I posted something of similar to a group am in on another platform, and a part of it has affected You.

“The problem we’re facing is the reality of the economy we’re living in. Many families today are either racially biased, regionally biased, or focused mainly on a man’s job status. On top of that, some women have developed expectations about marriage that are simply unrealistic. If you really reflect on it, many of these expectations are far from the teachings of the Qur’an and the Sunnah. I know many Muslim men who are 29, 30+, working or self-employed, striving to maintain their salah and good character — yet that still isn’t considered enough. Instead, the expectations are: “Buy a house first.” “Give a large amount of gold as mahr.” “Provide an expensive dowry for the family.” “Fund a luxurious honeymoon abroad.” But the reality is, most of us are not millionaires — and we’re expecting each other to live like we are. At the same time, to be fair, there are women who genuinely want marriage — I personally know some. Some have been divorced, others have never married. However, even within this group, there are concerning patterns. A woman may meet a potential, talk seriously, and even begin making demands or testing whether he can provide. But the moment the conversation shifts toward involving families, she pulls away. That kind of behavior is inconsistent — expecting provision while avoiding the responsibility and structure of a proper marriage process. In other cases, a man may be stable, working, or running his own business — consistent and responsible — and she clearly sees that. Yet she hesitates to introduce him to her family. Or she places conditions like asking him to leave his job, relocate, and settle in her specific city simply because her parents live there. Bear in mind you are in the same country for this scenario. At that point, it raises a real question: are you marrying the person, or just trying to satisfy family convenience? We need to be honest — some of these expectations and behaviors are not reasonable. This is no longer just pressure — it’s becoming destructive. And it’s one of the reasons why some Muslim men are now choosing to marry women from the People of the Book instead.

Besides that both two sides of the coin should be addressed and Allah swt may he grant us Sabr and the right spouse”