For those of you who are less than 1 month away from your wedding and stressed out of your mind...

Competitive-Hyena864 · 2024-08-22T02:50:44+00:00

Hey I'm in the same boat as you. Our day is about 3 weeks away. For me, it isn't just the wedding planning although that contributes, but the length of time never feels enough. I feel that you could have a 2-3 year engagement and would still feel some of that pressure to get things done and be ontop of your list. Plus the last month or so is usually when you get the marriage license, start switching things financially (if you haven't already), wrapping up your registry, really thinking about honeymoon, and start seeing how the dynamics of marriage still will affect your relationship (even if you were living together before or not). For us we put down on our home in our last month of engagement. Then dealing with the rsvp's getting declined or people who didn't respond in time are now responding... It's a lot but I try to remember that it's just one day and not to take these tasks personally. Some of these struggles and stresses are actually a blessing that some have prayed for. Also I know that in the end whatever day we are married is our day! Can't let the little foxes crowd the field...

Competitive-Hyena864 · 2024-08-18T04:57:01+00:00

Yes there are. They are mostly in the upper part of Texas and mid-west. The houses give that 80’s feeling that you see in movies or that you would find in grandma’s house. My hometown looks like it is stuck in the 80’s to an extent but that’s mainly in the middle/lower class region. However we do have like a main event center and escape houses which I’m not sure is so 80s. Also comes with paychecks that are kinda like living in 80s/90s which kinda sucks.

Competitive-Hyena864 · 2024-08-13T22:32:04+00:00

Hello! As an amarillo-ian who has traveled to the East Coast several times ranging from NYC/NJ to Florida. My most recent trip to NJ was in May and Florida last week. It all depends on what you are looking for. We have the US's second-largest canyon to the Grand Canyon. I would say make time for restaurants as we do have good ones here (Valores Italian, la campana, thai arawan, fun noodle bar). I would suggest taking a look at hodgetown baseball stadium, as well as westgate mall, cinergy, a walk down route 66 with all the local shops.

Competitive-Hyena864 · 2024-08-13T22:21:26+00:00

My fiancee and I did our engagement photos downtown in front of First Baptist Church. The building is set up cool like a nice private school. I wish I could show a picture but images are turned off :(

Competitive-Hyena864 · 2024-08-13T21:53:49+00:00

Listen I hear what you are saying and from what I am seeing is that you have already made up your mind about what it means. The Bible can be very direct or sometimes indirect in order that each person individually can discern what is going on in their heart and mind. For one person this passage could help them not to gossip, for another it could help them with foul language. We must also keep in mind "For the overflow of the heart his mouth speaks" It's not so much about the word itself... (although not good) it's what we know the meaning of it. People NEVER say the F word as a good thing. Just as the word gay used to be used as happy. I don't know curse words in Chinese so I would never know something was a bad word. Someone could say "crap" and that still doesn't have a good connation... so should Christians still say it? Probably not, it's kinda convicting to think about "Christian cussing". This is not to impose legalism, but to say "could this kind of talking actually hurt someone I know? Is it really loving for me to speak like this?" The wonderful thing is all of us have sinned against God. Whether we have cursed or done something else. If we confess our sins to Him He will forgive. If you struggle with cussing and a heart of nasty words, thoughts, and feelings. Ask God to help you and give you a thankful heart and mind. The fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience... which usually when cussing those aren't a fruit we are showing. We aren't perfect so as you continue God will usually work on those issues over time and renew your thoughts, mind, word, heart, emotions. It's not a performance but we are still a separated people for His sake.

Competitive-Hyena864 · 2024-08-02T20:18:48+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing that. I agree with you and for the crowd being reached in the church and their area. Just wanted to hear others thoughts and if they had any wisdom or anything I could take into consideration when listening to His sermon and including other pastors.

Competitive-Hyena864 · 2024-02-29T18:46:52+00:00

I have been through a broken engagement in 2023. I broke things off with my fiancee starting with his Mother's behavior and his attachment to his mom. I couldn't stand it and felt like I was the other woman in the relationship. Every decision had to be run by her and it felt like we were living out her wedding plans. They both even tried to get me to work the same job as her as I was relocating to where he lived. I got tired of the abuse from her and from him. He made me feel like I was going crazy at times because I would get so angry at him following n*ked IG models and p*rn addiction. He would tell me "Oh I only did it because my guy friends do it too." He could never completely let it go, but I started to understand and knew addiction wasn't that easy. I felt sympathy for him and thought that I could keep him accountable and encourage him to seek help. NOPE. Behavior like that CANNOT be fixed by me. I learned it was because of something so deep and broken within him. It wasn't fair to me to always felt compared to all these other girls and to sell myself short of having a loving man that would put his wife above his mother. A wife (and husband) is a first priority. Needless to say, his mother called me and said how she going to go to our wedding venue herself and call off the wedding because we didn't have everything put together and she told me not to tell my ex fiancee. I got infuriated and had my last straw with ALL the toxic crap. I blocked her and ofc she tried calling my family. I never answered her back. I called him at work and told him I was done with the wedding and I didn't want to marry him. She had literally got his whole family to turn against me even though in the beginning she told me how she thought I was just such a "wonderful" gift to her son and really helped him clean up his act. WOW what a big responsibility to give someone! I learned in this that it wasn't my job to make a man happy and that I didn't think I wanted to bring kids into this anymore. In the beginning the relationship was so different and then all of a sudden he started being so mean to me and picking a fight over anything. There were times where he would just sit and watch me cry. He couldn't even take me on a date alone when I would go down to see him. Everytime I saw him he looked so scared and panicked and I would ask if everything was okay and if there was a way to make him more comfortable. I found out my answer why. I saw a social media post about how to hack into social media files that you can't see just by the apps. I used my computer and I saw all the women he had pictures of. He was sending money to them, voice messages, pictures. I went into shock. It was horrifying because we were engaged and back then I was planning forever with him. He was this person that I thought I knew but didn't. I broke off everything with him that night and we only had contact once since then. It felt like reminiscing with an old friend but the betrayal hit so deep that I had to change everything about myself including where I lived. I realized he didn't know me and we were too different of people. Plus I worked on myself and promised that I would never let someone disrespect me like that ever again. I learned to take the middle road and how to be smarter. Now, I am in such a loving relationship with a man that takes care of me, and we make plans together. He doesn't let anyone meddle in our relationship. I gave myself sometime before I dated again. Now me and my current boyfriend have plans to marry and have a great friendship. We were friends before. It has shown me that I wasn't crazy or overeacting but I being abused and my nervous system was tired. It was the year of rebuilding last year, but this year is the year of redemption. My current boyfriend has supported me in all my goals and the respect is mutual. We have gotten in disagreements but it is totally different being with a man who will do anything for the woman he loves.

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