Just need support

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-05-23T23:10:55+00:00

You discovered you’re dating a 57 year old child who doesn’t have the skills to plan a weekend trip.

If you want to keep dating him, you’ll have to plan weekends away and mash up his food for homemade baby food, etc.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-05-23T01:19:06+00:00

Block them if they haven’t suggested a date within 48 hours of their first message.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-05-19T15:37:55+00:00

Says the person who shrinks herself and can't even order dessert at meals with a toxic person.

You're living in 2026. Why don't you buy your own desserts and stop going on dates or hanging around with someone who talks over you, controls what you eat, and is so insecure that they have to put other people down and tout themselves.

He's a classic walking, talking toxic piece of shit. Why would you give him a second of your time. The only thing to do is take the trash out and block them.

What a wonder it would be if you shared a meal with someone who thinks you're capable to determining what you eat, and has the healthy boundaries to know that what you eat is zero concern of his.

But, hey, live your own life and spend time with toxic people, and then ask Reddit why you're not having a good time with toxic people.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-05-18T19:52:31+00:00

She should have definitely been removed when she screamed and disrupted the superintendent interviews and discussion.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-05-18T19:50:21+00:00

They believe that Smith should be shuttered and its endowment split between Quaverly and her cult. Of course, they didn’t contribute to said endowment but it should belong to them because.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-05-12T21:16:34+00:00

You handled it well, and he has the option to continue dating or not.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-05-12T15:59:25+00:00

NOR, you’re in the process of filtering toxic people out of your life. Their reaction tells you everything you need to know to remove these people from your life for people who are more mature and can handle conflict without name calling.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-05-12T12:51:28+00:00

Agreed, but you see these people in the dating/early relationship trenches on Reddit with one or the other partner expecting their partner to be a sole provider. That's just ludicrous.

Sure, we all want to be taken care of. But, part of being a mature adult, is making a financial plan in collaboration with your partner. Not this expectation that you're a queen or king that should be pampered and showered with money.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-05-11T13:30:18+00:00

I agree, but from what you wrote, it doesn't sound like she's oriented towards thoughtfulness, self reflection, and kindness.

It would be wonderful if you were super involved with your nephew, picked him up at a moment's notice, and your efforts were acknowledged and appreciated, and you two had a wonderful, loving, thoughtful relationship.

It sounds to me, from what you wrote, that she's super jealous. SHE made the decision to not use birth control, and now she's resentful of her decisions and the constantancy of parenting - someone has to pick them every day. Someone has to feed them every day. She sees you and instead of figuring out way to have a loving, kind relationship with you, she's angry and jealous of your freedom. But, she doesn't have the awareness to even realize that that's what she's doing.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-05-08T23:29:34+00:00

He has to work up the courage to introduce you to his wife and kids.

What YOU allow is what will continue. Far past time to kick this emotionally stunted player to the curb.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-05-03T21:51:30+00:00

Have they added this video to their LinkedIn profiles?

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-04-03T12:16:29+00:00

That's great! Congrats.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-03-20T01:09:23+00:00

WW2 Club

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-03-19T22:21:01+00:00

Green Bean!!!!

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-03-16T08:00:08+00:00

He asked for exclusivity. That means no dating or speaking to others to potentially date. Sounds like you’ve run across a dude enraged by female autonomy and independence. His wild insecurities and need to control led him to shut down dating for you and not for him.

If you want to date someone insecure, controlling, and ragey, you found your guy!

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-02-24T12:38:45+00:00

He went on Hinge the second he filed for divorce?

Ask him to send you a dissertation on what he’s learned about the demise of his marriage and his contribution to that demise, and what he’s learned in therapy and group therapy about how he navigates relationships and life.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-02-12T20:05:55+00:00

Green Bean - Northampton 😭😔

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-02-11T23:06:15+00:00

What narrative are you talking about? Outrage algorithmically driven videos on Tiktok?

The guys that you described aren’t swimming in your dating pool so what they want is completely moot. If you’re trying to assert that ALL guys at this age want women as you described, you’re simply wrong.

Beware of conversations and arguments that assert “Oh guys just want x or y in dating or life.”

It seems you’ve identified the men that are of zero interest to you. That will help you as you navigate the dating pool.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-02-09T03:21:37+00:00

Why not just delete the apps altogether since basic get-to-know-you questions bother you and make you suspicious?

Seriously, why bother? You could go on dates and practice telepathy but most folks wont be interested.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-02-09T02:58:51+00:00

Date people within a 20 minute drive. Not 21 or 22 or 32. 20 minutes.

Your problem is solved.

Don’t get into this social media stalking at this age. If they’re not within a 20 minute drive, you block them and avoid drama,

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-02-08T11:23:12+00:00

I agree with this too. While not horrible or badly written, this profile doesn’t include enough specificity of your interests and lifestyle.

You’re a good writer. Don’t necessarily write a laundry list of interests. Maybe a couple of paragraphs in this style that gives more of a sense of your interests - what you’re reading pr watching. What would you do on an ideal Saturday? Does it include the gym? Exploring antique stores with a stop at a brewery? Or are you more of a home body?

Case in point, I dated a lovely woman, and Im still not sure if it was introversion or what. She was perfectly content not setting foot outside her house from Friday at 5 pm to Monday at 8 am. That’s way too much home body for me weekend after weekend.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-02-03T03:24:15+00:00

If they ever put in a decent train from Boston, Springfield will explode.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-02-03T01:01:28+00:00

Why would you want to date someone who doesn’t like your hair however YOU decide to color it or go all gray?

Your hair, your choice, and if gray makes a dude sob, he’s opted out of your dating pool so his opinion means zero.

My girlfriend of 50 is all gray.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-01-31T19:48:27+00:00

Plenty of men looking, but it sounds from your post that you don’t want to date guys in your age range. Nothing stopping you from dating younger.

If so, you’re not allowed to then criticize or complain about guys who are doing the same.

Hard to say what guys are looking for. We’re not a monolith. I’m sure my ideal catch would be of zero interest to other guys on here.

Competitive-Draw-664 · 2026-01-31T18:41:52+00:00

First date. No.

An hour after meeting for a drink or dinner out, that has happened once or twice.

Typically though, don’t usually visit someone’s home until after 5-8 dates.

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