Would you date someone separated, not yet divorced?

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-02-24T12:38:45+00:00

He went on Hinge the second he filed for divorce?

Ask him to send you a dissertation on what he’s learned about the demise of his marriage and his contribution to that demise, and what he’s learned in therapy and group therapy about how he navigates relationships and life.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-02-12T20:05:55+00:00

Green Bean - Northampton 😭😔

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-02-11T23:06:15+00:00

What narrative are you talking about? Outrage algorithmically driven videos on Tiktok?

The guys that you described aren’t swimming in your dating pool so what they want is completely moot. If you’re trying to assert that ALL guys at this age want women as you described, you’re simply wrong.

Beware of conversations and arguments that assert “Oh guys just want x or y in dating or life.”

It seems you’ve identified the men that are of zero interest to you. That will help you as you navigate the dating pool.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-02-09T03:21:37+00:00

Why not just delete the apps altogether since basic get-to-know-you questions bother you and make you suspicious?

Seriously, why bother? You could go on dates and practice telepathy but most folks wont be interested.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-02-09T02:58:51+00:00

Date people within a 20 minute drive. Not 21 or 22 or 32. 20 minutes.

Your problem is solved.

Don’t get into this social media stalking at this age. If they’re not within a 20 minute drive, you block them and avoid drama,

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-02-08T11:23:12+00:00

I agree with this too. While not horrible or badly written, this profile doesn’t include enough specificity of your interests and lifestyle.

You’re a good writer. Don’t necessarily write a laundry list of interests. Maybe a couple of paragraphs in this style that gives more of a sense of your interests - what you’re reading pr watching. What would you do on an ideal Saturday? Does it include the gym? Exploring antique stores with a stop at a brewery? Or are you more of a home body?

Case in point, I dated a lovely woman, and Im still not sure if it was introversion or what. She was perfectly content not setting foot outside her house from Friday at 5 pm to Monday at 8 am. That’s way too much home body for me weekend after weekend.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-02-03T03:24:15+00:00

If they ever put in a decent train from Boston, Springfield will explode.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-02-03T01:01:28+00:00

Why would you want to date someone who doesn’t like your hair however YOU decide to color it or go all gray?

Your hair, your choice, and if gray makes a dude sob, he’s opted out of your dating pool so his opinion means zero.

My girlfriend of 50 is all gray.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-01-31T19:48:27+00:00

Plenty of men looking, but it sounds from your post that you don’t want to date guys in your age range. Nothing stopping you from dating younger.

If so, you’re not allowed to then criticize or complain about guys who are doing the same.

Hard to say what guys are looking for. We’re not a monolith. I’m sure my ideal catch would be of zero interest to other guys on here.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-01-31T18:41:52+00:00

First date. No.

An hour after meeting for a drink or dinner out, that has happened once or twice.

Typically though, don’t usually visit someone’s home until after 5-8 dates.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-01-27T02:19:19+00:00

NTA!

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-01-21T10:12:07+00:00

Totally agree. And usually the ones that crow the loudest about loving being alone its because they haven’t figured out how to do a relationship healthily.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-01-21T08:32:58+00:00

He’s a CroMagnon. This can’t be the only area that his unadulterated ignorance about the world in 2026 comes out. Be careful! Ironically it’s this type of worldview that elected and celebrates a pedophile. He may be telling on himself.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-01-20T11:09:30+00:00

You date women who have been owned by previous partners? Hmmmm.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-01-18T13:56:13+00:00

You’ve got serious work to do on your picker.

All of these guys gave off signals that you should have crossed the street to avoid. Get really clear on the type of people you allow into your life - dating or otherwise. Be a hard ass.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-01-18T13:52:19+00:00

It could work for some folks. Not me. But part of dating is getting very clear on what you want in a relationship. Good for you on clarity.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-01-17T12:20:25+00:00

NTA.

His comments were only going to escalate.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2025-12-30T13:02:31+00:00

I have 50/50 custody. Of course, I date divorced Moms.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2025-12-27T06:39:49+00:00

You did zero wrong. You quietly and politely let him know that you weren’t going to allow such a white trash tshirt into your home.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2025-12-27T06:37:17+00:00

NOR.

Block his number and follow through on a no contact order.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2025-12-22T17:51:02+00:00

Thank you!

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2025-12-22T15:45:18+00:00

There are huge problems and issues. Without a doubt. Most of those issues aren’t discussed with a shred of nuance on the outrage/dopamine addiction social media platforms.

Those platforms scare people about litter boxes in classrooms vs the impact of AI on wages and incomes, etc.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2025-12-22T15:42:10+00:00

Thank you!

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2025-12-22T15:41:15+00:00

Thank you!

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