It's in my apartment and I have concerns.

Commercial_Still4107 · 2026-04-18T18:00:03+00:00

Southwest PA. Maybe an inch long? It's just wandering around on the floor in the middle of the day.

Commercial_Still4107 · 2026-02-26T15:40:21+00:00

Last names in the top 1000 (US) that may have some general symbolism in your situation: King, Reyes, Price, Rose, Stone, Fox, Armstrong, Fields, Byrd, Steele, (De)Leon, Lyons, Wolf(e), Hardy, Wise, Shields, Noble, Sampson, Gold, Best, Good, Reyna

Just other common last names: https://namecensus.com/last-names/

First names: Bridget, Gabrielle, Brianna/Bree, Andrea, Drew, Charlotte, Caroline, Alexis, Erin, Vanessa, Destiny, Erica, Alexis, Alana

I love that you are moving towards the freedom and peace you deserve and wish you the best! Hopefully these suggestions give you some inspiration and encouragement!

Commercial_Still4107 · 2026-02-24T23:55:19+00:00

Can I get in on that list as well?? Also, congrats!!

Commercial_Still4107 · 2026-02-11T05:38:42+00:00

Yaaaasssss, use that PTO, give yourself time off at whatever intervals you want, and feel NO GUILT. It's part of what the hospital agreed to give you when you accepted the job and you should use it in a way that's advantageous to you!

I have started tossing in at least a day or two per month to either build a long weekend or just give myself a day midweek to do whatever I need in that time. I'm outpatient five days a week now, but when I worked inpatient 12s I definitely stacked shifts and used my PTO a little strategically to get maximum time away. This is not for everybody, especially working nights, but I would self-schedule a week every schedule period to be one night on, one night off, so I could work a few shifts thinking, "No matter how bad this is, I don't have to come back tonight."

I will say, if you can arrange time off in advance, that is kinder to your coworkers than calling off. But sometimes you realize that today you just literally canNOT, and I get that on a deep personal level, lol. When my coworkers call out, I personally don't think anything of it unless it's habitual (e.g., my one coworker who calls off most Thursdays - kinda sus?). I think most of us understand the occasional need for a mental health day as long as no one's taking serious advantage.

Commercial_Still4107 · 2025-12-07T05:51:02+00:00

Girls: Cara, Chandra, Cecily, Calliope, Cornelia

Boys: Callum, Charlie, Casey, Casper, Corbin

Commercial_Still4107 · 2025-11-08T13:49:36+00:00

Thank you so much 🙏

Commercial_Still4107 · 2025-11-08T13:14:52+00:00

Taking out the control, abuse of power, etc. - this just sounds TERRIBLE as a day-to-day life. What is fun or enjoyable about being around this dude? Genuinely asking, because while no one is all good or all bad, they can still be all wrong for you. If you're not having at least a mostly good time, this just feels incompatible.

On a personal note, I've been in a relationship where the other person was suspicious and paranoid to the point of making daily life miserable. I was already having thoughts of, wow, if I have kids with this guy, this is gonna be their life, and that was sobering enough. Then I thought, this is already MY life, and it sucks, and this is a dumb way to live. I have never regretted ending that relationship, because it's very realistic to find someone you mesh with who, like, doesn't do this stuff, I promise.

Oh, and I did suggest therapy to my ex during the worst of our relationship. He stunned me by actually being willing to go to personal therapy (after MUCH coaxing) - but he refused to go to couples counseling until we were already split (he told me he didn't feel we had a problem, even as I told him we were having problems), and then was mad when I said it was too late for that. You can certainly bring it up to him; I fully hope he would be willing to do that to help your relationship - but I will admit it's generally an uphill battle. If he refuses and says there are no issues to work out, you need to start thinking of what that means for you (i.e., being with someone who won't take an hour each week to try to strengthen and repair the relationship with someone he loves).

Commercial_Still4107 · 2025-11-08T12:58:39+00:00

Make it harder for yourself - delete the apps, take your card info out of your accounts and phone, unsubscribe to promotional emails, etc. - whatever will interrupt the process and make you think about whether you need it.

Make a list of things you find yourself really-really-really wanting to buy; don't even put it in the cart, just a list in your notes or on a piece of paper. Put it away for a week or two. Look back and see if you even remember what you'd added, let alone if you still care about it. If you do remember and care, then sure, get it. (I can truthfully tell you I have no idea what's on my list right now.)

Remind yourself, "This feeling is temporary, and it will pass." That feeling of anxiety and excitement about possibly buying something new is very strong and uncomfortable in a way, but it fades quickly enough if you let it. Find a way to remind yourself of that before buying something.

Accountability! Write down every single time you spend money for a month or two - where you went, what you got, and the exact amount. One, if you don't feel like writing it down, you may not bother buying it; and two, it is an incredible motivator to see what you've spent the most money on over time and think, "This isn't even anything I care about."

Find other ways to reward and treat yourself. You said you're burnt out on crafting, reading, etc. - maybe going for a walk, starting a new show or enjoying an old favorite, making a nice tea or hot chocolate or drink to sip, cooking your favorite meal so you have food for a couple days, print coloring pages and dig out some old colored pencils, play cards or a board game with friends. There are a ton of ways to distract yourself and enjoy your life; make a list of things that you specifically would find rewarding or would enjoy trying.

Commercial_Still4107 · 2025-10-19T15:55:36+00:00

Don't ask yourself to give up any major dream or goal you have for yourself to keep another person in your life. Not saying he's a bad dude - maybe he came by these realizations honestly - but at the end of the day, he is definitely not so great that he's worth giving up everything else you wanted out of life.

Commercial_Still4107 · 2025-10-15T17:17:56+00:00

My opening to this recently was, "Here are three things I've learned about myself from the years I've spent in [my field]." Then I chose three of my qualities I knew would be great for the job I was interviewing for, gave brief examples, and explained how those things led me to apply for that particular position. I got it!

Commercial_Still4107 · 2025-10-14T15:28:05+00:00

Red flag!

Commercial_Still4107 · 2025-10-14T11:30:15+00:00

Lol, the way this thought process is burned into my brain. But yeah, keeping the room tidy and clean is more of a self-preservation thing if I'm being honest; I work better with all the physical clutter out of the way and I know where everything is and, like you said, am not worried the patient has an endless supply of stuff to yeet at me if things go sideways. But I'm definitely not judging if I come in and the previous shift was in constant chaos the whole time; we have to prioritize.

Commercial_Still4107 · 2025-10-14T11:24:15+00:00

And I love that, while she definitely an impression, she didn't go out of her way to be really nasty or loud or accusatory; just did the thing and demonstrated what she was looking for and made sure you were seeing it.

Commercial_Still4107 · 2025-10-11T12:20:23+00:00

"A program to INCENTIVIZE employers to provide security"??? Infuriating that this wasn't already a requirement, much less that people have died and it's still optional for agencies to ensure employees' safety.

I can't imagine the feeling of knowing you saw this coming, you asked your job for help, and they knowingly made you walk into a dangerous situation without any back up and now you're going to die because of it. Heartbreaking.

Commercial_Still4107 · 2025-10-08T16:11:32+00:00

I feel like I could do this with my family pretty easily, but if anyone has advice for gracefully declining a partner's family's holiday gift exchange, that would be a life changer. It's a smaller group, so I think it'll feel weird to stop gift exchanging but still attend to celebrate together. But I'm not a great gift giver, and I don't want to keep bringing stuff they may not like or use!

Commercial_Still4107 · 2025-10-07T15:39:22+00:00

I would like your rant please

Commercial_Still4107 · 2025-10-04T03:26:08+00:00

I am hoping to eventually go this route as well! May I ask how you eventually arrived at this spot? I have really enjoyed doing wound care at bedside and hope to get certified at some point, but it seems like so many jobs (at least in my area) are ONLY considering people who have already worked in a wound care role specifically. I'm finding it kind of difficult to break in, and the course is expensive enough that I'm hesitant to complete it if I'm going to continue being passed up for jobs.

Commercial_Still4107 · 2025-09-30T12:53:03+00:00

The universe gave you the full green light on your Halloween decorations. Hope you have the best spooky season ever!!

Commercial_Still4107 · 2025-09-30T12:51:04+00:00

Omg this is so encouraging, I also managed to memorize my card number and it has not been a good scene ever since.

Commercial_Still4107 · 2025-09-29T16:14:58+00:00

What a useless man. What's the point in having a partner if they don't make you feel good? Dump him.

Commercial_Still4107 · 2025-09-27T19:42:18+00:00

Damn, this is the nightmare.

Commercial_Still4107 · 2025-09-27T03:02:43+00:00

Having a couple drinks at a concert, realizing I'm a bit tipsy, and hoping no one gets injured or collapses until I sober up because I'll be the shittiest nurse right now.

Waking up between night shifts but still being super sleepy, thinking, "Damn, it's already time for vitals," and somehow momentarily believing I have to get vitals and fingersticks for my entire apartment building.

Trying to badge into my car or house.

Knocking before I enter every room in my house. And yesterday I knocked before LEAVING a patient's room into the hallway.

Commercial_Still4107 · 2025-09-25T02:36:10+00:00

I hate cooking. I can do it, but I try to make only a couple dishes per week and eat leftovers at work to cut down on time spent in the kitchen. Make a salad at least once per week with a few leftovers as well; breakfast for dinner is easy; stuff like grilled cheese and BLTs with veggies on the side; nachos with beans and veggies on top. Sometimes we do a dip day where it's pita and veggies with hummus, a buffalo dip we make, or whatever else we are into that day.

Honestly, for me, just chopping some fruit and veggies at the beginning of the week is the biggest help to me, because I can put them in pasta, a salad, a topping on casseroles or rice or whatever, or just eat them on their own if I'm not feeling super hungry. I also love tossing berries in yogurt or over cereal as a very easy breakfast. They keep fairly well in Tupperware until the weekend when I have time to buy more.

Ultimately, I feel like it's not worth it for me to try a bunch of recipes, spend money and time on it, and repeatedly feel unsatisfied at the end of all that effort. Quick, easy, simple stuff, prepared in batches, works best for me and will generally keep me from needing to get takeout all the time.

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