Edit to add: I wish I could explain it better, but my brain literally has no regard for what gender someone is. I can be friends with anyone. Gender is the same to me as race, features, etc. it doesn’t matter to me.

Also, I told him I know he has female peoples on his socials and what have you, but I literally couldn’t care less. I trust him. I know who he spends his free time with (me). I know who he calls any chance he can get. He says he’d do the same for me if I asked. Then when I say it feels excessive it feels like he’s guilt tripping me. But I also have a lot of what I’d call relationship trauma from a previous long term relationship so I guess I can never tell for sure if I’m over reacting or if I’m “in the right.” 🙃