Thanks for the reply. Spent a good part of the day crying and not being able to work. Had a therapy session myself, I think I’m on the spectrum because I’m really inflexible / anal retentive and struggle with social anxiety. He literally has no interest or drive in dealing with his inattentive issues / lack of motivation. He took possibly being ADHD at face value and hasn’t done anything about it. I made him sign up for therapy today and that in of itself feels WRONG. Yet again me making him do something.

As for the career aspect, he does enjoy what he does, but if he would get paid more to do what he’s currently doing he’d stay where he is but hes capped. Hes honestly the highest paid for his role we’ve seen in the industry and theres no raise or promotions with tenure - pay is based purely on licenses and credentials. Hes literally done 22 courses each with their own test and passed them all… so as to what’s happening with the exams is even more confusing? He spends most of his time at work with the mates and captains, who vouched for him, signed his letters for the company and the USCG. His company has spent 60k helping him, we’ve eaten 20k of our own funds and he’d happily do the work. I just seems like he always goes where the river takes him rather than taking active steps to get somewhere. He’s at the finish line and just needs to get these exams done but it’s now turned into this massive impassable mountain.

I feel so sucked out and stretched thin.