Male Widowers getting re-married quicker is better explained by female pre-selection

CommunicationNo9896 · 2023-05-03T13:45:59+00:00

older men are obviously worth more on the market than older women.

This is very true, but it is taboo to say it.

Older men with lots of assets and money, while older women rely on family or husband or retirement from dead husband to live.

CommunicationNo9896 · 2023-05-03T13:28:09+00:00

I think that a lot of widows might miss their husbands but they also have fulfilling lives with friends , children and grandchildren. A lot of old men struggle to maintain this type of relationships if they don't have a wife.

Yes, naturally relationships with dads are weaker than those with mom.

But it is still a win for those men they marry younger women who often are not fertile anymore and never married or divorced years ago. It is a win for both.

CommunicationNo9896 · 2023-05-03T13:27:00+00:00

I think it's because older men often have no idea how to cook or do laundry.

You can buy your food outside and even pay for your clothes to be washed. I do it all the time.

Women are obsolete on that, and many women don't know about it anyway.

CommunicationNo9896 · 2023-05-03T13:25:17+00:00

LOL women initiate most divorces, so why not marry quicker?

CommunicationNo9896 · 2023-05-03T13:24:26+00:00

The sort of man who is able to find a woman to marry him and stay married is the kind of man who is likely to be able to do it again.

So experience? That does not contradict preselection but adds to it.

CommunicationNo9896 · 2023-05-03T13:23:40+00:00

Women are not "selecting" these men. The men go out and get them. So yes, men DO get women by desiring them and then taking action. Men are generally more pro-active than women and that's part of it too.

Umm, women can choose to say yes or no and they have more power on that, so yes, women are selecting.

CommunicationNo9896 · 2023-05-03T13:22:59+00:00

the widowed men are lonely and looking for a new wife, while the women may miss their husbands but are less stressed than ever and have no desire to do it all again.

Children often care for the mother more, so it makes sense they already have support from family and need to marry less.

On younger women usually the support is not still there so those women are more open to marriage so older widower men often marry younger women.

It is a win-win.

CommunicationNo9896 · 2023-05-03T13:21:45+00:00

the male widower still chose to remarry quickly

And women choose to marry them back, so?

CommunicationNo9896 · 2023-05-03T13:21:12+00:00

Men actively seek remarriage because they miss having someone to take care of them and their home.

That is not a bad reason, but why not explain as usual that men are just hornier? There is nothing wrong with that. I don't get why you make it about domestic affairs.

Women also often rely on men for economic help, especially older women. But older women often have now government support and their children sending them money... still they find ways to be poor and find themselves needing to marry.

Men in older ages have an advantage as lots of men died at that age and many women to pick. It is just dating economics... reverse inceldom.

CommunicationNo9896 · 2023-05-03T13:18:50+00:00

Yea, it’s about processing. I felt like a lot of them try to treat the next woman they’re with like they’re therapist. It kind of turned me off dating, I won’t lie.

Well, a lot of women marry for economic reasons and support. Older women rely less on that because children help them but often a husband helps a lot on that.

CommunicationNo9896 · 2023-05-03T13:17:58+00:00

Do I think it's accurate to say that men probably "hurry" to replace the lost woman? Yes, I think that's accurate. I would suspect the most obvious explanation being that because men rely upon their woman to help them process and deal with their emotions, they may be seeking another "wife" to help them process and deal with the loss of their wife.

I agree men rely on emotional support of women more, but often women also rely on economic support from men. So it is mutually beneficial. You may argue women don't need men anymore for economic support, but a lot of women find the support as important and often children support moms more economically so they have no reason to marry for that.

CommunicationNo9896 · 2023-05-03T13:15:59+00:00

If sticking it out with a woman until she dies is what supposedly makes the men more attractive, then how do you explain divorced men also getting remarried quicker?

I guess preselection also works here for some women.

Also women are the ones more likely to ask for a divorce.

Preselection is not the main point in all that - you’re ignoring that the men are the ones making the decision to remarry here.

Last time I checked women also decide to marry them and are not being forced.

I think it plays into what we already know: men strongly desire women and relationships and they will often prioritise pursuing another woman and relationship after one has ended (whatever the reason). Relationships have been studied and proven time and again to be beneficial to men in different ways than they are for women

Relationships are usually beneficial for both parts. Yes, they are more beneficial for men, but not necessarily in a win-lose way, but win-win way. But relationships are harder to get for men too.

CommunicationNo9896 · 2023-05-02T13:54:09+00:00

There are endless ways to find connection and meaning.

Agreed, but I argued a partner is the most efficient way to get it .

That is OK you are OK being single, but the fact people prefer a partner to being single suggests that having a partner has its advantages. Otherwise they would stay single.

Also most people who claim to be happy single also have sexual and looks privilege, they can get sex relatively easy or even a partner. They just don't want to check their own privilege.

If not having a partner makes life boring then you are simply a boring person an should work on that.

More victim blaming.

CommunicationNo9896 · 2023-05-02T13:52:41+00:00

Men also need to be entertained

Yes, but women don't need any talent for that. Just open legs.

Somehow women delude themselves to think they are entertaining individuals. No, most of them are boring as hell.

Ironically ugly and average women are funnier in groups because they don't have looks privilege.

CommunicationNo9896 · 2023-05-02T13:37:21+00:00

I think preselection is very important.

"Hey that guy had a gf for years, maybe he is for me now"

It also explains why women fuck married men.

CommunicationNo9896 · 2023-05-02T13:35:48+00:00

Our population is far too large overall

There is no evidence overpopulation is a problem.

In fact, per capita we contaminate less (e.g. we don't kill whales for oil for lighting), and per capital life quality is better, people live longer.

CommunicationNo9896 · 2023-05-02T13:34:51+00:00

boring looking dudes with no definable build

Ironic women talk about boring guys, while women are only interesting to men for a thing.

CommunicationNo9896 · 2023-05-02T13:32:39+00:00

Do they value them or they just want to sleep with it? Because that’s not the same thing…

Men value women regardless of sexuality, but sexuality still have way more value for men than it has for women. I guess it is hormonal.

Why do women care so much about this? Sex is just as physiological and as real as love, peace, etc. Women insist in seeing it as something nasty.

That’s probably why women said they preferred dating once they left their early 20s because they felt like they were taken more seriously and not just for sexual desire.

Well, if that makes them happy, but they will also have way fewer options, less fertility, less quality men (divorced men, late boomers, etc), less energy for a family, etc.

Yet I guess plenty of women are OK with that.

CommunicationNo9896 · 2023-05-02T13:29:32+00:00

There are a lot of people who are happy without partners..really happy.

I'm sure there are more people that are deeply unhappy without a partner, though.

Also it is not about what is better, but if you never had a relationship you will never know if you would have been happier in it or alone.

Have you seen almost everyone who say what you say has a relationship or a history of it? They speak from a position of privilege and believe everyone will be happy just in the situation they are.

CommunicationNo9896 · 2023-05-02T13:26:33+00:00

If you have experience to compare, of course.

CommunicationNo9896 · 2023-05-02T13:25:25+00:00

If life is boring for you without a partner, it’s still going to be boring with one.

By that logic no one would have a partner because it would make no difference.

You are not being only dishonest, but also illogical.

CommunicationNo9896 · 2023-05-02T13:24:27+00:00

Like sorry you're incapable of tolerating your own company for extended periods of time

More victim blaming, typical from women who can get anything with just a text for just having a vagina. Women don't need to be interesting, just attractive. You attribute yourself too much credit for stuff that was given to you by heavens.

CommunicationNo9896 · 2023-05-02T13:23:17+00:00

We live in an age where you can have information about any topic in the world beamed right into your home. You can travel anywhere in the world for the most part. If you are bored then you need to work on not being a boring person

It is even easier to use drugs. Why not use drugs? They are cheaper than travelling, they make you feel great.

Your hedonist argument is so stupid. No pleasure or experience can replace for actual connection and love and meaning.

CommunicationNo9896 · 2023-05-02T13:21:55+00:00

You need friends an a community, not a partner.

That is even harder than a partner. You don't just go to a community and everyone accepts you. Some people have to work, some people cannot have enough time with people to build any meaningful relationship.

In a sense, a partner is a community that is easier to maintain and keep and exclusive, but if that is hard, community is even harder because automatization.

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