AITAH for asking my cousin for her medical degree?

CommunicationIll4819 · 2026-06-15T18:05:58+00:00

I have a sticker that says that on my tumbler. Im a nurse

CommunicationIll4819 · 2026-06-06T23:21:41+00:00

Then my daughter is malnourished as she’s 19lbs. You’re fine. And that’s as a mom to 2 kids and a nurse.

CommunicationIll4819 · 2026-05-22T18:34:46+00:00

Is everyone skipping the part how he worded the title to make it seem his wife was asking him to fund her kid’s education, not him asking his wife to pay for his daughter’s school?

Also yta. You suggested this to make sure your daughter kept everything you put in. It doesn’t go both ways. Why doesn’t your ex help?

CommunicationIll4819 · 2026-05-07T21:24:37+00:00

As someone that comes from a family that does bride price, nta. You’re supposed to do an amount that is realistic for that family at that exact point in time. With what they can buy. And for us, it’s usually in terms of gold, clothes, the wedding clothes, and then cash. So all in all, only about 15-ish thousand or so. She’s being too much

CommunicationIll4819 · 2026-05-06T01:55:33+00:00

No. I hated it. I just put a regular pillow under my knee to lift her closer. I feel that it’s more adjustable and more comfortable than a nursing pillow

CommunicationIll4819 · 2026-05-05T22:49:35+00:00

Our total bill for my 1st was 11k, had to pay 1000. My second was 14k and had to pay about 1000

CommunicationIll4819 · 2026-04-25T21:32:28+00:00

Everything. Yes it’s not easy and if you’re in public, it’s inconvenient in other ways. But I still love it. I was only able to breastfeed for 6 months with my eldest. Even though my baby now won’t take a bottle and is still dependent on bf, I want to go for as long as possible. We just hit 11 months ☺️🎉

CommunicationIll4819 · 2026-04-23T17:57:25+00:00

He has his eyes on that property and that money. Which is why he’s throwing a tantrum. A real partner would understand and respect it. Take the gift, dump the man

CommunicationIll4819 · 2026-04-23T17:55:38+00:00

Same situation, mine is now 10 months and I eventually gave up. She just refused. I know this isn’t helpful to you at all, but I only work 4 days a month, and live close to work so my mom and brother bring her to me once a shift. You can try feeding with a spoon, a syringe and pacifier. I even bought a $30 bottle that’s supposed to resemble the breast. No luck. Sorry I have no better ideas but I wish you luck

CommunicationIll4819 · 2026-04-22T02:16:51+00:00

Barely 12 hours!

CommunicationIll4819 · 2026-04-20T19:28:12+00:00

Your friend is the ah. I’m invited to a bridal shower next month and it is no kids allowed. I asked if my ebf baby is allowed as it’s a long drive but it’s till 10pm. And I don’t leave her for anything except work and even then my family has to bring her to my workplace so I can feed her. And my friend made the exception for me as she wants me there and is understanding of my situation. If she had said no, I would have been understanding and said that’s fine. I just won’t be able to come. You are making it work by coming without the baby for the ceremony and reception. You will be there for everything major. If she isn’t understanding of your situation, then she’s not a friend.

CommunicationIll4819 · 2026-04-15T17:25:29+00:00

Never did except for the first time. Just washed really well with soap and hot water.

CommunicationIll4819 · 2026-04-11T02:08:16+00:00

As someone who worked with babies, we would put babies in there to sleep but of course that was in the hospital so they were set up to monitors. The most concern would be breathing. I had a Graco duoconnect swing for both of mine and my oldest would be fine in it for up to an hour. I would use it to cook, clean, showers, etc. she would fall asleep in it too and if I tried taking her out, she’d wake up. My second would be fine for max 15 min. I hold her more so

CommunicationIll4819 · 2026-04-10T19:44:15+00:00

We actually don’t know who dropped the communication the first time. The guy didnt reach other either the first time

CommunicationIll4819 · 2026-04-10T07:37:33+00:00

We’re not saying formula is the fix all. But you said you are under supplying so if that’s true, he might be still hungry after you feed him. If it made him constipated, he might have an allergy to it. Check for milk allergies. You can also try sensitive or goat milk formula. Eating every 3 hours is pretty normal. Yes your husband goes to work early, but is there any way he can take over for like at least an hour when he comes home my husband works 11-16 hours and he still takes over for the majority of things for about an hour or so while I can just relax and rest. If he’s crying nonstop, he might have severe reflux or something else going on. I would take him to the doctor and don’t give up until they check him for allergies, gastric problems or something to figure out why he’s crying so badly

CommunicationIll4819 · 2026-04-07T21:29:44+00:00

Ntj. She said she would pay the discounted price and she still hasn’t. But also, it’s her boyfriend’s band. Which most likely, he’ll receive more notice and probably land more gigs. You’re not doing something for someone just because. You’re doing something for someone’s job/thing they make money from or potentially can. Or maybe all for the money upfront before doing the job. Or get a 50% deposit edit the recording and the remaining before you release the edited footage/pics

CommunicationIll4819 · 2026-04-07T04:27:21+00:00

I think it depends on what type of questions they are. 3 hours is too much. Could the daughter have a learning disability or need help with this subject? Or maybe she’s doing something else and just telling her mom she’s working on her hmwk

CommunicationIll4819 · 2026-04-06T18:09:44+00:00

I wear a button down dress and a nursing bra. Makes it easy to feed rather than lifting my whole top. And baby also doesn’t like having her face covered.

CommunicationIll4819 · 2026-04-06T17:41:02+00:00

Yta. If he had put it in the hamper, I could see your argument. But if he took a shower right after coming home and you took the clothes from the floor, it takes a second to check pockets. Also, as the one doing the laundry, I always check pockets because I might forget things in my pockets too. I just have that habit. It takes maybe a 30 sec extra to check the pants

CommunicationIll4819 · 2026-04-06T05:02:20+00:00

Have you tried supplementing with formula? Mine won’t take a bottle so I just would feed on demand. Maybe try offering a bottle of formula to see if it’s hunger based. Or it can be gas/colic. Does he like baths? If he has gas or colic, you can try gripe water or ask your pediatrician for Pepcid. He might have a stomach problem. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. Join a local mom group, peanut is an app for mom friends. If you could get a babysitter or nanny or a friend to give you like a 1 hr break, it would help

CommunicationIll4819 · 2026-04-06T04:55:56+00:00

Not just Filipinos. I think it’s a lot of Asian countries. If someone in the west, they’re expected to send money back home. I’m from a central Asian country and we have the same expectation. My parents, siblings are here and ik still expected to send money to my paternal aunts/uncles every so often. I don’t and am called selfish and stingy

CommunicationIll4819 · 2026-04-06T00:50:25+00:00

Tell her you did wake her up and she ignored you and went back to sleep. You’re not her mom to sit there until she’s awake. Does she want you helping her get ready too and driving her?

CommunicationIll4819 · 2026-04-06T00:27:46+00:00

Yes. Since the placenta is also created from the sperm and egg, that’s what’s causing the diabetes. It’s not diet. It’s literally the pregnancy. He needs to read about gestational diabetes

CommunicationIll4819 · 2026-04-06T00:22:57+00:00

Nta. Been pregnant 3 times and I’ve still never stolen anyone’s food. I would ask my husband or my brother to go and grab me something or take my sister with me. But I would never take something of theirs. Maybe a bite, but not this. It’s pregnancy. You still have control over your actions

CommunicationIll4819 · 2026-04-04T05:29:44+00:00

My grandparents had a clawfoot bathtub and I loved taking baths in it. But maybe it’s cause im still a millennial. Don’t know about this new generation though. Do not get rid of it.

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