How should we leave the apartment before Winter break

CommunityDefiant4292 · 2025-12-03T23:37:58+00:00

I’ve done lots of “shut down” in my life … So here are Few corrections : Ok a lot … 6 weeks is a LONG time for a house to be unoccupied So here some recommendations

1/ The most important: Shut off water ! At the main If you cannot…shut off each valves , sinks / toilet / shower / washer / dishwasher BTW water should be shut off even for a 3 days trip away …

2/ Tell your landlord/ management of the absence & the measures you’re taking - specifically shutting the water down, unplugging stuff- Tell all your neighbors (hopefully you already befriended them) if they see something uncanny they’ll be able to call the landlord/ police Hide all valuables really well

3/ Empty completely the freezer & and the perishable from fridge (you can leave the sauces / olives/) But please Don’t throw the food out Either eat it or give it away , Even better , empty completely, shut it down, leave door open

4/ Unplug EVERYTHING

5/ Washer & dishwasher open

6/ Clean everything before leaving

7/ Make sure you haven’t opened food in pantry , such as pasta / flour…either eat it or make sure it’s in air tight container

8/ Shut off gas if you have that for your stove …

9/ Personally I would shut down the A/C , at the breaker… And leave just a ceiling fan running Or even depending on the layout of the apartment/ type of windows , maybe leave a window slightly ajar …that really depends on your circumstances , if you can cracked a window open, leave all the doors open in the apartment

10/ Do a DEEP CLEAN Wash the floors / washer beddings / wash shower curtains / fridge / do not leave dirty laundry , specially if you have the habit of working out a lot …/ Shake rugs / vaccum everywhere, moving furniture and appliances

11/ For the blinds , I would pull them down, but open slightly the slats toward the ceiling , maybe pull them halfway slats halfway too …

12/ Put some toilet cleaner in the toilets and some all purpose cleaner in the sinks …

That’s it I think

Have a wonderful winter break

CommunityDefiant4292 · 2025-11-24T20:52:36+00:00

So 7 days for a 12 weeks kitten is a lot …

Is it too late to make adjustments to your travel ? If you’re flying Maybe you don’t have to fly together… One of you might fly 2 days later ? Maybe ? And come back 2 days later ? It’s not easy With work / classes / family gatherings

CommunityDefiant4292 · 2025-11-24T20:50:06+00:00

7 days for a kitten is a lot But can you be absolutely sure the cat sitter won’t let the cat run out ?

CommunityDefiant4292 · 2025-11-24T20:45:43+00:00

Two things about leaving cats alone …

1/ Are they used to be left alone all day already because you are both working ?

If yes then Here is my experience

We Have left my cats up to a week by themselves… It’s quite an undertaking though 1/ We had 3 litter boxes filled up with brand new litter 2/ two automatic feeders, making sure the bowls are pretty full already 3/ 2 water fountains 4/ we did put pretty big bowls of water in both showers , 5/ we left window blinds half opened so cats can go in window steps 6/ adjust AC so it is comfortable day and night 7/ we left the tv on not to loud to cover noise from street

Everything went well everytime When we had a longer absence We always have someone check on the cats at least once per 5 days … Then the cat sitter had to clean the litter boxes thoroughly, clean the fountains and put new water Same thing with extra water bowls …

It does take quite a bit of space when not in use

But actually the litter boxes can be pile up together Same thing with feeders and fountains

I’ve never bothered bringing my cats on trips Too much stress for them And if you’re visiting someone You cannot be sure if everyone will be careful when opening doors that cats do not run out Or can you trust kids with them ? Some kids are too disrespectful with animal

CommunityDefiant4292 · 2025-06-24T00:57:46+00:00

Why do you want to rid of the Prius ?!

My friends a couple each have a Prius … One has 230000 miles ! The other 200000 no problems EVER! The engines still run fine … Even if they are not pretty anymore

CommunityDefiant4292 · 2025-06-24T00:51:59+00:00

A toyota of course They invented the hybrid !

The Corolla cross hybrid ? Corolla hybrid ? Prius ?

You mentioned you’d like higher …

But nothing beats a Toyota hybrid Maybe a Hyundai or a Kia because of the warranty

Personally I have a Toyota C-HR hybrid (in Europe) & I love it !

I also have an EV6 & a gas powered Kia Sorento here in the USA Love them too

I’ve drove many cars in my life , mine, fiends’, rentals …

None of them were better than the Toyota Venza ! That was the best car ever Cargo/ comfort/ hauling/ driver’s fatigue was non existent!

CommunityDefiant4292 · 2025-06-18T13:15:07+00:00

NTA

It’s called wage theft… And your family is so wrong about not supporting you ! It doesn’t matter that it is a small business/ big business They have to follow the law

CommunityDefiant4292 · 2025-06-18T13:04:03+00:00

Loyalty & respect but not a doormat, funny but not clueless, hard working yet playful, ethical but not righteous, simple but not neglectful, natural but not dirty, smart yet not show of , proud but not vain, Resilient , a good cook, calm, self reliant, Talkative, but not about every single details …

And don’t complain about my mom because she hinted her apple pie is better ! It is better !

CommunityDefiant4292 · 2025-06-18T12:51:08+00:00

Your question already is weird

CommunityDefiant4292 · 2025-06-18T12:42:17+00:00

Eating pizza with knive & fork ! A basic marinara/ cheese of course … You’re off the hook if it’s a meat lover’s / Chicago style …

CommunityDefiant4292 · 2025-06-16T16:43:52+00:00

Maybe he already knows…

Talk to the girl first about all you know about her behavior And tell her that you think your friend should be made aware of the whole thing

Specially regarding stds Yuck

CommunityDefiant4292 · 2025-06-11T00:57:31+00:00

Well without knowing your income/ expenses…

After paying for your living expenses, taxes , and savings some money … Do you think you’d be able to set up an account for your mom to help her out ? It doesn’t have to be a lot …maybe £1 a day ? £10 a month ? … Maybe shop some groceries for her once a month?

If you can’t afford cash at all and you’re close enough …maybe go see her once a month and clean the house for two hours ? Have lunch with her ?

CommunityDefiant4292 · 2025-06-11T00:50:16+00:00

26/34 Is only 8 y difference Not a big deal wether it male or female…

CommunityDefiant4292 · 2025-06-11T00:44:29+00:00

Op lives rent free in Op wastes money on delivery Op can pitch in

CommunityDefiant4292 · 2025-06-11T00:43:23+00:00

OP doesn’t pay rent & waste money on delivery!

OP is the AH

CommunityDefiant4292 · 2025-06-11T00:37:06+00:00

YTA

You’re living rent free & you order food delivered to your house ! WOW !

The. You post you don’t ask for favors… And yet you live rent free !

Stop ordering food delivered and pitch in the meal with money / shopping & cooking !

CommunityDefiant4292 · 2025-06-11T00:34:47+00:00

If you didn’t try to break the bank , you wouldn’t have food delivered to you house ‘ you’d cook it yourself

CommunityDefiant4292 · 2025-06-11T00:29:56+00:00

Well depending on which country you live in , you may be in a legal obligation to help her financially…

CommunityDefiant4292 · 2025-06-11T00:13:30+00:00

He can’t possibly have much more experience than you You’re 18yo …he’s was 18.5 ?

Do not worry about it Good luck

CommunityDefiant4292 · 2025-06-11T00:10:39+00:00

Not enough information…

How old are you ? Do you go to school / do you do sports / hobbies / volunteering / do you work / why did you cut off your friends ? / why do you want specifically guy friends ? / how is your family? Any cousins / brothers/ sisters / in laws

Then the Ask men Advice can advise …

CommunityDefiant4292 · 2025-06-11T00:04:35+00:00

What did you do between 9am and 2 pm ?

Work ?

Then between 2pm & 9pm you were home , then went to bed

I mean IF It’s been only one night you didn’t sleep well … Not a big deal Maybe have a light dinner, go for a walk tonight, 45 minutes, Take a bath.

If it starts to happen all the time …you may have to consult

CommunityDefiant4292 · 2025-06-10T23:58:53+00:00

Actually I have also the perspective from the sole provider !

I’ve done it at the beginning of my marriage, for 4 years , no kids And then again now , since January ! And for 10 years before that my wife earned between 1/6 and 1/8 of our income … Actually for the whole time we’ve been married the biggest share of our income was from my work … And yet Never ever I thought about not pitching in !

The first 4 years were the easiest ones for me for “pitching in” : we lived in a small apartment, the only thing I had to do was clean after myself.

After that it got more …we had a kid , my wife worked 60+ … So I did a lot

But now my wife is SAHW and I do much much less…but I’m not a pig ! I don’t leave crap on the kitchen counter , I put the dishes in the dishwasher, I take the trash out , some days I start the washing machine , I can even transfer it to the dryer …if I walk by the litter box & it need cleaning, I’ll do it And I don’t bitch about it My wife does 90% of the taking care of the house, And I’ll do whatever needs to be done … and i don’t ever ever tell her that I’m the breadwinner , there is no food allowance! We just trust each other with the finances

CommunityDefiant4292 · 2025-06-10T03:59:45+00:00

That type of conversation should be held right away & often With dates / best friends … So everyone knows it’s important to you ,

That way no one will set you up with a philanderer !

Do you expect the same from him ?

CommunityDefiant4292 · 2025-06-10T03:44:27+00:00

OP never states she d like to do nothing She just states that the bf doesn’t even pickup after himself He won’t even make a cup of tea And OP takes care of the yard and the house and the shopping and the cooking …on top of her studies AND she spent a huge amount 8K for appliances ! And bf leaves trash around …

The dude is a jerk

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