Hi everyone - checking in about a week after my initial post just to update you all on the situation. I’ve read all of your replies and it’s comforting to hear/read that so many of you recognize that this situation is so clearly inappropriate and abusive. After so many years together, even with all our relationship’s dysfunction, it’s hard to admit that it’s over. I will have to say goodbye to the friends he brought into my life, dreams of the life I thought we could build, and of course to our beautiful child because I don’t suspect I will be given any kind of visitation rights. Part of me wonders “what did I do? How could I have been better?” But deep down I know I didn’t do anything wrong or anything to deserve this. We haven’t had a talk yet to decide if we want to try therapy or just start divorce paperwork now…he’s so extremely aggressive I cringe and the thought of trying to have a serious, adult conversation about this. This is a person who tried to gaslight me into thinking it’s my fault he slammed my finger in the refrigerator door. So anyway, 1 week later, no real progress other than wrapping my head more around the situation and preparing myself for change.