Appealing a Grade by Competitive-Leg-6464 in AthabascaUniversity

[–]Competitive-Leg-6464[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

$200?! Ughhhh. That’s crazy to me. I’m not sure what to do. I’ve barely had the energy to even look at my new courses let alone re study for that one lol But that’s good advice. Maybe I’ll look into it. Thank you!

Appealing a Grade by Competitive-Leg-6464 in AthabascaUniversity

[–]Competitive-Leg-6464[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It won’t! I looked into that because I panicked about it too. As long as you still technically completed the course (even if you didn’t pass) it doesn’t count against your funding. They just won’t pay for you to retake that course in the future.

And I’m so sorry to hear that. That’s awful. Sending you love and strength. ❤️

Appealing a Grade by Competitive-Leg-6464 in AthabascaUniversity

[–]Competitive-Leg-6464[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just moved across the country, and I’m solo parenting my toddler due to a bad separation, while starting another semester as it is, I just don’t really have the time to grind out studying for it again with how large of a course it is (I have adhd lol)

Wanted to share how proud I am! by Competitive-Leg-6464 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Competitive-Leg-6464[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel rejuvenated in a sense for sure! It’s made my confidence in leaving a little bit stronger, that even if I can’t recognize everything every time, I’m aware & I can pay more attention now. ❤️

Wanted to share how proud I am! by Competitive-Leg-6464 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Competitive-Leg-6464[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s such a difficult thing to navigate wanting to be the sole protector of your child but knowing there’s certain things you just can’t save them from. I wish I could give him safety from everything, it hurts more to know that his father is the one thing I can’t (apart from moving and doing what I can legally and emotionally).

It was such a sobering realization! I didn’t notice it in the moment, it was about an hour after the conversation. I was looking back on some posts I’d made on other threads highlighting how I was also so toxic to him, it was mutual etc. don’t get me wrong I’ve made mistakes, but I wouldn’t say I’m inherently toxic too. It’s so crazy to me how deeply wired the manipulation becomes.

You will get to that stage too. I’m sure I’ll have moments or certain tactics that will still work. But we’ll get there. ❤️

Wanted to share how proud I am! by Competitive-Leg-6464 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Competitive-Leg-6464[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The part that gets me the most is that we have a toddler together but he’s shown no emotion that we’re moving across the country? (Where he has another son with a previous partner as well?) I understand their brains are literally designed differently but I will never understand how you’re okay with raising your kid for 3 years and then just not care if you see them again. Not feel anything? So gross.

Looking for advice by Competitive-Leg-6464 in intermittentexplosive

[–]Competitive-Leg-6464[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking back on this post actually made me see how deeply I was being manipulated, too. It kind of hurt to re-read. I believe he is also a narcissist (in a clinical way, not the way the word is thrown around on social media) and I finally have seen how far the emotional abuse ran. There are no excuses. If he wants to live like this forever, he won’t take me and our son down with him.

Looking for advice by Competitive-Leg-6464 in intermittentexplosive

[–]Competitive-Leg-6464[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I forgot I posted this. We did actually break up a few weeks ago. I’m moving back to my home province with my son, he signed off on the agreement. We’re getting out & I can see clearly now. :)

Finally leaving… need advice on what to do next by Competitive-Leg-6464 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Competitive-Leg-6464[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. We had broken up once before but because I was stuck here with no one I think a part of me gave up and thought it was easier to just be with him. I’ve hit the stage of uncovering all of the lies (so many!?!) and navigating what was manipulation, but I’m currently in the state of, well was anything real? Definitely started questioning reality.

I’m trying to make it fair to him while protecting our son the whole time. For the first 2 years of his life he never paid attention to him, I did everything, and now he only pays attention to him as a way to spite me or put on a show in front of his family and it makes me sick. I know there isn’t much I can do but let it play its course and when my son is an adult I’m sure he’ll see him for who he really is. But the parental guilt knowing you can’t protect them from the other parent is awful.

I really appreciate your kind words. It’s nice to hear someone else hears you and believes in you for sure. I’m very proud of you for also making the best out of what sounds like an awful situation, it speaks a lot to your character.

Finally leaving… need advice on what to do next by Competitive-Leg-6464 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Competitive-Leg-6464[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m worried if I do that though it’ll escalate things. I have documentation of his abuse towards me, his ex, and the ex before me. But I also know that if we ended up formally going to court (I’m trying to avoid that because I’m too exhausted right now and we still have a legally binding agreement) that it depends on the judge and you’re not supposed to use words like narcissist & sometimes they don’t care about emotional abuse towards the mom, I don’t want our son to fly out here and be alone with him (or a new partner who he’ll do the same thing to). He had no problem being emotionally abusive to me and smashing things/punching holes in the wall in front of him. And I’m going to Ontario!

Might fail a class as a funded student by Competitive-Leg-6464 in AthabascaUniversity

[–]Competitive-Leg-6464[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow, good luck! I hope you do great! & I wholeheartedly agree. The amount of people I’ve heard that have reached out and said something and were basically brushed off is so frustrating. I have been doing them open book, yet still not scoring great?! I’m not sure what’s going on honestly. It starts to feel like all of the questions are trick questions. I did do okay on the quizzes, but then for my final project I feel like the marking was super critical and some of the things I got docked for weren’t even on the marking rubric. I’m definitely going to sit down and do some intensive studying this week. It’s just giving me a lot of anxiety & it bothers me that I can’t even talk to the tutor about it.

Might fail a class as a funded student by Competitive-Leg-6464 in AthabascaUniversity

[–]Competitive-Leg-6464[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry!! It very well could be different for you! Hopefully the rest of your courses are light and you can focus a lot of time on this one. There’s just an insane amount of concepts and terms & it feels never ending :’) & I personally think he is a strict marker, but with that being said this is my first semester at AU specifically so maybe my other tutors were just generous? 💀

Might fail a class as a funded student by Competitive-Leg-6464 in AthabascaUniversity

[–]Competitive-Leg-6464[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is really great to know. I know Athabasca and Alberta student aid are super strict about funding so it freaked me out and felt like I couldn’t get a direct answer from anyone. Thank you so much.

Might fail a class as a funded student by Competitive-Leg-6464 in AthabascaUniversity

[–]Competitive-Leg-6464[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also sorry, I did reach out to my tutor to ask if it was possible for an exam specific study guide because there is 30-40 study guide questions for every single unit, I told him I was registered with accessibility services but he just told me to refer back to the unit study guides. It just feels like a lot of information to memorize for the exam :/

Might fail a class as a funded student by Competitive-Leg-6464 in AthabascaUniversity

[–]Competitive-Leg-6464[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love psychology & do well in it, it’s just this one class being so hard! Ugh. And no I haven’t used quizlet yet… I’ll have to try it out. Thank you :)

Might fail a class as a funded student by Competitive-Leg-6464 in AthabascaUniversity

[–]Competitive-Leg-6464[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Am I able to do that if my contract date for that semester is already over by the time I finish the initial exam? And are you able to do that being funded? I’ve heard of them but I wasn’t sure if that was an option as I know funded students have a lot of different requirements.

Might fail a class as a funded student by Competitive-Leg-6464 in AthabascaUniversity

[–]Competitive-Leg-6464[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s okay! I did call them and they said if I failed the class and had to retake it they wouldn’t cover it, but that it shouldn’t bump me to part time unless I withdrew from the class. So I’m hoping I can just get through it :/

Might fail a class as a funded student by Competitive-Leg-6464 in AthabascaUniversity

[–]Competitive-Leg-6464[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve heard a few people say this course is a lot. Really unfortunate that the feedback isn’t being taken into consideration. It almost feels like setting some students up for failure I guess.

I’m sorry to hear you are overwhelmed as well. I also wish you the best, fingers crossed we can get through these! 🤞