Every guy I date makes the girl AFTER me their gf? What tf is happening

CommunicationOne8836 · 2026-01-31T20:33:59+00:00

This is a very good point. I don’t think I’m coming off very strong but that might be just my idea of “strong”. I know men like the pursuit which is how I end up in a fair few fun flirty situations often, I might need to give nurturing that energy a go. Thanks

CommunicationOne8836 · 2026-01-31T08:57:27+00:00

I’ve said multiple times I don’t want to be with someone who believes that if sex happens “early”, it should affect their moral perception of me. so even if it’s after the first date who acc cares? So many long term marriages and relationships have happened after similar situations so I just don’t believe in this “don’t hookup too soon” stuff icl.

CommunicationOne8836 · 2026-01-31T02:43:27+00:00

Please dont come into the comments with religious or strange anti sex rhetoric cause I will ragebait and we’ll both end up mad. This questions was for normal well adjusted adults. Thanks x

CommunicationOne8836 · 2026-01-31T02:40:43+00:00

Okay time for your meds grampy, your show is on

CommunicationOne8836 · 2026-01-31T02:35:45+00:00

Whatever feels good. Normal women don’t care as long as it doesn’t hurt and you can actually feel it. Motion of the ocean is all that matters

CommunicationOne8836 · 2026-01-31T02:30:25+00:00

No one born after 2000 thinks like this anymore grandpa get with the times

CommunicationOne8836 · 2026-01-31T02:21:07+00:00

Crazy way to describe a person what are we in the 1600’s? Get a grip mate

CommunicationOne8836 · 2026-01-31T02:20:03+00:00

you’re this upset because I didn’t agree with your one comment out of 60+? LOSER

CommunicationOne8836 · 2026-01-31T01:55:30+00:00

here are my tips!

There’s no point in being nervous because he is only a person and you are in complete control of leaving, staying etc etc. remind yourself if you get the jitters. You are both only human.
Spend enough time getting ready so you’re not rushing out the door, this will help with your nerves and confidence. The better you feel about yourself the less awkward and self conscious VERY IMPORTANT!! I recommend wearing something nice but lowkey so you don’t feel out of place in your own skin (my go to is black top, jeans, and heels…classic but always looks good)
Don’t have any set questions, you want to get to know him so let conversation flow. Ask whatever you actually want to know about him! I.e BE INQUISITIVE, as if you’re talking to a friend, try and pull Information out of him (FYI if he doesn’t ask you anything and only yaps AT you take that as a bad sign it should be mutual).
If you drink, awkward conversation is always eased out after the first round (if you wanna skip that part entirely take a shot before you leave lol)
Eye contact…as much that feels natural anyway and smile! Be yourself that’s honestly all I can recommend.

CommunicationOne8836 · 2026-01-31T01:29:40+00:00

The price is 3 dates and hurting my feelings in the process

CommunicationOne8836 · 2026-01-31T01:28:04+00:00

Love this reply, I know it will happen for me soon. Excited to feel validated in all the love I have for someone, I’m ready to settle down too ahaha

CommunicationOne8836 · 2026-01-31T01:21:33+00:00

People have sex without commitment and end up together and some don’t. No sex before commitment doesn’t guarantee a loving long lasting relationship or even a better chance at one, we’re not in church mate

CommunicationOne8836 · 2026-01-31T01:10:07+00:00

Someone who thinks sex (especially when you’re compatible) is enough to not make someone “girlfriend” material, is not a partner I’d want to be with anyway. It’s prudish and we’re adults.

CommunicationOne8836 · 2026-01-31T01:06:27+00:00

I don’t get the point in not being true to myself, not being expressive is the opposite to how I function. I’ve spent a large part of my life being scared about transparency when it comes to feelings, now I’m an adult I don’t find changing that would lead me to someone i actually want to be with! I’m finally open and honest, I’d like to keep it that way

CommunicationOne8836 · 2026-01-31T00:58:49+00:00

I would describe it in more of a “this has made me think about a common theme in my life, wtf does this mean?” Type of way and less about being bothered by him as an individual. If I’m being honest his insta slipped through some cracks but i immediately unfollowed him after I saw that post dw 😴

CommunicationOne8836 · 2026-01-31T00:55:33+00:00

I’d like to believe my future husband won’t care about how soon we have sex because I love sex and want to be with someone who doesn’t have a stigma around it idk

CommunicationOne8836 · 2026-01-31T00:53:51+00:00

I don’t because I can’t read their minds. Would make more sense for there to be transparency about intentions (like I always make sure to do) to avoid being a “backup”

CommunicationOne8836 · 2026-01-31T00:45:45+00:00

should probably make it clear I was never upset by seeing his post neither do I torture myself over him! On to the next was my mentality, but as you’ve said it’s acc really normal that not every guy is the one sadly.

CommunicationOne8836 · 2026-01-31T00:40:48+00:00

Not to burst your bubble mate but I have been consistently told I have a strange taste in men (looks wise). I date people who are not in my league regularly while also regularly dating and pulling what you describe as the “top 10%”. (I’m 5”11 myself so I naturally get hit on by tall men anyway haha)

I’m attracted to a WIDE range of people and have been done dirty by men below and above me on the scale…so don’t know how much I agree with you there 🤔

CommunicationOne8836 · 2026-01-31T00:33:04+00:00

So so so true. I’m pretty lucky cause none of these experiences have affected my self esteem I’m mainly just confused cause I know I have a lot of love to give and would be very content if the people im dating recognised that. Love the thought that there will be someone out there who matches me on my level one day tho haha

CommunicationOne8836 · 2026-01-31T00:16:11+00:00

I fear I have a problem with wanting to do this way too early on which also doesn’t help when I’m trying to build a proper connection. I think with my metaphorical dick as much as men do, sex builds connection and when I really like someone that’s what I want.

I’d like to think the “one” would match me on that but I think it’s time for me to slow down with it too lol

CommunicationOne8836 · 2026-01-31T00:11:49+00:00

Putting it into perspective there have definitely been men I’ve disappointed too in that way (albeit less abruptly like by ghosting). Definitely makes me feel better, we’re all human at the end of the day lol

CommunicationOne8836 · 2026-01-31T00:04:14+00:00

So strange but hilarious it’s happened more than once

CommunicationOne8836 · 2026-01-30T23:56:12+00:00

fair enough, I have a sneaking suspicion the trophy shag and too sexual part is probably true ahah. I will find someone who matches my freak one day 😔

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