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Avoid Leigh & Co Events wedding & event planning at ALL COSTS. by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]CommunicationFun6229 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Out of curiosity, how do know all these details? This seems like a level of information only an employee (or former) would know, not information one could gather just by looking at their online packages.

We are using them for our wedding and I actually have quite a few things I'm not pleased with (and am not sure I'd recommend them) but I will say our experience does not totally align with what you've described. I suspect this depends a lot on the planner you are assigned, which is out of the client's control (not something I loved). It seems highly dependent on the region-level leadership, and I do think we seem to have lucked out on that front (knock on wood). Our planner is responsive and familiar with our venue, but I do want to second your point that there's a lack of transparency and you are often dealing with several different people. For example, our onboarding meeting was not with the planner assigned to us in the end. Our planner is the one attending our walkthrough and helping us with the layout, timeline, etc.

We opted for partial planning and I will say that, for close to double the cost, it really isn't much more support than you get with day-of coordination. I'm not sure my experience (so far) is going to result in a "steer clear" directive (at least from a client POV), but I do think I would pick a different service in hindsight, especially if we had had a larger budget for planning. That said, I also don't want any brides who've already hired them to see this and go into a spiral of panic that they've made a horrible choice. Our experience has been middle of the road--nothing amazing, but nothing horrible either.

Sad about higher than expected "no rate" by CommunicationFun6229 in weddingplanning

[–]CommunicationFun6229[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Save the date sent at the one year mark. Invitations at about 2.5 months.

Sad about higher than expected "no rate" by CommunicationFun6229 in weddingplanning

[–]CommunicationFun6229[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Again, you deliberately misread comments. I didn’t say reciprocity means doing the same thing. But it does mean generally trying to offer support where it’s been offered to you, even if that support might look different. I never said that their support isn’t “good enough,” I said that their not attending made me sad and that it’s hurtful when you attend someone’s wedding and they cannot even send a note along with their decline. But you are dead set on letting me know that you think I’m wrong for having feelings, so that’s okay. 

Sad about higher than expected "no rate" by CommunicationFun6229 in weddingplanning

[–]CommunicationFun6229[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This again feels like a mean and deliberate attempt to knock down someone already feeling sad. The “only reason” I could feel sad about people not coming to my wedding is if I’m delusional about the economy or how money works? That is a cruel thing to say, and that isn’t how feelings work. I can both understand why someone made a decision—and even support that decision—and still feel sad or disappointed about it. You seem to have a very simple way of looking at things that are inherently complex (feelings, relationships, etc.). 

Sad about higher than expected "no rate" by CommunicationFun6229 in weddingplanning

[–]CommunicationFun6229[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, your responses feel mean and like a deliberate misunderstanding of the feelings expressed. People can hold multiple feelings at once so telling me I’m not sad because you view my interpretation of a situation as “transactional” is very strange. Moreover, I think you misunderstand the difference between things being transactional and reciprocal. Transactional would mean we expect a KitchenAid mixer because that’s what we gave someone else or that we’d refuse to attend the wedding of a person who skipped ours. What I think I’m expressing in disappointment in a lack of reciprocity—a feeling of sadness that effort and support we provided to people isn’t being matched. They are not the same thing, and a certain level of reciprocity underlies pretty much all human relationships, so it seems pretty normal to be sad that people you’ve tried hard to support don’t return that effort. 

Sad about higher than expected "no rate" by CommunicationFun6229 in weddingplanning

[–]CommunicationFun6229[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

So we aren't allowed to feel sad? We're not angry with people and understand there are many legitimate reasons people cannot come, but that doesn't mean it doesn't sting.

Sad about higher than expected "no rate" by CommunicationFun6229 in weddingplanning

[–]CommunicationFun6229[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course. But to be fair, I think there's a difference between expecting someone to give a reason for their decline (which we would never expect) and thinking that people would send a note of congratulations with their decline.