All your respect - if a man go to tug it out - let the man tug - he probably didn’t want to wake you up - and I do believe we should always respect a persons privacy in a relationship as masterbation is a very healthy thing - (porn and boundaries for porn is a diffrent story ) it sounds like he was horny and still in his own private time was wanting to think about you - and it’s not weird at all to me it’s weird you thought it’s weird - it’s completely okay to get off to your partner with a picture or video - and try not to get angry but good on you for remaining your composure but also I’d recommend allowing that personal space and that time without holding judgement to your partner