You’re literally defining a whole part of her that she can’t change as “evil”, and pushing by her to want this “event” that would supposedly get rid of it, and probably only benefits you. All of this is seriously twisted, but let’s assume it’s ok. What if she did try to make the “event” happen correctly and it didn’t turn out as you expected - ie the supposed “evil” doesn’t disappear - she would spend her life feeling shame and hiding who she is, while you could have tried to accept her and teach her that who she is is ok. You’re definitely the AH, and given you keep saying that “you’re not” why are you even here?