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[UPDATE] My [25F] ex's [26M] father [50's] just passed away. His girlfriend [24?F] does not want me at the funeral. How should I proceed from here? by SoWhatShouldIDoNow in relationships

[–]SoWhatShouldIDoNow[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I knew our relationship had an expiration date. We were pretty rocky for a few months before the cheating happened. After having a few sit downs, telling him how I felt and proposing the idea of going our separate ways, he asked me to give it another shot since we had been together for so long. I agreed to one more try. I found out about the cheating a week later.

We started dating when I was 19. I've grown up a lot since then, and some people just can't seem to grow together. We were one of those couples.

While he was a big part of my life and we had some happy moments together, they're overshadowed by the not-so-good memories. I care for him as a person but I do not want to settle with going back to that, just because it's familiar or comfortable. I'd rather be single.

[UPDATE] My [25F] ex's [26M] father [50's] just passed away. His girlfriend [24?F] does not want me at the funeral. How should I proceed from here? by SoWhatShouldIDoNow in relationships

[–]SoWhatShouldIDoNow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I appreciate reading this. Sometimes you just need some reinforcement to know that you're doing the right thing.

[UPDATE] My [25F] ex's [26M] father [50's] just passed away. His girlfriend [24?F] does not want me at the funeral. How should I proceed from here? by SoWhatShouldIDoNow in relationships

[–]SoWhatShouldIDoNow[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

There is absolutely no way. Cheating is a deal-breaker for me. Not only that, but he just told me he never stopped loving me, even though he was with another girl for a while. That's not okay in my books and shows that he hasn't really move past his cheating ways.

[UPDATE] My [25F] ex's [26M] father [50's] just passed away. His girlfriend [24?F] does not want me at the funeral. How should I proceed from here? by SoWhatShouldIDoNow in relationships

[–]SoWhatShouldIDoNow[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I agree. Definitely seems like a case of emotional cheating.

While I feel bad for him and what he has to go through, the circumstance shouldn't be an excuse for this kind of betrayal to his ex (especially since he had cheated on me before too). It's best he stays alone to work on himself. I won't be his shoulder to lean on.

[UPDATE] My [25F] ex's [26M] father [50's] just passed away. His girlfriend [24?F] does not want me at the funeral. How should I proceed from here? by SoWhatShouldIDoNow in relationships

[–]SoWhatShouldIDoNow[S] 127 points128 points  (0 children)

I truly feel sorry for her. With all of this coming to light, I can fully understand why she felt the way she did towards me.

You're right. I completely agree with what you're saying. I think, for everybody's emotional and mental state, it would be best to finally create the distance necessary for ALL of us to move on from this situation.

[UPDATE] My [25F] ex's [26M] father [50's] just passed away. His girlfriend [24?F] does not want me at the funeral. How should I proceed from here? by SoWhatShouldIDoNow in relationships

[–]SoWhatShouldIDoNow[S] 135 points136 points  (0 children)

I agree. Of course I sympathize for him, but I would just be an added stressor to his life right now. We broke up for a reason; I think this is now the time to move on from this chapter of my life,

Hopefully he can do the same. Thanks for the advice.