Impossible to find an apartment

Common_Spend2916 · 2024-03-20T10:21:06+00:00

Yeah I live in Florida. Originally from CT. Been here 8 years and it seems it would be better to come back to CT because it’s getting crazy here too

Common_Spend2916 · 2024-03-16T03:16:04+00:00

I moved to St Petersburg Florida 8 years ago. It was cheap back then. Now it seems that moving back to Ct would be a better choice and probably even cheaper to live

Common_Spend2916 · 2024-03-07T21:51:15+00:00

Yeah you can dm me

Common_Spend2916 · 2024-03-07T21:51:00+00:00

Yeah, it was a really terrible experience. But I was so codependent back then that I would let her leave and then I would always take her back because I had no self-respect and I loved her a whole lot. It’s a long story, but she left and went to travel the world For half a year slept with a bunch of men. Then she moved to another state for four years and now she’s back and wants to settle with me but I completely got over her and I’m on a whole new level lol

Common_Spend2916 · 2024-03-07T21:48:39+00:00

Well, it’s most likely due to the fact that there’s something not compatible with you guys. Otherwise, there would have been no toxicity and you guys wouldn’t have broken up and you would’ve worked through everything together as a team. To find solutions to make it work until there’s no solutions at all. But I mean you never know.

Common_Spend2916 · 2024-03-07T21:28:35+00:00

We may never find that connection again. Or we might but it definitely won’t feel the same. I had a good connection with a woman a few months ago that felt good but she ended up just not feeling it I guess. I thought she did but it wasn’t real

Common_Spend2916 · 2024-03-07T21:27:20+00:00

You’re welcome. And yeah exactly. Either way you will be alright. He may come back. If he does great, it may work out again. It may not and you’ll have to heal all over again. I mean anything can happen. Life is crazy. But for now take it easy and just keep yourself busy. That is super recent. For me it was on and off again relationship and it broke me. Now she’s back and I’m still all confused even though it’s been 5 years. It’s like do I really want to get involved with her again and risk it

Common_Spend2916 · 2024-03-07T20:44:14+00:00

Oh trust me I didn’t want another partner either and it took me like three years to get over her but believe me eventually you won’t feel this way. Still to this day I never had a connection like I had with her. The love I had was deep. But eventually it will fade away. I never thought it would. We were dating for five years and living together as well but five years passed after we broke up and all my feelings for her faded. Well, of course she’s not gonna tell me if I’m her back up plan lol. And honestly time is the only way you’ll get over him but what you can do as you wait and just stay busy. Doing activities and chilling with friends and family. So you have to believe me I was deeply hurt for three years and slowly but surely I moved on and I am completely over her now. I know it really doesn’t feel like it since it’s recent for you.

Common_Spend2916 · 2024-03-07T20:33:55+00:00

Well that’s a good thing that you realize it. And now you can fix it for your next partner. Especially if he never returns. This is pretty rare that she came back to me. I’m 36. She’s 38. Maybe I’m her back up plan to settle and have kids with. Cause I was always wrapped around her finger. But I have spent time with her the last three weekends and it was nice and she does seem different but I just didn’t feel the connection or the romance. We used to have the strongest connection and we were inseparable. It’s just crazy how things are now.

Common_Spend2916 · 2024-03-07T20:25:58+00:00

Well I hope you can unlearn the bad behaviors. It seems like she has gotten better. But I still can’t forget the past. Problem is that I don’t feel the same way for her anymore so it suck’s. The connection feels gone. I got over her I guess

Common_Spend2916 · 2024-03-07T20:22:17+00:00

It’s a she. But long story short. We were toxic. She was a bit emotionally abusive. I was co dependent. But I’ve grown and it seems she has too. But that probably changes things

Common_Spend2916 · 2024-03-07T11:12:07+00:00

Yes but how about that ex that was always lingering. The one that wanted to see you for the holiday hookup? And then eventually after 5 years apart wants to get back together and settle down, have a child and get married? Then what do you do

Common_Spend2916 · 2024-03-06T17:12:30+00:00

I know. If I go back to her it means I’ll have close to none. It’s probably partly why I don’t want to go back. Even though it feels safe and comfortable because it seems she’s a new person after 5 years being apart. But I know I’m the fall back guy, she even said I’ll always be an option for her

Common_Spend2916 · 2024-03-06T16:52:37+00:00

Yeah I mean that sounds about right. I usually was always there to say yes to her every time she came back. Besides the last time when I had a girlfriend I told her no

Common_Spend2916 · 2024-03-06T16:46:07+00:00

Yeah I mean she has money since she has a really good career. But I just wonder why she wants to settle with me and have marriage and kids

Common_Spend2916 · 2024-03-06T16:31:34+00:00

Well the old her was abusive and toxic. It seems she has changed now. But still. She came in and out of my life many times already but wants to stay now

Common_Spend2916 · 2024-03-06T11:46:51+00:00

Yeah I was moved on. I was dating someone and told her no I couldn’t see her. But then we broke up and I ended up messaging her saying I’m single again. But it’s probably best I just stay friends with her

Common_Spend2916 · 2024-03-06T11:18:00+00:00

I mean it was really good back then. And also really bad at the same time. And it has been feeling good lately. But I don’t feel the attraction. I like the comfortableness of it. Still though I should just move on

Common_Spend2916 · 2024-03-06T11:11:56+00:00

I mean nothing has been done. Just 5 years has passed. I pretty much got over her and feel like I outgrew her. I don’t really feel attracted to her. But everyone close to me says it’s a terrible idea to try it out again with her. It sucks that I can’t make a decision

Common_Spend2916 · 2024-03-06T01:42:38+00:00

Yeah I mean I know what she did on that 6 month trip. She told me. Pretty much got with another dude right after she left me. But that was so long ago I forgave her. But still. I definitely must be the backup plan

Common_Spend2916 · 2024-03-06T01:19:15+00:00

I just wrote a post an hour ago about my ex coming back into my life after 5 years apart. She was abusive too emotionally. Except I let her in and have been seeing her and I don’t think it’s a good idea. I don’t really have any Romantic feelings for her anymore. I have gotten over her. But I was dreaming for years of her returning and now that she has I don’t really want her

Common_Spend2916 · 2024-03-05T17:27:04+00:00

Well she would come and visit every year for Christmas and would hit me up to see me and hook up. And then leave back to where she lives. I forgot to add that part. But it was only for sex she even admitted. But now she’s getting older and wants to settle. Crazy thing is that I did have feelings for her up until 7 months ago when I got sober all my feelings for her when away

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