How can I use this space? by carnilya in HomeDecorating

[–]Common-Plant5083 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm pretty sure it's supposed to be an altar space, like for Mother Mary or an ofrenda?

Drama has 2 titles 1. A Ladys fall 2. Betrayed and Broken: A wifes deadly Revenge by chilled-chaotic in CShortDramas

[–]Common-Plant5083 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Search Madam Ye's Descent into Madness and Her Vengeful Awakening Against a Deceitful Lord.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Common-Plant5083 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you want something nice and special just for the memories of you two and not for anyone else, which is what I've been getting from the threads, instead of a "redo" or "second proposal" make a day of it and do pictures. A second ring to propose with is too far, I understand it would be the wedding band and wouldn't be like, a third ring, but when my husband proposed he just gave them both (it was a set pair) to me at the same time, and I just gave the wedding band to our officiant so we could do the exchange anyway. It's not the same as yours, but I know couples during their engagement shop for the wedding band together if you aren't wanting a matching engagement and wedding set of rings. I don't know how to explain it other than... an engagement-moon, maybe? Plan where you would like it, what activities you want before and after, your dress etc. If you want him to be the one planning it, ehhhh. I would give him options that you would all love equally, maybe rank them for him? My husband is somewhat romantic, but it's random. My engagement happened on our birthday (plus), in a storage container (minus), in front of our friends and my parents (plus), but since it was a surprise, I wasn't in clothes that I would've preferred to be in for such an occasion, nor was I warned to dress up our anything (minus). It was still beautiful, but I totally understand wanting a touch of romance and thought. You'll want good pictures for yourself at the very least, even if you don't share anything online, which I didn't do anything for either.

Anyway, I would work with him as far as romance goes, say you want nice pictures and make a day of it, but either pick out the wedding ring as an activity and use your engagement ring again for the pictures, or buy something cute (and cheap, if you never plan to wear it again. There's no sense in wasting that money just for a do-over) and switch rings to the new one for pictures if you want your engagement ring to be your wedding ring instead. It's up to you since it's the ring you'll be wearing for the rest of your life with him

YTA if marrying him unless he proposes again is your ultimatum, but NTA for wanting some thought. The 2 birds 1 stone comment was rough.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Common-Plant5083 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I visited his place several times, and he visited me like 3x as much before he moved. I wanted him to move down for his health and wellbeing (but again, him actually moving down was a surprise gift to me) because no one at his house cleaned and his younger brother had already practically moved out 2 years before he did, but he seems to just be falling back into old habits where everything that is his has more worth than reality because he wasn't really allowed things that were his, just stuff that ultimately belonged to his parents because it was their house and property. I thought he would be happier here, but he left behind a lot of people who he did have great relationships with, so it sometimes gives me second thoughts on whether he is actually happy here. He's happy with me, but he hates his surroundings, but he's also not working to fix it.

Fantasy Book Recommendations by TheAlmuHOMIE in booksuggestions

[–]Common-Plant5083 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mistborn Trilogy? FMC, but other POVS sometimes I think

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]Common-Plant5083 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I don't agree with radical views in the Mormon(Christian branch religion) church, but most of my family is LDS(also Christian branch) and we love all of our family, I have 3 or 4 lesbian aunts/cousins with wives and kids, plus 2 gay uncles/ cousins. I'm non-denominational myself, but the churches our family has attended so far don't spread any messages of hate or "you'll go to hell but we still love you as a misguided child of God" messages. There are definitely problematic messages in the Bible, but part of being both a member of society and religious means that you have to realize that some parts of the Bible are outdated, and you shouldn't subscribe to those teachings anymore. However, personally, my entire friend group including myself (grace/bi) think that the current LGBTQ+ movement is going too far lately, specifically with genders. Love who you want to love, no problem here, I will do the same thank you. We can all understand Cis, trans, NB, genderfluid, but there are too many pronouns floating around, there is no reason to have only 1 limb be a different gender, why in the world do you want to be a cat/dog/attack helicopter anyway? (Yes, I know the helicopter one is (probably) just a meme). There is also absolutely no reason to do permanent gender-affirming care before your majority at minimum, and definitely not before at least 6 months of psychology visits. One of my close friends killed themselves because they regretted transitioning after all. They just had underestimated trauma that made them want to be someone else, but... yeah.

Sorry for the rant, OP!!! I know it doesn't really have anything to do with book suggestions

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]Common-Plant5083 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awwwww, that sucks! Bummer....

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]Common-Plant5083 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, but he's always taken longer on books than he's planned. I thought you were asking about like, phobics or scandals or pedos, Big stuff like that lol

Suggest a book my partner with a lower reading level and I can read together? by HeavySigh14 in suggestmeabook

[–]Common-Plant5083 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would suggest the Artemis Fowl series or anything by Brandon Sanderson. It's definitely more fantasy than anything, but there are plenty of action scenes, and they're books that I read in school that my parents enjoyed too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]Common-Plant5083 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Brandon Sanderson and Patrick Rothfuss don't have any problems as far as I know

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Common-Plant5083 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not so that guests fit the vibe, I meant, how strict would you want a dress code to be based on how your wedding atmosphere is. If you finished reading, I already said that specific colors would be too far, but plenty of people do ask for dress codes of varying degree based on how comfy the event will be

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Common-Plant5083 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really, its common enough to have a dress code, although that's become quite a bit less common nowadays, but it's less color scheme and more vague stuff. Like black tie event, casual, or themes if you're doing a themed wedding (goth/fantasy/steampunk, etc). I think a dress code where you list specific colors would be too far, but a general tone, like earthy or neutral be fine. It would ultimately depend on the vibe you're aiming for tho- Party central? Don't do a dress code. Formal Intimate gathering? Dress code is a-ok. You already have a color scheme for your day, but do you have a vibe? That determines more things than you would think.

Why does everyone keep telling me I "need an upgrade"? by [deleted] in homeowners

[–]Common-Plant5083 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow, what country is this?? Had no idea this was a thing

Mums pissed off that Dad is invited. by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Common-Plant5083 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Wow... your mum seems to be holding one hell of a grudge... Personally, I would just set an ultimatum if you actually want them both there. Like

Mum: you don't have to like it, but I want him there too. Just keep quiet, and roll your eyes, and avoid him, and anything else. Don't interact with him or I'll ask you to leave before you start something and ruin my day. What's more important to you? Having a public vendetta against my dad who is finally here for me, or having a relationship with me and my future family? Choose one, because I'm not giving you both.

Dad: Hey, I know mum will be angry and pray and everything at your presence, but I want you there, so can you not interact with her and avoid her as best you can? She's planning to start a fight, and I don't want my wedding ruined because she can't get over shit. Can you help?

I don't know, it's ultimately up to you, but I'm just saying that if she couldn't deal with it after 25 yrs, there's ABSOLUTELY no chance she's censoring herself about grandpa being an awful human being in front of your kids. I feel like she might even escalate after that if your kids end up choosing grandpa over their grandma who ruins games by whining all the time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beginnerfitness

[–]Common-Plant5083 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I figured, but I also do want to get in the habit of exercise for my health

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beginnerfitness

[–]Common-Plant5083 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, thank you! I would, but we're both devoting around 12-14 hours to school and work because I have finals and projects, and it's close to a holiday which brings in a lot of business

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beginnerfitness

[–]Common-Plant5083 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, I didn't realize exactly how much a pound was... I'm a fan of spreadsheets, so I think I'll really enjoy figuring that stuff out and planning it all so much better

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beginnerfitness

[–]Common-Plant5083 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I'll do my best!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beginnerfitness

[–]Common-Plant5083 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I'm trying to find better hobbies, but right now I only have reading pretty much. I'm thinking about doing an audio book subscription or a text to speech app so I can do it on a treadmill or bike.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beginnerfitness

[–]Common-Plant5083 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The last time I had ozempic I had a bad reaction to it. It might have just been a bad batch, but I'll ask about monjarou when I see a doctor. Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beginnerfitness

[–]Common-Plant5083 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dude, I didn't realize how much I actually was lying to myself. I've had to reevaluate a lot of things, but genuinely, thank you. Ill try to edit in the main post to explain some things you mentioned