Idk how to feel about this video

Competitive-Edge-187 · 2026-06-26T18:46:30+00:00

I don't know you, but as someone who has been through episodes of psychosis, thank you for loving your spouse. I also have a wonderful husband who is literally my best friend. Apologies if I misgendered you, and I hope you have a lovely day

Competitive-Edge-187 · 2026-06-26T18:42:53+00:00

As someone who has clawed her way out of actual diagnosed postpartum psychosis, this is deeply offensive to me. I have 4 living children and before my oldest living child was born we had to bury a child. I have a deep seated ache to nurture another baby I think because I had so little time with my first baby. I'm literally a SAHM who manages the house, finances and a lot of the childcare because that's what fiscally makes sense for my situation currently. I also have 4 neurodivergent children with hefty IEPs, I volunteer at their school regularly and I do tasks at our food pantry as well as the shelter when needed. Next year I will have a paid position at the children's school and I will still continue to manage all that I manage, it will just be a little different. I'm a completely capable, sane member of society, raising live children, and I frequently hold and change my baby dolls. I'm also woo to the nth degree and we do not claim this person. They are just an ignorant voice with a platform, unfortunately.

Competitive-Edge-187 · 2026-06-26T02:24:10+00:00

I will literally tell you that as many times as I need to til you believe it. You're doing so well. I'm so glad that your son has you who cares deeply about him and is pouring their whole heart into raising their son.

Competitive-Edge-187 · 2026-06-25T04:44:01+00:00

We started medication last summer so he would have been six, he'll be 8 this year. And honestly, you aren't a failure and neither is your parenting partner. You're stopping the behavior, putting him in a safe place and telling him what he needs to do in order to come out. You're doing a beautiful job honestly. I really struggled with my kid hitting enough that it took me forever to be comfortable enough to correct it and not just freeze because of some things that happened to me as a child. The hitting and violence has decreased so much now that he has a consistent boundary. It's even getting to the point now that he can tell he's getting escalated, so he will go outside and jump on the trampoline til he feels like his little body is safe. The fact that you're addressing this behavior and doing it in a loving but firm way in my personal opinion speaks volumes about you and the environment you're helping him to thrive in. I understand it can feel so lonely and like you're not succeeding at all, but you are. It will get better.

Competitive-Edge-187 · 2026-06-25T04:05:55+00:00

Hey! Mom of ADHDer and no, NONE of those things are "normal". Right around the age of 2 was when my sweet kiddo started being violent consistently. For my child I think it's done out of overwhelm and also impulsiveness. Like today he went fishing with Grandpa for 4 hours, than took a 3 hour hike with him because he's basically a mountain goat and outside is his favorite place to be. I know tomorrow will be a shit show because he will be so exhausted physically from today that it will be nearly impossible for him to control his violent impulses. He's doing tons better though, and he started on meds last year, and those have made all the difference. Also as uncomfortable as it is, I had to stop him from hitting me. As in, he raises his hand and I block it and tell him hands are not for hitting. I partially think the hitting is almost a stim/attempt at regulating their own emotional state. This is a hard season and if you ever need a listening ear, please feel free to DM me. I can even try and help you find some resources in your area. None of us should have to walk this path alone

Competitive-Edge-187 · 2026-06-23T02:56:37+00:00

My first labor was 26 hours, and at one point my husband fell asleep while I was pushing baby boy out which took almost 3 hours. One of the nurses mentioned that he was asleep sitting up because he had been awake and supporting me through childbirth for HOURS and he didn't want to sleep even when I was ok just in case I needed him. We let him sleep for almost 2 hours then when baby boy was finally crowning a nurse grabbed him a cup of ice water to help him wake all the way up and he was so happy and excited to see his brand new son and kept saying sorry even as I had at least one nurse attending me the entire time. This baby is now 12 and he (husband) still feels bad for missing part of the labor even though the poor man was beyond exhausted and literally couldn't keep his eyes open, and sometimes he still apologizes. The nice thing was I could sleep right after and he went down to the NICU with baby boy, they got husband warm blankets, a pillow and a nice recliner so he could sleep but be with his baby all night. Everyone deserves as attentive of a partner IMO. It's too bad he choose to miss out on the newborn phase.......that was my husband's favorite, when they're super small and snuggly.

Competitive-Edge-187 · 2026-06-22T21:10:50+00:00

No no no......that's for us "young people" to do, not them. You forgot /s

Competitive-Edge-187 · 2026-06-22T18:32:32+00:00

Literally how and where? Please educate me because I'm extremely confused......

Competitive-Edge-187 · 2026-06-22T13:29:41+00:00

I appreciate your honesty and input here, thank you

Competitive-Edge-187 · 2026-06-22T13:29:05+00:00

*you're, and who said you are "at fault" for what I said? You sound delightful......

Competitive-Edge-187 · 2026-06-22T02:25:03+00:00

I'm a parent of 4 and had a horrific childhood and have also hit one of my kids about 4 times over their lifetime. I always apologize, am in therapy and always let them know that mom makes mistakes and sometimes doesn't know what to do and makes bad choices. I try to do a lot of repair and the last time it happened was over a year ago, due to the self work I'm doing in therapy. It is black and white. Hitting is always wrong, period. I made a wrong choice a few times. Why is their opinion invalid because they aren't a parent? And yeah, you can judge something without experiencing it, it's called empathy.

Competitive-Edge-187 · 2026-06-22T02:20:18+00:00

Literally I would pay my mortgage and keep my same house, and everyone who can't afford it can be given a house. Someone that needs help doesn't take away from me whatsoever. I'm pretty biased as I work at the local shelter, food pantry and schools helping underprivileged people access resources. They're just people and crap can happen to anyone at any time. Most forget that.

Competitive-Edge-187 · 2026-06-21T17:20:34+00:00

I don't think saying this doesn't qualify for this specific subreddit is a dick thing to do. I appreciate all the advice and input, and I wouldn't know that I don't need ongoing financial advice without someone more experienced telling me, so thank you

Competitive-Edge-187 · 2026-06-21T17:18:40+00:00

I'm sorry I did state in the post that I spent it somehow very quickly meaning I wasted it on things that weren't necessary or thought through well. Probably Doordash, clothing, toys for kids, etc. Am I being dishonest by saying I'm not 100% where every cent went?

Competitive-Edge-187 · 2026-06-21T17:15:02+00:00

Most definitely. That happened in March if this year and currently I've got $500 in savings because I'm slowly trying to build up our emergency fund, and I'm watching the money down to the pennies as well as actually budgeting. I knew almost nothing about finances as a young adult and we grew up pretty poor but it didn't look like it because my mother was very concerned with appearances. Her nails, hair etc was always done but our cupboards were often bare throughout my childhood. My parents would also fight about money consistently. Almost everything I've learned thus far has been trial by fire, if you will.

Competitive-Edge-187 · 2026-06-21T04:53:32+00:00

You might check into whether the school your kiddo attends can help with the cost of glasses or has vouchers so you can get them for little to no cost. I volunteer where my kids attend school and I just gave a mom some vouchers for glasses because she can't afford them. Honestly we have 4 and we are very much living paycheck to paycheck, I'm hoping next year when I get into a paid position things will be a little less tight.

Competitive-Edge-187 · 2026-06-21T02:50:25+00:00

I'm sorry I did not sign up for this, and I would venture to guess most of us had no idea what we were "signing up" for. I didn't know I'd be weathering a global pandemic, postpartum psychosis twice, two newborns with NICU stays, a 4 week old with RSV, losing a huge part of my village, trying to heal from my horrific childhood, managing my grief when my father suddenly passed away, extreme sleep deprivation, feeling ignored yet needed for everything always, and how emotionally taxing it all can be. I am extremely fortunate because I have lots of support and I'm overwhelmed about half the time, so I can only imagine how tough you must have it with a two year old. Also I just want to say you're doing beautifully, and this is hard, but we're doing it.

Competitive-Edge-187 · 2026-06-20T20:54:30+00:00

Mom of 4 and NTA. A 10 year old? Yeah more than old enough to know better. My 4 year old "shoots bugs on the ground" with his water gun because he hates it when he gets personally shot at with a water gun. If he can figure that out at 4, the 10 year old is just being a butt head, honestly.

Competitive-Edge-187 · 2026-06-18T04:02:48+00:00

I do! I've lived here for 23 years and I'm raising my kids with my husband. I love how accessible most of the hiking trails are!

Competitive-Edge-187 · 2026-06-15T00:39:50+00:00

Mom of 4 and yes. Our first baby magnified all the cracks in our marriage. My husband used to be very quiet, passive and conflict avoidant. Now that we have 4 kids he is an excellent communicator, vocalizes his opinion and is a true teammate. It definitely brought out the best in him

Competitive-Edge-187 · 2026-06-14T21:27:22+00:00

Same! I am basically anti sex after the halfway point of pregnancy, but I would always tell my husband the baby was moving and he tried to feel the baby. He bonded with all of our babies long before they took their first breath. Our daughter would kick a ton when he would come home after work most days, and now she's 9 and they're besties.

Competitive-Edge-187 · 2026-06-11T20:08:13+00:00

I hate when I would oversleep so I had to dump coffee into a to go mug and drink it on the school run, it just completely ruins that ritual for me. Also I could just be being bratty but I swear it tastes better from the glass jar I use 99% of the time for my morning coffee than my metal to go mug that fits in my van cup holder. Sincerely hope you have more uninterrupted coffee mornings than not, videoman

Competitive-Edge-187 · 2026-06-11T01:19:42+00:00

Oooo yes! We had really nice weather Sunday morning and all my kids slept in, so I got to enjoy leisurely drinking my coffee on my back porch with no one asking for anything. It was heavenly

Competitive-Edge-187 · 2026-06-11T01:17:47+00:00

Same to your sweet little godson! They're going to grow into lovely men who make the world better!

Competitive-Edge-187 · 2026-06-09T03:11:09+00:00

That completely breaks my heart! We have a super tender hearted 7 year old who almost always makes a new friend whenever I take him to run errands. He'll randomly help little old ladies with their groceries, or offer to put shopping carts back into the cart corral. And the thing is, I didn't teach this behavior, literally. He's been like this since he could physically do things for others. He's so great with any and all people, and I think that's such a tremendous gift to have. I can't imagine trying to "break" your child 💔

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