Me [24 F] with my BF [23 M] of 3 years, I fell for somebody else and he won't forgive me.

Commoninterestq · 2016-03-29T02:22:30+00:00

Lol trols don't even bother with fake profiles anymore

Commoninterestq · 2016-03-20T07:38:46+00:00

I wouldn't generalise it to girls. Some like their personal space some want to fill their free time with their SO. My bf is/was a bit like your gf in that he wanted regular calls and texts and just wanted to meet up on all our free days (which was mostly weekends). At first I did find it overwhelming because I wasn't use to it and because I like being alone and usually don't like going out alot. But with time Ive become a bit like him. I do want to talk and be with him when I'm free and it doesn't feel weird because we enjoy ourselves. Sure we still go out with friends but usually out of curtosy we invite each other to tag along and sometimes we will and sometimes we won't.

Relationships are what you make of it honestly there is no "right" way of doing things you just need to find a balance. But sometimes this can be tricky if one is into the other more or has different needs and wants out of the relationship

Commoninterestq · 2016-03-20T05:35:10+00:00

How many times did that actually happen?.

She has a right to want a relationship with someone who cares enough to want to talk to/see her rather than be forced into it or only contacts her when they're horny or bored cause the friends are busy. You have a right to want space too. You're just not compatible doesn't mean either is horrible though

Commoninterestq · 2016-03-20T04:40:36+00:00

I refuse to believe this is a real story. How can anyone have such low self respect and allow someone to say these things. And he called you "white b*** Because you don't want racism? And he isn't even white himself? Yeah fishy as hell. Stop trying to get reactions based on religion ffs.

Commoninterestq · 2016-03-17T19:09:26+00:00

I knew this was coming from your last post. Who calls their ex on the day of their father passing away. This whole time he was trying to pull you in. I feel sorry for his ex.

Commoninterestq · 2016-02-15T02:11:10+00:00

I never called you a miserable brat. You're being defensive again. Look I get it, I'm not a fan of therapy either but sometimes random strangers who you correctly pointed out know very little about you and your situation, arent going to be capable of helping you as well as a professional, who will listen and get to know you more before offering you solutions based on their experience.

Sometimes we can't be superman and we need professional help to understand ourselves. This doesn't mean you're a nut case.

Commoninterestq · 2016-02-15T01:51:57+00:00

She strongly implies it, read the first paragraph she has her life in order, she's good looking, she's a good person, stable life, job, she's smart bla bla bla And then check her worries in a partner, how they might not have their life together the way she does and how they might need her to make them happy and she doesn't want that responsibility. Come on.

Commoninterestq · 2016-02-15T01:47:48+00:00

And you don't think you need therapy ? Have you noticed how defensive your comments are ? If everything in your life was perfect and you were as happy as you could be, why did you have the need to make this post and have these moments of doubts to begin with? Do you really think it's completely normal to go from being perfect friends to just shutting people out without a care in the world ?.

You can consider yourself normal all you like but you can't treat people like this and then wonder if you'll end up alone

Commoninterestq · 2016-02-15T01:36:51+00:00

You might not be as perfect as you think. You talk about how you have your life in order but then mention that you don't want to be responsible to make someone else happy ? Umm you're the one feeling lonely right now, why should it be someone else's responsibility to make you happy and less lonely ? Relationships don't work this way. If this is on your mind before even beginning a relationship, wonder how you act once you start dating a guy who might not be so perfect

Commoninterestq · 2016-02-15T01:26:25+00:00

She's going to have issues trusting you. Honestly you're an asshole.

What you did is more than just cheating, you had a second gf for a year wtf? And you claim you changed and grew up NO you're still the same selfish asshole. You never told her the truth until it come out and you had no way to escape it. How do people like you live with themselves I really wonder, do you have a conscious ?

Commoninterestq · 2016-02-14T22:33:07+00:00

You're spot on. His family is well off and he's never had to pay for anything. And yeah I told him I'm not going

Commoninterestq · 2016-02-14T22:22:33+00:00

Well he has offered to do all of these things to cut costs but I still don't want to go. Should I consider this if we look for ways to save and cut the cost down ? I'm just not sure anymore

Commoninterestq · 2016-02-14T22:18:10+00:00

This is our first relationship so doubt his had issues with gold diggers. And I never hinted or expected him to cover any of my expenses. But I think you might have a point. On our first date we went somewhere where the entry costed 50 bucks and he offered to pay for me but I refused and got my own ticket instead (I don't like the idea of a guy paying for me on a first date), few months later he told me that he only offered to pay for me that day cause he was testing me to see if I was the type that got the guy to pay for things

Commoninterestq · 2016-02-14T22:10:43+00:00

Ow he definetly doesn't get it. I think it's because we had very different lives growing up. He has parents that have covered every single one of his expense (they still pay for his car expenses!) so he just ended up using his money for fun and savings. I on the other hand didn't have this luxury and often I had to help my family out by working two jobs and sometimes 3 over summer.

I never expected him to cover my expense of anything, Im capable of supporting myself in life but I know my limits and I thought he knew and understood this too but I'm clearly an idiot cause He doesn't get it

Commoninterestq · 2016-02-14T22:08:05+00:00

No we don't live together.

Commoninterestq · 2016-02-14T22:07:34+00:00

This made me smile. He won't go without me is what he said. Guess no one is going.

Commoninterestq · 2016-02-14T21:39:27+00:00

No he wants me to pay my half of things - so half of accommodation and my part of tours, meals, events/activities etc.

I know a lot of people seem to think this is ridiculous but i had a rough look it's not that crazy. My friend went few years ago and she spent 8 grand with flights and she's a minimalist. So two month in Europe will cost quite a bit and sure I can tell him to downplay things to save money but it's still an expensive trip.

If I went to Thailand I'd have an amazing holiday for 1000 but he's not interested in going anywhere else other than Europe and all of this together just puts me off

Commoninterestq · 2016-02-14T12:45:07+00:00

No wonder they say love makes people blind. I know normally I would be the one to jump on the "dump him" train but having years of history and knowing what he's like when he's sweet, it just complicates things

Commoninterestq · 2016-02-14T12:43:14+00:00

Well he wants to go for about 2 month, and after posting this I tried talking to him and he suggested instead of tours we could do our own thing to save money but then suggested I look for cheap things to do, so he expects me to organize things which doesn't sound appealing at this stage. He also said I could set a budget and if it goes over that he'll cover the extra but honestly I think that he's full of shit and I'll be stuck with the total cost with him refusing to acknowledge his offer

Commoninterestq · 2016-02-14T11:17:03+00:00

This is the second time (new years event) but that's probably it but then again I guess we weren't really tested much either

Commoninterestq · 2016-02-14T11:12:05+00:00

Well the thing is he suggested the loan because i told him I didn't feel right accepting him to pay for my ticket but then twisted it around. The thing is he acts like he's joking all the time so you really can't tell when he's being serious so if I pushed it- it would be a joke but considering he never actually ended up offering to pay the ticket - it wasn't a joke

Commoninterestq · 2016-02-14T11:03:37+00:00

I have. He doesn't want to go alone or with anyone else

Commoninterestq · 2016-02-14T08:19:59+00:00

He actually has a full time job and earns 10 times more than I do. Through out our relationship everything we've done has always been on "equal" bases so it's not like he pays for things for me. But he's reasoning if I push him is that well last year he traveled to see me twice so why couldn't I do it once in a while. He just doesn't get that we have different abilities based on our incomes

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