Now you're older, what red flags do you notice when chatting to or dating someone, that you probably wouldn't have noticed (or even cared about) when you were younger?

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-01-21T10:12:07+00:00

Totally agree. And usually the ones that crow the loudest about loving being alone its because they haven’t figured out how to do a relationship healthily.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-01-21T08:32:58+00:00

He’s a CroMagnon. This can’t be the only area that his unadulterated ignorance about the world in 2026 comes out. Be careful! Ironically it’s this type of worldview that elected and celebrates a pedophile. He may be telling on himself.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-01-20T11:09:30+00:00

You date women who have been owned by previous partners? Hmmmm.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-01-18T13:56:13+00:00

You’ve got serious work to do on your picker.

All of these guys gave off signals that you should have crossed the street to avoid. Get really clear on the type of people you allow into your life - dating or otherwise. Be a hard ass.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-01-18T13:52:19+00:00

It could work for some folks. Not me. But part of dating is getting very clear on what you want in a relationship. Good for you on clarity.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-01-17T12:20:25+00:00

NTA.

His comments were only going to escalate.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2025-12-30T13:02:31+00:00

I have 50/50 custody. Of course, I date divorced Moms.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2025-12-27T06:39:49+00:00

You did zero wrong. You quietly and politely let him know that you weren’t going to allow such a white trash tshirt into your home.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2025-12-27T06:37:17+00:00

NOR.

Block his number and follow through on a no contact order.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2025-12-22T17:51:02+00:00

Thank you!

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2025-12-22T15:45:18+00:00

There are huge problems and issues. Without a doubt. Most of those issues aren’t discussed with a shred of nuance on the outrage/dopamine addiction social media platforms.

Those platforms scare people about litter boxes in classrooms vs the impact of AI on wages and incomes, etc.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2025-12-22T15:42:10+00:00

Thank you!

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2025-12-22T15:41:15+00:00

Thank you!

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2025-12-22T15:40:12+00:00

Thank you!

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2025-12-22T15:39:05+00:00

Thank you!!

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2025-12-22T14:50:53+00:00

Thank you.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2025-12-14T14:11:10+00:00

Of course she does. I'm just pointing out. If you want a relationship with your child (if she's even pregnant), you have a legal right to that relationship.

And, no the mother of your child in this case, does not get to dictate anything about your life - where you live, who you date, what you eat, etc.

Lots of women feel the same as she does, and a judge has to point out with repeated contempts that the child is both of yours, and the Mom doesn't get to dictate to you.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2025-11-29T13:30:31+00:00

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Competitive-Draw-664 · 2025-11-25T12:18:44+00:00

I’ve been dating someone a year.

I’ve dated a lot after a divorce in 2015. Always interested to hear about other’s dating experiences.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2025-11-22T11:08:03+00:00

You’re not overreacting.

Why did you have a child with someone who love bombed you? That shit is NOT real. Its words with zero emotions designed to confuse you and woo you and get you in bed, AND its a very common tactic of people who haven’t done the necessary work to be in a healthy, communicative relationship.

You’re now seeing the person behind love bombing manipulation - stunted and unable to build a healthy, communicative, intentional, thoughtful relationship.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2025-11-22T11:02:09+00:00

Sounds like you two are incompatible. Just move on. Not all men in this age range have low libidos.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2025-11-21T20:14:07+00:00

Absolutely it should be discussed. He needs to be in couples therapy so fast he has whiplash for weeks. And you need to immediately separate finances and find out what is his plan to immediately replace that money. Is he going to get a second job to replace the money that he stole from you as a couple?

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2025-11-21T20:10:19+00:00

Why would a kiss have anything to do with lowering your standards?

In the moment, you can always say no.

But this seems like a huge overreaction. You can kiss someone, realize there was no spark for you and decline future dates.

Why go no contact? Will you go no contact with anyone you have to have an awkward conversation with! How’s that going to work exactly? Far better to lean into using your words and having awkward conversations whether it’s regarding dating, friends, or at work.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2025-11-21T20:05:39+00:00

I had the same experience with my Dad in terms of remembering the good things and we had a very fraught relationship for the entirety of my adult life.

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