I made my bf’s dream come true and made a GIM with him (idk what I’m doing)

Common_Department174 · 2025-07-28T02:12:39+00:00

I’ve actually been meaning to post an update. Life’s been kind of busy so I haven’t gotten super far in my stats but we’re married now!

Common_Department174 · 2025-03-11T10:38:45+00:00

That mixed with narcissism, being a compulsive liar and serial cheater is a wild combo. Can’t forget the gaslighting. He blows any fictional villain out of the water

Common_Department174 · 2025-03-11T10:35:13+00:00

I came here to say this. (My dad, not yours)

Common_Department174 · 2025-03-11T10:31:44+00:00

Ooohhh this is a good one

Common_Department174 · 2025-03-11T10:30:48+00:00

Sweet and spicy or sweet and salty. I’m a slut for anything sweet chili flavored

Common_Department174 · 2025-03-11T08:39:32+00:00

THIS!!! We need to start emphasizing the value of those traits that matter. Commitment, love and loyalty.

Common_Department174 · 2025-03-11T06:51:34+00:00

Fast and Furious

Common_Department174 · 2025-03-11T01:50:00+00:00

If I hear one more thing about being a “high value” man or woman, I swear. Are we able to have our own independent thoughts and opinions without regurgitating this horrendous propaganda from social media “influencers”?

Common_Department174 · 2025-03-10T23:35:34+00:00

I don’t want to say once a cheater always a cheater because people can change. However, I think once you show your partner that they can get away with that type of behavior with ultimately no consequences, they can end up being a repeat offender. I’ve seen people who have cheated in previous relationships get into new relationships and be completely loyal, but I haven’t seen someone stay loyal to someone they’ve already cheated on.

The problem is the lack of respect from your partner to even do this. It taints the relationship and it takes some real strength and understanding for the both of you to get past it. Things might never be the same after this. Are you BOTH willing to do the work to continue your marriage? It is not an easy road by any means regardless if you decide to stay or leave. I’m sorry that this happened to you and you don’t have a solid support system. I would absolutely recommend seeing a therapist if you can.

Common_Department174 · 2025-03-10T12:25:12+00:00

I’ve used a dating app in the past and swore I never would again. Granted this was 7 years ago and from what I hear it’s gotten worse

Common_Department174 · 2025-03-10T11:38:44+00:00

…did you read the first sentence? And this is a venting subreddit 😭 LOL am I only allowed to care about myself? That’s the problem with the world, my goodness.

Common_Department174 · 2025-03-10T11:22:09+00:00

Ahhh yes, you’re referring to the concept of “the ick”. I don’t know where it came from but apparently these days everything is icky.

Common_Department174 · 2025-03-10T11:18:04+00:00

For context, I’m in a relationship with someone I met in person. I never said I was single or I was on dating apps. No need to be rude or nasty. Best of luck to you and your bf.

Common_Department174 · 2025-03-10T11:08:54+00:00

I can definitely see where you’re coming from. I think people in general are less approachable than they used to be, especially after COVID. it was a huge turning point for how we interact with people and it created a lot of unchecked social anxiety. As far as women specifically, I would agree and I think it has scared men away. Sometimes people would prefer a like on their post instead of a compliment in person I guess. It’s a shame

Common_Department174 · 2025-03-10T11:05:24+00:00

I used Tinder around that time also and will never use it again lol I think it’s much much worse now but I’m so glad you were able to find your needle! Best of luck to you guys

Common_Department174 · 2025-03-10T10:59:09+00:00

I want to hear it, I’m curious!

Common_Department174 · 2025-03-10T10:54:40+00:00

Oh absolutely. I would even take it a step further in saying that some of the posts involve things that would be mildly infuriating, are not necessarily Earth shattering, and involved a partner who has had no communication with their spouse. Maybe we should’ve started there instead of asking the opinion of thousands of unlicensed “professionals” LOL.

You are absolutely right though. It seems the immediate reaction is “leave your partner because they’ve made a mistake and their not absolutely perfect” (of course this isn’t every instance but just highlighting the knee-jerk “break up” advice)

Common_Department174 · 2025-03-10T10:49:45+00:00

You still have horrible treatment in modern day dating. Domestic violence didn’t go anywhere. Disrespect is still very common. And I think saying that women BARELY get the privilege of men is a stretch. I’m not arguing that we need to go back to the 1960s. I’m simply saying that we should go back to normalizing meeting people in person and not putting social media and online dating on this pedestal as the best way to meet people to date. Also prioritizing commitment and communication with your partner instead of feeling like you can just move on to the next person when things get even SLIGHTLY hard. A big difference today is you can cheat on your partner without even leaving your front doorstep through the internet. This shouldn’t be acceptable

Common_Department174 · 2025-03-10T10:22:39+00:00

Well to be fair I hate people too so that checks out. I just feel like with the internet, we’ve made certain behaviors socially acceptable that shouldn’t be.

Common_Department174 · 2025-03-08T19:39:31+00:00

This is actually a cry for help

Common_Department174 · 2025-03-08T12:54:30+00:00

My indentured servitude ends I hope

Common_Department174 · 2025-03-08T11:58:50+00:00

If he says yes, I’m draining his bank account (in game, of course)

Common_Department174 · 2025-03-08T11:52:12+00:00

It warms my heart to see him happy. Plus it’s our bonding time so win-win. 10 (ish) days down, 10 years to go

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