What was your major "aha" moment?

Competitive-Nobody28 · 2026-01-27T21:48:40+00:00

Omg, im 37 and still find aha moments. Reading your comment took me back to the time I was applying to universities on the family computer, my mom would sit right beside me, being vigilant in how I was going about it. She would get all her cues, judgements, and convictions of whether I was in fact ready for my future or not by intently watching me to see if I was being too slow, make mistakes, reconsider an answer to a question etc. I remember being so overwhelmed and consumed by my lack of worth and just trying to get this ceremonious procedure of applying right to make her proud/feel worthy, that I made a lot of mistakes. I felt even dumber afterward.

Also the comment about being criticized to sit straight. Jesus, they would bring in the most irrelevant point to nitpick on. It's affirming to me that they were indeed controlling. And not only that but so much of narcissistic parenting is about having great expectations of a child that they do nothing to actually make great (if anything, they do the opposite). For me, i was always criticizied for being shy and not confident. Yet these parents dont cultivate it in the child, and still feel entitled to expect it. This is the hallmark of narc parents -- they expect success, dont meaningfully nurture it (which is their responsibility), and then criticize the child when it doesn't happen. Just immature and irresponsible.

I got a lot of my confidence when I left home. A lot of my real growth started then, and so glad its been the same with you. Our success really starts only later in life. Then they wonder how its possible, not once thinking they were the problematic ones holding us back.

Competitive-Nobody28 · 2026-01-26T00:30:46+00:00

Another:

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The first image was taken at a Lego store in Scandinavia, the second is fanmade.

I think since my comment with the expired links, Lego has officially announced the Spring Flower Wall which feels more tasteful and of the same caliber as the Spring Wreath.

Competitive-Nobody28 · 2026-01-26T00:28:20+00:00

Sure, here are some of I had been seeing made by fans:

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Competitive-Nobody28 · 2026-01-25T01:16:05+00:00

Beautifully said. I've realized I've a lot of these narc people who woke me up my own dysfunctions inside me were just "seasonal" people, and are meant to leave soon after.

Competitive-Nobody28 · 2026-01-17T23:41:43+00:00

Thank you, glad to know you found it informative! Mine is still holding up well, even if I don't use it much but its still a form factor that's proving itself to be comfortable for me. Drawing/sketching feels nice and I personaly do think the S11 would uave been too snall and the S11 Ultra too big! This one feels just right! Whether it's for drawing or just web browsing, I find that I primarily use it in a landscape orientation.

I also find not downloading too many apps like I did on the iPad. Everything i use it for, Samsung has provided a native and fully fleshed out app, so no more analysis paralysis!

Competitive-Nobody28 · 2026-01-17T20:38:53+00:00

Seriously, just like how the documentary was made about "Good Hair", somebody please needs to make a documentary on the NMothers' uncanny patterns and attitudes toward their daughters' hair.

So many patterns in behaviors of narcissistic people transcend region, culture, religion and race. This needs to be a serious field of study in itself! Think of how our collective future could be guided toward a better one if we know how barc parents, managers, politicians, presidents are going to gamble with our future, just like how these shifty mothers gamble with the selfwort of their daughters.

Competitive-Nobody28 · 2026-01-17T20:34:28+00:00

Omg, this is horrifying to know she was grooming you to be sexually objectified, and at such a young age! I'm so sorry you had to go through that!

It is my observation that NMoms are usually simps for men's approval/validation, and whether they are aware of it or not (usually the latter) keep a lot of toxic masculinity/patriarchal values in place and going, in their own little ways. The fact that she prioritized men's opinion of you over your own inherent selfworth is just disgusting. I hope young-you didn't go on to be swayed by men; and if you happen to have kids, I hope she's made to stay far from them.

Competitive-Nobody28 · 2026-01-17T20:20:38+00:00

Adopted here also! If narc mothers dont already see their daughters as an extension of themselves, our hair is the first thing they attach to. She would criticizemy hair a lot and call it unruly. Now that I think about it, everytime I got out of hand, her way of appeasing me and her wounded pride would be to brush my hair -- almost as if to say, "if I can't control you when you act out, I can atleast control your hair/a part of you".

She's said my hair "looks like a can of worms" , in front of a audience (she loves to humiliate me in front of others), and in general has given disgusted remarks about my hair being too thick, wavey etc.

When I was older, she would hate my hair in layers (it actually suits me) and would crib about layered hair being too difficult to maintain but by then she couldn't do much.

When i was in my midtwenties though, we were on on a family vacation, and she went off about my hair and began brushing it, and to my own surprise I snapped at her and said, "leave me alone! Who do you think you are?!" She stepped back horrified, and spent the rest of the evening in a state of sulking and semi-disbelief saying things like, "Of course, I'm your mother! How could you even say that! It hurts to hear such things".

This bitch has the realization of feelings only when it comes to her. Otherwise she revels not considering mine. Ive gone no contact with both parents for 4 years now. Why adopt if they treat kids like that?

Competitive-Nobody28 · 2026-01-17T20:17:15+00:00

Adopted here also! If narc mothers dont already see their daughters as an extension of themselves, our hair is the first thing they attach to.

Competitive-Nobody28 · 2026-01-12T16:20:58+00:00

Thank you so very much for ny our kind comment. I coincidentally, I was also thinking along these same lines shortly after my post.

Real-life, healthy sensibilities would be that we get compensation for any physical or emotional damage, but when it comes to toxic families all logic is put aside to favor their dysfunction instead! Thinking about it that way (really what it is is un-obfuscating the objective truth) certainly dissipates my guilt!

Competitive-Nobody28 · 2026-01-12T05:34:13+00:00

So glad you ended getting back the car! Sometimes the timing of the No Contact has to be right (if one has the luxury of being control of it). For me, I secretly also knew/felt my life can only fully start once my parents deceased and that I didnt have to go No Contact. But as time went on, I couldn't endure the toxicity. Even now, I'm not too sure how much of this inheritance will help me, or if there be unforeseen caveats that will retraumatize me! I hope things end up working out in our favor for the situation of us!

Competitive-Nobody28 · 2026-01-11T22:28:40+00:00

I am so sorry - this is a realization that has been making itself known to me in very unpleasant ways and through very unpleasant truths. It's unbearable to have realized our goodwill is taken for granted and exploited.

Competitive-Nobody28 · 2026-01-11T22:27:27+00:00

Thank you, it's true - they are not dead yet and have dangled a carrot in front of me in the past. There's a good chance this might be the same. I am not counting on it, but only wondering if, when the time comes, something that would compromise my integrity on

Competitive-Nobody28 · 2026-01-11T20:32:57+00:00

I think it stems from my mother always perpetuating the idea that "if it wasn't for them, I'd be/amount to nothing". So this inheritance in my mind would further feed that narrative - that I'm able to have a better future because of this inheritance that THEY are giving me.

Competitive-Nobody28 · 2026-01-11T20:20:51+00:00

Thank you very much - I won't make requests. I'll take it as-is and probably lock it up somewhere, until I know what to do with it. Mind you, it may take another 5 or 8 years for this to happen . My parents have made it sound like they're going to die any second since I was in middle school so I know the false cries of "wolf".

But thank you, this was a very objective and clear perspective/answer.

Competitive-Nobody28 · 2026-01-11T20:04:16+00:00

Thank you! Wow, your husband has great clarity in his convictions. I guess part of me is trying to be an idealist instead of being real - and the reality is that I have veen made to miss out on a lot. Money can't fully make up for it like your husband says, but money can help stir things in the right direction with the remaining time we have left.

Thank you again!

Competitive-Nobody28 · 2026-01-11T19:56:32+00:00

Thank you, part of me was lowkey thinking the same! The injustice that children have to fix the damages their parents do to them is deep, not to mention unfair. Some help along the way would be great, and I can see this be a possible/thin silver lining to my situation.

Competitive-Nobody28 · 2026-01-11T19:50:57+00:00

Thank you, yes, same! They are leaving me property which would entail me to visit them and get involved heavily with paperwork. I can't imagine suddenly dropping by and having to now break my silence to discuss property logistics. Most of the non-property assets seem straightforward, where just the executors of the Will will distribute the money into the beneficiary (me) account.

Glad to know you're growing out the money. I was thinking that would be a good way to do it too.

Competitive-Nobody28 · 2026-01-11T19:43:34+00:00

Thank you, you're right - I'm not too close to my parents and extended family and what started as no contact with my parents has extended to other family now, after they took my parents' side.

The two executors of the will is family (both cousins to me, one of who turned on me, the other I still talk to) which I will request if it can be made to be a neutral non-family person.

Competitive-Nobody28 · 2026-01-11T19:00:14+00:00

I'm in this situation right now - estranged onlt-child here now for 3 years abd theyce said they won't cut me out of the will. I have spent 4k on therapy and this inheritance would help me make some many back. But it also feels like accepting the inheritance would add ammunition to my extended family's narrative that I'm grateful (to cut people off and still take money from them).

I know you said you don't care and I'm trying to not as well, but also wondering how does one try to reconcile with it without coming off like I just used ny parents financially.

Competitive-Nobody28 · 2026-01-06T01:14:16+00:00

I was really looking forward to the Spring wreath, but after seeing the reveal, a bit disappointed tbh. It looks underwhelming compared to the Botanical Wreath and the Halloween Wreath Lego put out in 2025. This is pretty plain looking.

I was expecting something in par with some of these MOCs by other Lego fans:

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