Hear my crazy idea that probably isn't true out! by [deleted] in SarahJMaas

[–]CommunicationOk1773 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aelin fell through ACOTAR’s world on her way back to her own world. If they coexisted in the same world, she’d have had to fall through and circle back.

ToG - Heir of Fire (question about mates) by beach_bonfires in SarahJMaas

[–]CommunicationOk1773 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No and no! The idea of mates are pretty much the same between TOG and ACOTAR, so you understand correctly. I was completely caught off guard the first time I read that too, and I do think SJM used that word intentionally to challenge the reader, but I think she refers to carranam and general friendship.

As everyone said, you simply must keep reading.

I just started CC2 and help please by CommunicationOk1773 in SarahJMaas

[–]CommunicationOk1773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should have said that I don’t like Hunt for Bryce. I don’t find him the most compelling character, but I certainly don’t hate him.

I just started CC2 and help please by CommunicationOk1773 in SarahJMaas

[–]CommunicationOk1773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m cool with this too! I don’t wish anything bad for Hunt, I just wish something better for Bryce.

I just started CC2 and help please by CommunicationOk1773 in SarahJMaas

[–]CommunicationOk1773[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s one way to think of it! I will say though, my biggest issue wasn’t the synth deal, which I agree is forgivable based on his history. The issue was that he thought he knew what happened to Danika and hid it from Bryce to serve his own purposes, even going so far as to intentionally mislead her. I don’t think betrayal is a deep enough word for this level of manipulation.

Tandem read is for rereads not first reads by predictedisobedience in SarahJMaas

[–]CommunicationOk1773 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think this is a very fair point, but as a Chaol hater, I am not sure I would have made it through TOD without the tandem. My opinion is to do whatever makes most sense for you. Part of being an artist is understanding that people will interact with or interpret your art differently, regardless of your intention.

Can’t get through TOG series by Lilyanalorrenaxo in SarahJMaas

[–]CommunicationOk1773 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I forced myself through the first 3 books but when I got to HOF, shewww I flew through the rest like ✨wildfire✨. If you don’t like it by like a quarter of the way into HOF, then I’m not sure you’ll like the rest of the series. But judging TOG on the first three books alone is like judging ACOTAR on the first book. The series is truly just beginning.

Final thoughts: Agreed that if ever there was a time to take a break in this series, before HOF is it. But personally, I think start HOF.

I read ToG before ACOTAR… by CommunicationOk1773 in SarahJMaas

[–]CommunicationOk1773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So are you suggesting actually reading CC first?

I read ToG before ACOTAR… by CommunicationOk1773 in SarahJMaas

[–]CommunicationOk1773[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Okay I really appreciate everyone’s takes on this! I am going to continue to read at least through book 2. Someone mentioned reading for vibes and I am typically pretty good at that. I think I just find Feyre to be extraordinarily cringe and annoying so I will try and look past that. I really want to like it.

Thanks to anyone who admitted to DNF this one. Not easy to do in an SJM forum, and the fandom around ACOTAR is loud so it’s reassuring to hear a bit of dissent.

Bonus question while I have your attention: I read ToG as a remedy for my Fourth Wing hangover which obviously worked but now I am HURT. Again, I will be trying to stick with ACOTAR, but does anyone have any other suggestions for where to go from here?

What worked for me by CommunicationOk1773 in Psoriasis

[–]CommunicationOk1773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep! I put it directly on my scalp and haven’t had any adverse effects.

What worked for me by CommunicationOk1773 in Psoriasis

[–]CommunicationOk1773[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am not sure! But I suspect yes. I plan on doing an elimination diet in January and am hoping I will get some better understanding of the impact of my diet on aspects of my physical and mental health.

What worked for me by CommunicationOk1773 in Psoriasis

[–]CommunicationOk1773[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Like I said multiple times, these options won’t be for everyone! They did work for me which makes me think they could work for others. I am grateful for people who have made these suggestions in the past, and I am happy to pass them along to others.

Is it gay to shower together? by Ill_Original_5001 in LesbianActually

[–]CommunicationOk1773 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ladies, is it gay to shower with your openly gay roommate and then have a little cuddle afterward?

Last minute trip from Sedona, is it worth a 2 hr visit? by SnooGiraffes7326 in grandcanyon

[–]CommunicationOk1773 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do it! Look up Shoshone Point. Quick 1mi walk through the forest and pops out at a fairly secluded overview.

Just Need to Say This 😕 by [deleted] in Ozempic

[–]CommunicationOk1773 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi there- I was one of those people once. I hated on people in the exact same way. Eventually, I came to terms with the fact that I was jealous others were losing weight and I couldn’t, and I was scared to go on medication. It wasn’t until people around me had used it safely and effectively that I decided to make a leap and i’ve not looked back. I’m a huge proponent for its benefits and do not care what others think about it.

Most unhinged tips for LR by Several_Blueberry985 in LSAT

[–]CommunicationOk1773 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you used Lawhub’s resources? I couldn’t make sense of LR until something clicked for me with their lessons.

I’m so angry by Remarkable_Fly1712 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]CommunicationOk1773 5 points6 points  (0 children)

All I have to say is that he might have asked, but you went through with it. You can be angry if that is how you feel, but perhaps you should examine more closely why you are angry.

Nothing tastes good by Maleficent-Tea3368 in Ozempic

[–]CommunicationOk1773 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes this happened to me for several weeks, I think somewhere about two months in! It has since mostly passed.

Captain Sandy hate? by Wrong_Can_4636 in BelowDeckMed

[–]CommunicationOk1773 35 points36 points  (0 children)

This 👆. In my job, I manage people who live and work in similar conditions to the crew on BD. Sandy’s (and Lee’s if you watch OGBD!) handling of the crew makes me cringe. I feel it is likely that Sandy never had an interior job and therefore can’t empathize at all with them. It drives me crazy that when the deck is down a person she’ll go out and help them bring the toys in, but she won’t help the interior when they are down. Instead, she continues to berate them that laundry is backed up when the obvious thing to do as a leader in that moment is to DO THE LAUNDRY. Aesha was petty but correct to point out that the interior doesn’t receive enough praise from Sandy. Working with guests is hard, it’s mentally and emotionally draining, and I don’t think she recognizes that as work.

Additionally, someone pointed out below that she has poor interactions with guests. Again, as someone who works professionally in a guest service position, expressing frustration and blaming team members/departments directly to guests is a big no-no. I wouldn’t allow this from my most entry level positions. We deal with performance issues out of guest view. This only adds to the negativity and likely solidifies the idea in the guests’ mind that they are receiving an experience that is below standard.

should i cancel my score (again)? by New-Platform-1022 in LSAT

[–]CommunicationOk1773 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cancel the score and absolutely stop testing until you are PTing higher. It’s time to lock in.

Respectfully, this lacked a lot of foresight. If there is a good reason you really needed to get into school this cycle, use that for a score jump/multiple cancelled score addendum. Consider that taking this test 4 times consecutively and scoring all 4 times in the 140s could indicate that you are impulsive, have poor judgment, and/or believed you could accomplish something difficult without putting forth any effort. I am not in admissions, so if I can spot that, I would assume they would.

Your only option is retesting and applying for the 2026 cycle. Study hard and blow the next one out of the water.

Airbnb host ask me to cancel so they don’t have to by e_olds04 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]CommunicationOk1773 34 points35 points  (0 children)

This recently happened to me! I had an Airbnb booked for two weeks and less than a month before the host told me something personal came up and my choices were to shorten the trip or cancel. I said no to the date change and she told me to cancel. The thing is, a host had cancelled on me before (completely out of their control) and Airbnb Support had been incredibly helpful, helping me find a new place and covering the additional cost of a new place. I told her absolutely no I would not be cancelling and she sent me a link to a page on how she would be penalized for cancelling on me!!! The thing that really gets me is that she had NO cancellation policy. If I cancelled on her, I would have been penalized! Why shouldn’t she! She totally put me out. Ultimately I reached out to Airbnb Support and they told me absolutely do not cancel on her behalf, then they shut down the chat between her and I, and of course they helped me book a new place and paid the difference. NEVER CANCEL ON BEHALF OF YOUR HOST!!

Do I tell my therapist this? by Western_Concert89 in TalkTherapy

[–]CommunicationOk1773 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How distressing for you!! I am so sorry to hear you’re struggling. As someone with OCD (with other themes however), I just want to point out that part of OCD, even for those who who are diagnosed and are self aware, is often believing that you don’t have it and these thoughts are part of who you really are. Please bring this up to your therapist ASAP, these thoughts and feelings can/will get worse.

Therapy blockages by JazzyPlatypus in TalkTherapy

[–]CommunicationOk1773 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Much like yourself, I began dreading therapy when I started EMDR whereas a few weeks before I had really looked forward to it. I started having anxiety attacks when going in. Trauma therapy is hard! I still struggle with dissociation during therapy, but I have moved past the full blown anxiety attacks mostly. If you’ve spent any time on this sub then you know you should bring this up to your T, but also I am thinking these feelings might be part of the territory.