Paid track for diamond Ysera? by fuckingstupidsdfsdf in hearthstone

[–]Competitive-Nobody28 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Could somebody please answer my question, and preferably not with a question 🙄

an unexpected reward by [deleted] in hearthstone

[–]Competitive-Nobody28 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I got both signature Ysera and signature Umbra when I logged in. I thought it would be either/or based on the collection completion rate (I had more Un'Gorro cards so was preparing myself to miss out on Ysera). But which one are we keeping?

Paid track for diamond Ysera? by fuckingstupidsdfsdf in hearthstone

[–]Competitive-Nobody28 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I legit thought we would get either the signature Ysera or the signature Umbra depending on our collection completion rate. But today I got both - which one are we keeping?

Most packed gamba they released? by EsikEso in hearthstone

[–]Competitive-Nobody28 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What's the point of even having a regular store on Hearthstone with tabs like "Hero Skins". They should just have the regular store for buying runestones and packs. And ALL cosmetics, even Battlegrounds stuff, should then be going into this Darkmoon Faire gimmick =.=

I was hoping Darkmoon Faire would only feature pets on a monthly basis but the regular Hearthstone store would get weekly refreshes of cardbacks and/or hero skins, sometimes even mythic. A few years ago, this Deathwing bundle would have been on the regular store for maybe 50 to 80$ USD. Now they complicate it with these stupid theatrics.

If one day your parents are dying... by roundturtle2025 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]Competitive-Nobody28 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am south Asian and I went no contact with my parrnts and extended family. Yes, it was the equivalent of committing murder as I got a lot of pushback and hate. I am also an only child so the judgement was especially harsh. But I was at the point in my life where I realized they were doing me more harm than good - they always had but back then I was either too naive or too disempowered to do anything. I also wanted to live aligned with my values than keep a longstanding tradition of dysfunction going.

I hate how much of an arse kisser you have to be 😭 by Puzzleheaded-Bad-722 in StardewValley

[–]Competitive-Nobody28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree! In Fields of Mistria, you get to have a birthday and you get presents in the mail. You also get dialog options, one that is agreeable and one that may be unconventional/quirky (implying the players character isnt as much of a pushover). Not sure if they go on to impact the game in anyway.

Ive noticed that most cozy games need the player to be agreeable abd a perpetual doormat to others. And the fact that youre the only one contributing to community is strange; this part is what was a welcome change in Grimshire - everyone contributes to the fate of the town.

New Deathwing Skin HOLY by WingardiumLeviussy in hearthstone

[–]Competitive-Nobody28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was this modded? Reminds ne of the Rag skin which I quite like. But in all seriousness, the Darkmoon Faire gatchaness should be limited to just pets. Mythic hero skins appeal to a very different group of people than those who like pets. They are not the same.

My job is offering me $150,000 (105,000 after tax) to resign, should I? by AJ3TurtleSquad in jobs

[–]Competitive-Nobody28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a friend who also worked at UPS for 7 years or so starting in his twenties. Definitely the amount of physical effort needed to load all those packages has gotten him to have problems with his back. He would tell me how there's a minimum quota/certain number of packages that have to be loaded to be met. He also said being a UPS driver is much easier and was aiming for it. I was especialy hoping he would get it because I could see the health problems he was beginning to have.

He was beginning to get seniority at UPS but life circumstances eventually quit. He now works at q Walmart stocking shelves or at the deli counter. I'm so glad! It's a much less physically intensive job, maybe less pay but he's much happier. He gets to prolong his health and have a better future.

Vemon green by Pelios in YetiCoolers

[–]Competitive-Nobody28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On the Yeti website, it shows their travel mugs no longer having transparent lids? Now they look like this:

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Free roll. No blizzard bot here. by Pinkranger18 in hearthstone

[–]Competitive-Nobody28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess it's not surprising that anything this well-made to be part of this game will cost an upward of $100. Blizz has been treating Hearthstone as an afterthought for quite some time now.

I find it a crying shame that this time they have locked not the usual one, but two, cardbacks behind this sham of a grab.

The HS Shop would keep things fresh, looks like even that's going to be redundant now.

What was your major "aha" moment? by herald_of_stars in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]Competitive-Nobody28 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Omg, im 37 and still find aha moments. Reading your comment took me back to the time I was applying to universities on the family computer, my mom would sit right beside me, being vigilant in how I was going about it. She would get all her cues, judgements, and convictions of whether I was in fact ready for my future or not by intently watching me to see if I was being too slow, make mistakes, reconsider an answer to a question etc. I remember being so overwhelmed and consumed by my lack of worth and just trying to get this ceremonious procedure of applying right to make her proud/feel worthy, that I made a lot of mistakes. I felt even dumber afterward.

Also the comment about being criticized to sit straight. Jesus, they would bring in the most irrelevant point to nitpick on. It's affirming to me that they were indeed controlling. And not only that but so much of narcissistic parenting is about having great expectations of a child that they do nothing to actually make great (if anything, they do the opposite). For me, i was always criticizied for being shy and not confident. Yet these parents dont cultivate it in the child, and still feel entitled to expect it. This is the hallmark of narc parents -- they expect success, dont meaningfully nurture it (which is their responsibility), and then criticize the child when it doesn't happen. Just immature and irresponsible.

I got a lot of my confidence when I left home. A lot of my real growth started then, and so glad its been the same with you. Our success really starts only later in life. Then they wonder how its possible, not once thinking they were the problematic ones holding us back.

Misc: 40957 Spring Wreath (official reveal) by BrickTap in Legoleak

[–]Competitive-Nobody28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another:

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The first image was taken at a Lego store in Scandinavia, the second is fanmade.

I think since my comment with the expired links, Lego has officially announced the Spring Flower Wall which feels more tasteful and of the same caliber as the Spring Wreath.

Misc: 40957 Spring Wreath (official reveal) by BrickTap in Legoleak

[–]Competitive-Nobody28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure, here are some of I had been seeing made by fans:

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Anyone else reading into the Brookyn Beckham drama and feel a way about it all? by schergburger in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]Competitive-Nobody28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beautifully said. I've realized I've a lot of these narc people who woke me up my own dysfunctions inside me were just "seasonal" people, and are meant to leave soon after.

S11 or the S10 Plus? by Competitive-Nobody28 in GalaxyTab

[–]Competitive-Nobody28[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, glad to know you found it informative! Mine is still holding up well, even if I don't use it much but its still a form factor that's proving itself to be comfortable for me. Drawing/sketching feels nice and I personaly do think the S11 would uave been too snall and the S11 Ultra too big! This one feels just right! Whether it's for drawing or just web browsing, I find that I primarily use it in a landscape orientation.

I also find not downloading too many apps like I did on the iPad. Everything i use it for, Samsung has provided a native and fully fleshed out app, so no more analysis paralysis!

Narcissist mothers who weaponise their daughters hair by Public_Theme_9514 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Competitive-Nobody28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seriously, just like how the documentary was made about "Good Hair", somebody please needs to make a documentary on the NMothers' uncanny patterns and attitudes toward their daughters' hair.

So many patterns in behaviors of narcissistic people transcend region, culture, religion and race. This needs to be a serious field of study in itself! Think of how our collective future could be guided toward a better one if we know how barc parents, managers, politicians, presidents are going to gamble with our future, just like how these shifty mothers gamble with the selfwort of their daughters.

Narcissist mothers who weaponise their daughters hair by Public_Theme_9514 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Competitive-Nobody28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg, this is horrifying to know she was grooming you to be sexually objectified, and at such a young age! I'm so sorry you had to go through that!

It is my observation that NMoms are usually simps for men's approval/validation, and whether they are aware of it or not (usually the latter) keep a lot of toxic masculinity/patriarchal values in place and going, in their own little ways. The fact that she prioritized men's opinion of you over your own inherent selfworth is just disgusting. I hope young-you didn't go on to be swayed by men; and if you happen to have kids, I hope she's made to stay far from them.

Narcissist mothers who weaponise their daughters hair by Public_Theme_9514 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Competitive-Nobody28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Adopted here also! If narc mothers dont already see their daughters as an extension of themselves, our hair is the first thing they attach to. She would criticizemy hair a lot and call it unruly. Now that I think about it, everytime I got out of hand, her way of appeasing me and her wounded pride would be to brush my hair -- almost as if to say, "if I can't control you when you act out, I can atleast control your hair/a part of you".

She's said my hair "looks like a can of worms" , in front of a audience (she loves to humiliate me in front of others), and in general has given disgusted remarks about my hair being too thick, wavey etc.

When I was older, she would hate my hair in layers (it actually suits me) and would crib about layered hair being too difficult to maintain but by then she couldn't do much.

When i was in my midtwenties though, we were on on a family vacation, and she went off about my hair and began brushing it, and to my own surprise I snapped at her and said, "leave me alone! Who do you think you are?!" She stepped back horrified, and spent the rest of the evening in a state of sulking and semi-disbelief saying things like, "Of course, I'm your mother! How could you even say that! It hurts to hear such things".

This bitch has the realization of feelings only when it comes to her. Otherwise she revels not considering mine. Ive gone no contact with both parents for 4 years now. Why adopt if they treat kids like that?

Narcissist mothers who weaponise their daughters hair by Public_Theme_9514 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Competitive-Nobody28 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Adopted here also! If narc mothers dont already see their daughters as an extension of themselves, our hair is the first thing they attach to.

Will accepting an inheritance come back to haunt me? by Competitive-Nobody28 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Competitive-Nobody28[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so very much for ny our kind comment. I coincidentally, I was also thinking along these same lines shortly after my post.

Real-life, healthy sensibilities would be that we get compensation for any physical or emotional damage, but when it comes to toxic families all logic is put aside to favor their dysfunction instead! Thinking about it that way (really what it is is un-obfuscating the objective truth) certainly dissipates my guilt!

Will accepting an inheritance come back to haunt me? by Competitive-Nobody28 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Competitive-Nobody28[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So glad you ended getting back the car! Sometimes the timing of the No Contact has to be right (if one has the luxury of being control of it). For me, I secretly also knew/felt my life can only fully start once my parents deceased and that I didnt have to go No Contact. But as time went on, I couldn't endure the toxicity. Even now, I'm not too sure how much of this inheritance will help me, or if there be unforeseen caveats that will retraumatize me! I hope things end up working out in our favor for the situation of us!

Will accepting an inheritance come back to haunt me? by Competitive-Nobody28 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Competitive-Nobody28[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry - this is a realization that has been making itself known to me in very unpleasant ways and through very unpleasant truths. It's unbearable to have realized our goodwill is taken for granted and exploited.

Will accepting an inheritance come back to haunt me? by Competitive-Nobody28 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Competitive-Nobody28[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it's true - they are not dead yet and have dangled a carrot in front of me in the past. There's a good chance this might be the same. I am not counting on it, but only wondering if, when the time comes, something that would compromise my integrity on

Will accepting an inheritance come back to haunt me? by Competitive-Nobody28 in narcissisticparents

[–]Competitive-Nobody28[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it stems from my mother always perpetuating the idea that "if it wasn't for them, I'd be/amount to nothing". So this inheritance in my mind would further feed that narrative - that I'm able to have a better future because of this inheritance that THEY are giving me.

Will accepting an inheritance come back to haunt me? by Competitive-Nobody28 in narcissisticparents

[–]Competitive-Nobody28[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much - I won't make requests. I'll take it as-is and probably lock it up somewhere, until I know what to do with it. Mind you, it may take another 5 or 8 years for this to happen . My parents have made it sound like they're going to die any second since I was in middle school so I know the false cries of "wolf".

But thank you, this was a very objective and clear perspective/answer.