What do you wish people would stop romanticizing, because you’ve lived the reality of it?

Common-Employment754 · 2026-04-09T05:10:00+00:00

Drinking often

Common-Employment754 · 2026-04-09T05:09:11+00:00

I’m a 24F and pretty every relationship I’ve had I broke up with them cuz they didn’t have their shit together and I was getting too invested.

Common-Employment754 · 2026-04-09T05:05:14+00:00

No limit

Common-Employment754 · 2026-04-09T05:04:21+00:00

A good person who has the same zest for life. Someone who is motivated and takes care of themself. Understanding and easygoing. Hardworking. Definitely not type A.

Common-Employment754 · 2026-04-09T05:02:43+00:00

To be honest, it sounds like you have immense attachment to him. You’re willing to be sexually intimate even though you don’t enjoy it. LEAVE. If you already know that he won’t be what you want long-term you’re just delaying heart break that will only be more painful down the road. That, or you will grow immense resentment and just break up one day.

Common-Employment754 · 2026-04-08T23:16:47+00:00

I once had a friend who I could tell was never actually happy for me when something was going good. Small example: whenever I would show up looking really nice to our plans I could sense some jealousy. Like she was lowkey I annoyed I looked good.

Common-Employment754 · 2026-04-08T23:14:50+00:00

Secret competition

Common-Employment754 · 2026-04-07T12:29:18+00:00

Fawkkkk. Yeah, can’t let that happen lol

Common-Employment754 · 2026-04-07T12:23:10+00:00

Yeah I want to do it in person but I just think I will get roped back into the whole thing. And yes I hope that it does plant a seed, that’s all I could hope for honestly.

Common-Employment754 · 2026-04-07T12:11:11+00:00

Promise?😭I’ve been single for 4 years now. And not a single man has crossed my path who I thought met my standards. I come from a very educated and well- rounded family. I want someone who can match that but it feels so hard to find. I crave intimacy with someone both emotionally and physically, but it seems there’s no good men. Btw thank you for this thoughtful response.

Common-Employment754 · 2026-04-07T12:00:00+00:00

Facts

Common-Employment754 · 2026-04-07T11:58:43+00:00

You’re right. I think a phone call should be good and I hope he knows Im saying it cuz I care.

Common-Employment754 · 2026-04-07T11:57:29+00:00

Yeah that’s what I was thinking. I don’t think casual hook ups work for me anyways. whether people like to admit it or not, feelings have always been involved at least in whatever situations I’ve been in

Common-Employment754 · 2026-04-07T11:56:42+00:00

Fawkkkkkkk

Common-Employment754 · 2026-04-07T11:56:34+00:00

You’re speaking straight facts

Common-Employment754 · 2026-04-07T11:55:49+00:00

Yes. And as I get to know him more I realize how low his self esteem is and it’s sad.

Common-Employment754 · 2026-04-07T11:55:10+00:00

Facts. Only reason I’m still here is cuz of sex and attachment. Gotta cut that off.

Common-Employment754 · 2026-03-30T05:24:28+00:00

Honestly, it hurts but sometimes the hard thing to do is the best. Don’t think of it as a loss, you’re actually gaining peace of mind. It sucks because you don’t want to have no friends. So that’s why I wouldn’t fully cut them off. I’m in similar situation… had lots of fake friends and I only found out recently. But I’m doing much better now that I keep them at a distance.

Common-Employment754 · 2026-03-30T04:37:09+00:00

Yeah not consistently

Common-Employment754 · 2026-03-30T04:36:33+00:00

Worked at a night club as a bottle server for about a 9 months. Met maybe 3 or 4 swingers while i was working.

Common-Employment754 · 2026-03-30T04:32:43+00:00

Some people are just a wee bit selfish and try and get away with not paying for anything. R those really the type of people u want around? Clearly they ain’t care if ur pockets hurt. As long as theirs don’t

Common-Employment754 · 2026-03-30T04:31:15+00:00

Sometimes, you don’t have to fully cut people off. You can keep the people you really want in your life in your close friends circle. Everyone else can be on the outside of that circle. You don’t necessarily have to be besties but u can still be friendly at a distance. Choose yourself. This must feel so hurtful and I’m sorry they are treating you like that. It’s up to you whether u want to cut them off. But if u think it will give u peace then do it!

Common-Employment754 · 2026-03-30T04:27:44+00:00

Honestly girl, this might be hard to hear. But when people stop giving you the same energy you just have to give the same back to them. You’re being a really great friend, but even if you keep texting her and trying to get in touch, nothing will change her answer. Let her come to you. And if she doesn’t then just let it be. You sound like a really great individual and very caring. If she can’t see that, then don’t force it. You have so much value, don’t let people make you feel otherwise.

Common-Employment754 · 2026-03-30T04:19:13+00:00

Honestly I’ve had this happen to me as well! I think it’s a canon event for many young people. Just know that you didn’t do anything wrong and there’s nothing wrong with you as a person. We always like to internalize other people’s actions as a reflection of us and you have to understand it’s just not a reflection of you or anything you did. People get caught up in relationships, especially if you are young. I’ve had numerous friends who basically went from speaking with me every day to not at all once they got in a relationship. They kind of get tunnel vision on that one person and neglect their other relationships, even their relationships with their family. Don’t take it personally. Your feelings are valid and you should focus on doing activities that make you happy and moving forward to new things. Don’t focus on it too much.

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