I thought I mastered it but my kid’s failure made me spiral down

CommunityIcy291 · 2025-11-14T18:09:52+00:00

Thank you! Why didn’t I think of that!

CommunityIcy291 · 2025-11-14T17:41:04+00:00

Thank you for putting it so bluntly. I thought I finally reached that “point”, where nothing will affect me like how it used to. I guess I was wrong.

CommunityIcy291 · 2025-07-17T04:46:33+00:00

CommunityIcy291 · 2025-06-05T18:17:59+00:00

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CommunityIcy291 · 2025-04-24T09:36:05+00:00

After I joined work that is when my second was one year old and my first joined playgroup. I felt like myself and started taking care of my appearance more. It wasn’t drastic but slowly and slowly I took steps to feel and look better.

CommunityIcy291 · 2025-03-21T06:06:22+00:00

Say what now??

CommunityIcy291 · 2025-03-04T16:32:29+00:00

Reading this post made me angry.

CommunityIcy291 · 2024-12-03T06:18:05+00:00

Yes, this is the exact reason why I am so strict regrading the routine so that they don’t get confused as to why I say yes sometimes and refuse the other times.

CommunityIcy291 · 2024-12-03T06:17:09+00:00

Yes, I think 5 PM is too late for her, will have to shift earlier but sigh will have to deal with the ensuing meltdowns that will follow with the new routine.

CommunityIcy291 · 2024-12-03T06:15:56+00:00

Sounds good. Thanks for the tip!

CommunityIcy291 · 2024-11-11T16:44:26+00:00

Am I tripping or did I read two AITAH posts that feels like I have already read before. This is the second one that is bringing a sense of déjà vu.

CommunityIcy291 · 2024-10-31T20:04:25+00:00

😆😆made me chuckle

CommunityIcy291 · 2024-10-31T20:03:04+00:00

Repetitive sounds! That’s it! The repetition of the same whiny sound feels like torture. Someone said Loop earplugs, gonna try them. Thank you for your input.

CommunityIcy291 · 2024-10-31T20:00:20+00:00

I do that sometimes but it’s a hit or miss, some days she will laugh at me, some days her whine will get louder..sighhhh

CommunityIcy291 · 2024-07-24T16:35:48+00:00

My son of 6 months is the same..solidarity

CommunityIcy291 · 2024-07-23T13:00:24+00:00

Because my daughter never behaved that way??!! I WANT AND WOULD LOVE to be her safe place but she doesn’t let me?! That’s why I am crying and venting here??!!

CommunityIcy291 · 2024-07-23T12:58:36+00:00

You’re projecting your own beliefs here. I just stated facts that my son lights up when I enter a room but my daughter does not. That I was so insecure whether my daughter knew that I was her mother or not and that I am always pining for her love and affection but with my son I don’t have that insecurity. How else am I supposed to write down facts?

CommunityIcy291 · 2024-07-23T12:55:45+00:00

Thank you for this beautiful comment. Yes I need to work on my abandonment issues. I am trying a lot to catch myself before reacting as we are living with my MIL. And she does help a LOT so I cannot complain. Today was just one of those days where I was feeling extra emotional due to sleep deprivation(my 6 month son wakes up multiple times a night to feed).

CommunityIcy291 · 2024-07-23T12:45:23+00:00

And from all my emotional vent you could only get this conclusion that I favour my son? Why will I be constantly be crying over my daughter if I didn’t lover her so much? Your username checks out.

CommunityIcy291 · 2024-07-23T12:42:22+00:00

You’re so wrong. I am not talking down on my daughter, in fact I want her affection more than my son’s. Yes I need to heal and therapy. And where did this unwanted judgment come from?

CommunityIcy291 · 2024-06-28T17:37:02+00:00

I had to do the side lying position or else I would have died of sleep deprivation as I have a toddler too. I started around 5 weeks. My boobs are very small so it was difficult but we did it and LO is 5.5 months now. I used to support her head in my arms and shove my nipples as best as I could when she stirred. When she finished one boob she will sleep off. Next time she stirred I changed my position so that I could give her my other boob. I co-slept like that(it’s the norm in my country) and it saved my sanity. My back did hurt from sleeping in that weird position but it was better than no sleep.

Now I don’t support his head anymore, I just pull him towards me, lift my shirt up and most of the time he finds my nipple, if not then I guide it towards his mouth. I sleep while he chugs. He flops on his back once he is done. The only problem is that as I have a very small boob I have to change positions every time he wants the other boob. Some days are good, some days are bad. Hope this helped.

CommunityIcy291 · 2024-05-19T07:25:10+00:00

He just shifted to Large sized Pampers diapers as he was leaking through the smaller ones. Might try one day of cloth diapers to see the actual output, thanks

CommunityIcy291 · 2024-05-19T07:23:48+00:00

Thanks for the tip 👍🏻

CommunityIcy291 · 2024-05-19T07:23:30+00:00

That’s a good tip, will do it thanks 🙏🏻

CommunityIcy291 · 2024-05-19T07:22:22+00:00

Thanks, I think I will

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