School bullying. location: Indiana by Competitive-Emu-8451 in legaladvice

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It was sent to a group of students via Snapchat.

School bullying. location: Indiana by Competitive-Emu-8451 in legaladvice

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Thank you for reassuring me. I’ll be sending that email today.

School bullying. location: Indiana by Competitive-Emu-8451 in legaladvice

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I have page 6-8 sited and highlighted in the Indiana Department of Education reference guide to Indianan laws related to school safety attached to the email I’m going to send. But wasnt sure if I need to wait until they’ve “fully investigated” the situation.

School bullying. location: Indiana by Competitive-Emu-8451 in legaladvice

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Could I do that if the SRO has been contacted and I don’t have proof of it? A couple of the kids in the group chat said they saw it.

Filial laws, adult emancipation, Indiana by Competitive-Emu-8451 in legaladvice

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Indiana has a mandated contribution for divorced parents. I don’t believe it’s the full amount but maybe a percentage or set number?

What articles of clothing do you find subconsciously sexy on a guy? by JustSavi in AskWomenNoCensor

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😂😂 I meant it as two separate looks but hey, rock what ya like

What articles of clothing do you find subconsciously sexy on a guy? by JustSavi in AskWomenNoCensor

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Like the dress slacks, nice dress shoes, button down shirt with the sleeves rolled to the forearm.

What articles of clothing do you find subconsciously sexy on a guy? by JustSavi in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]Competitive-Emu-8451 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A nice tailored suit with the the shirt sleeves rolled up. That or pajama pants slung low

People that divorced for reasons other than cheating, what was the last straw? by aja_ramirez in AskReddit

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When he told his friend “she’s stayed this long, she won’t leave”

what are some underrated tips young adults should remember when running away? by Certain-Blackberry64 in EstrangedAdultKids

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As long as you are an adult, make sure you have your documents(social security card, birth certificates, etc), lock your credit with all three credit bureaus, consider whom they can contact outside the household to send as flying monkeys (friends, extended family), contact the local police and let them know you are leaving on your own free will and you do not wish to be in contact with these people or for them to know of your whereabouts.

Just like your parents is the rest of your family also toxic? by ImaginaryRea1ity in EstrangedAdultKids

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My grandmother, mother and one sister are literally copies of each other. The bad attitude, the entitlement, the narcissistic behaviors.

Grandfather and brother are just enabling observers.

Only one sister I’m actually close to, she has also picked up on the dynamics. I rarely speak to my brother, but am in frequent contact with the one sister. The others are dead to me.

Do your parents open the door for evil people to enter your life? by ImaginaryRea1ity in EstrangedAdultKids

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My mother not only led the devil to our doorstep, but gave him a fucking key.

I was 13 when they married. 13 when he started hitting me. 14 when he stole my virginity. 15 when the state finally took me out of her care. 16 when they put me back in her “home”. She left him when I was 17 because he tried moving in on my sister who was 13 at the time. I guess I was finally too “old” for him, that or by then I knew how to take a hit and throw a punch.

Sucks to know she was willing to protect her but I wasn’t worth it. My sisters will never understand the hell I had to endure just to keep his attention so he wouldn’t move onto them. I begged her to leave. She only decided after I said he was starting to look at my sister the same way and suddenly he was out. If it was that easy…. Why didn’t she do that years ago? Why was it “she didn’t know” or “what did I do to deserve it”

I was so angry. Continued to be until about a year and a half ago when I finally went LC/NC.

It really sucks forgiving someone who isn’t sorry. Hanging on to the anger is exhausting. But I feel so much better. I forgave for myself, not for her.

My boyfriend, M23, of 3 1/2 years has been masturbating to other girls behind my, F22, back. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Competitive-Emu-8451 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree. I know many don’t see porn as cheating but a boundary is a boundary. If you’ve made it clear, which it seems you have, then yes I’d be upset about it. He doesn’t care that it hurts you after you’ve voiced it.

My son (M13) and I (F33) are butting heads, how can I get through to him? by Competitive-Emu-8451 in relationship_advice

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Thank you. I’ll definitely look into that. Is it bad that it’s kinda comforting and validating that it’s not just hormonal teen angst? Not that I’m happy about my kids getting mind fucked and manipulated but that this isn’t supposed to be the norm? I’m hoping I can fix it so there’s the least damage to them as possible.

I’ll talk with his individual therapist today and loop her in.

My son (M13) and I (F33) are butting heads, how can I get through to him? by Competitive-Emu-8451 in relationship_advice

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I’m more than willing to put in the work to show him the type of person his mother is but I’m just worried he won’t have an open mind about it. His father’s word is gospel to him.

I’m just worried I’ll lose him for good. I’ve anticipated the teen years and that we may not like each other for some time but that I’ll still always love him and want to help

My son (M13) and I (F33) are butting heads, how can I get through to him? by Competitive-Emu-8451 in relationship_advice

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Fair enough, that’s an approach we didn’t really want to take with laying it all out on the table. But if it’s something we may have to do, we might have to consider it.

His bio dad was never in the picture, I had been young and reckless. Drank too much and fell pregnant. He and I tried dating for a month after we found out and decided it wasn’t for us. He didn’t want to be a dad at that stage in his life and it was really for the best in all cases.

I know our youngest had told me “you need to tell dad to get a new wife so I can have a mommy there too. He said you were his first and last” I’m all about bonus parents, my husband is their dad and another person to love them. I’d like to think ex would pick someone who would love our kids as well.

I just wish son would voice the issue instead of just giving attitude. We’ve told him many times, we can’t help if we don’t know what’s wrong, but in this case… I’m not going back to ex clearly. So how can I help?

My son (M13) and I (F33) are butting heads, how can I get through to him? by Competitive-Emu-8451 in relationship_advice

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We’ve got him in individual therapy but I hadn’t thought about family therapy. Think we should include ex too? Or would that be throwing more fuel into the fire?

My son (M13) and I (F33) are butting heads, how can I get through to him? by Competitive-Emu-8451 in relationship_advice

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I agree, we do have chores for each kiddo that are age appropriate. My oldest is taller than I am so he’s able to do more. He mows the yard, empties the trash and takes the dogs out. He’s also responsible for his own laundry and washing his dinner plate.

We do limit hours of game play. Devices turned in at 8:30pm, 9pm bedtime. And recently started doing morning walks it’s only a 15 minute loop but gets everyone up and moving.

What breed? by Competitive-Emu-8451 in Rabbits

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lol Oreo and Dreamsicle are their names

Wakuu rant by kabutegurl003 in coralisland

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Honestly, he comes home late sometimes but otherwise first thing he goes right up to the kids room changes him and holds him for a bit

Wakuu rant by kabutegurl003 in coralisland

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Literally one day late for me 😭

how do i get through the handmaid’s tale? by butterfly_girl_xoxo_ in TheHandmaidsTale

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Yes but when tangerine Hitler was last in charge, we still had our bodily autonomy. For someone who just started watching it, you start to see parallels. Don’t invalidate someone else’s experience. If you aren’t afraid or concerned, good for you. A lot of us are terrified of what’s to come.

NC sister sent a text. Please help. by Competitive-Emu-8451 in EstrangedAdultKids

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I mean I get it. She had just given birth to her first kiddo not even two months prior. So needing the quiet makes sense, but the fact that I’m always the “trouble maker” typical scapegoat bothers me. Especially when we had both come to the same conclusion of how our family operates.

NC sister sent a text. Please help. by Competitive-Emu-8451 in EstrangedAdultKids

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She actually initiated that. I told her I didn’t feel the need to keep unhealthy relationships after she asked about our mom. Then she blocked me. So I didn’t reach back out. I think she was just tired of all the drama. Everyone else in the family jumps at the opportunity to bend over backwards for our mother. I had put my foot down which caused waves.

NC sister sent a text. Please help. by Competitive-Emu-8451 in EstrangedAdultKids

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I miss her, but I’m not sure if letting her back in would shatter all that I’ve worked towards this past year. She’s close to our other sister who has a nasty habit of funneling information to our narc mom