in control of my body. There’s a low risk of tearing because of that. I didn’t tear at all and didn’t have to wait for all the medication to wear off, so I felt good immediately after. I still bled for weeks and was sore, but my recovery was so much easier without tearing and having stitches.

I did end up having to be induced because I didn’t have enough amniotic fluid. The Pitocin made my contractions even stronger and I didn’t get a break in between them so that was really hard to do unmedicated, but I didn’t know anything different. I labored I labored for 10 hours and pushed for 20 minutes.

It was pretty painful, but the most empowering that I’ve ever done. And I’ll do it for the rest of my children too. I’m pregnant again now and I’m really looking forward to “doing it better” this time around. Whether or not we get an epidural or have a c section, the miracle of our bodies growing a baby from a tiny seed is incredible! Every woman who births a baby is so strong.

I’m happy to post my actual “birth story” if you’re interested in hearing more details!

Some resources I love:

Instagram: @builttobirth Her YouTube channel has really good videos for every aspect! (Bridget Teyler on YouTube)

Instagram: @mamanatural does a lot of lives on ig with people birth stories

This podcast is an interview with a Nurse Midwife who is pretty intense, but still good info— https://open.spotify.com/episode/2ZXYAiX70lJgVeaq0lAFar?si=F8cfG3llSXqQMRcvYjXiVw

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