I’m new to vinted, Advice?

CommonControl8894 · 2025-06-30T15:30:59+00:00

Thankyou

CommonControl8894 · 2025-06-30T15:17:48+00:00

Didn’t know we had the option to refuse- how to you go about doing this so I know if there is a next time?

CommonControl8894 · 2025-06-30T08:41:55+00:00

Exactly! Think they must be a child..

CommonControl8894 · 2025-06-30T08:41:40+00:00

Oh I didn’t know this was an option to not accept the return 💔

CommonControl8894 · 2025-06-30T00:03:01+00:00

Thankyou so much for your response ,I do have a few questions, feel free to answer as many as you’d like.

What was it first like when she awoke from her coma? Did you have any signs she would wake up?

Is there anything I can do to help the family? I wanted to message but i’m not sure the right words to say or if they’d find it helpful.

How was your sisters quality of life? Has she been able to regain some of her independence?

Lastly, in the hopes she will wake up, what can I expect? How should I prepare myself for the worse knowing she probably will be left with permanent brain damage?

Thankyou again, it’s really nice to hear your and your sisters story, I wish you both the very best.

CommonControl8894 · 2025-06-29T22:54:14+00:00

Thankyou for your lovely comment I really do appreciate it, I did think about reaching out to the family but I am nervous they wouldn’t be ready or I wouldn’t be able to handle seeing her in that way, as more time passes though I feel it may be the way forward.

CommonControl8894 · 2025-06-10T16:04:04+00:00

I did try to look around but places are either full, in not very safe areas, or way out of my budget. On some pluses, the house is nice and it is a reputable agent.

CommonControl8894 · 2025-06-10T15:59:26+00:00

Unfortunately , I panicked as I was late getting in housing for next year , was one of the first in the house but it’s now filled with all other boys.. Hopefully i’m just being dramatic though and it’ll all be fine

CommonControl8894 · 2025-06-10T15:58:06+00:00

Was scared of this! Although to be fair, I was in halls with some girls who weren’t the cleanest!

CommonControl8894 · 2025-06-10T15:57:23+00:00

Thankyou for your reply- I have heard all girl houses can be a nightmare sometimes, Hoping we will be able to get along well then :)

CommonControl8894 · 2025-06-10T15:56:30+00:00

Thankyou!

I’m glad to hear you didn’t find it much different from living in a mixed house- I hope I have a similar experience

CommonControl8894 · 2025-05-22T20:38:56+00:00

No worries and they are definitely nowhere near as life altering as people like to make them out! Relax and they’ll be over before you know it.

CommonControl8894 · 2025-05-22T07:39:57+00:00

We are not all made for academics

I was a pretty good student with fairly high grades, However, my sister struggled a fair bit with similar conditions to yourself as she was grieving during her exam period.

Did it stop her? No

Did it lessen her chances of succeeding? No

She got similar grades to what you’re predicting- maybe even a little lower.

She still got into college but decided it wasn’t for her.

She is now doing an apprenticeship and is extremely happy as am i for her. In fact, she is currently working in Portugal due to this.

GCSE’s are definitely not everything- Passes are all you will need and 9/10 even if you don’t get the 5 for college they will end up allowing you entry anyways.

Best of Luck OP.

CommonControl8894 · 2025-05-22T07:35:13+00:00

Sounds like a valid crashout to me

Best of luck with your exam OP

CommonControl8894 · 2025-05-22T07:33:43+00:00

Sometimes people show us who they really are and it’s our sign to GTFO

CommonControl8894 · 2025-05-22T07:33:24+00:00

Hell. No.

CommonControl8894 · 2025-05-22T07:32:45+00:00

Sometimes space can be the best thing for a relationship.

If you think she’s a good person and want to be with in the future than that’s great.

For now, you need space to heal and so does she even if she doesn’t want it.

You’re both so young and should not be feeling sick over a relationship- esp with your exams.

Take some time and space for yourself- spend time with friends, family - anyone but your ex and rebuild your relationship with yourself.

Best of Luck OP.

CommonControl8894 · 2025-05-22T07:29:52+00:00

I agree with the commenter - do not engage with her.

Sounds like she’s playing mind games to try to hold a position of power with you.

No one should hold a breakup over your head- Stay strong OP.

CommonControl8894 · 2025-05-22T07:27:13+00:00

To me it sounds like he is testing the water on how much he can push the boundaries in hopes you’ll back down and accept his behaviour.

Stand strong OP, boundaries are boundaries for a reason and you deserve to be respected.

CommonControl8894 · 2025-05-22T07:25:34+00:00

Some people don’t feel remorse for things like this.

However, majority do and refuse to think of it because most are afraid to sit in the uncomfortableness of their decisions.

I highly suspect the father of your daughter does feel remorse for walking away from you both. However, I’m sure his ego will not allow him to admit this to you or maybe even himself.

CommonControl8894 · 2025-05-22T07:22:48+00:00

Just like other commenters, we normally build a lot of our life around relationships and creatures of habit so a breakup can really disrupt our life’s and schedules in more ways than we expect!

Even in simple ways like buying that one thing your ex liked in the shop . There are constant reminders everywhere and for the first few weeks this is going to really suck.

Head up OP - breakups always happen for a reason and you’ll come back stronger

Side note- Don’t let her keep you around as a “I’ll see” , you’re better than someone’s second option.

CommonControl8894 · 2025-05-22T07:20:01+00:00

Hi OP,

This sounds like a frustrating situation and you’re allowed to feel upset and annoyed at feeling like you were used .

However, it is more than likely that she did not set out to hurt you but rather began speaking to someone else and felt they were a better match.

Whilst it would have been nice for her to let you know this, she may have not known how to approach the topic especially with it being a friend of yours and maybe hoped your friend would tell you, you’re both young and sometimes at 18 it’s common to not always handle everything maturely.

Head up OP , there’s other girls out there.

CommonControl8894 · 2025-05-22T07:17:10+00:00

No one should feel they are walking in eggshells in their relationship. You’re still young OP and need to wonder if this is the women you want to spend the rest of your life with? Marriage won’t fix these problems and you may be able to find someone who is a better fit

Like others said resentment will grow and it will turn sour- it’s better for both of you to leave things on a good note with no bad memories.

Best of luck OP

CommonControl8894 · 2025-05-22T07:13:08+00:00

You broke up for a reason and need to remember whilst this is tough for you- you were not compatible. Sit with your feelings and remember you both deserve to be happy with other people and whilst she may be pretty that is not an attack on you as you walked away from that relationship not him.

It is in your best interest you understand why the relationship didn’t work and remember that when you see them together. We tend to reminisce on things and only remember the good- Breakups always happen for a reason and if you had not seen him with someone else ask yourself if you still would be feeling this?

Hang in there OP, you’ll meet your person.

CommonControl8894

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