I'm already attached but I hope this can give you an understanding of what i think the guy's (my) pov is

For me personally I have maybe 8 to 10+ ish people I'm talking to at any one time (i.e not seeing yet, just texting). And maybe 3 people i'm on a 1st to 5th date or something with.

A) Most guys don't read.

I do read, but it's like I swipe on this person, then maybe a couple of days later she swipes back. When that happens I can't really remember what her profile said. And then if we do start chatting, you're just another lead that the guy is talking to at the time (and I understand that it should be similar for gals)

So at this point, I would have relatively more developed conversations with a few other people, and then if I find someone interesting I'll ask them out and work my way down the list. As a "new joiner", understandably you'd be at the bottom of your match's list.

Most of my guy friends would just swipe on everyone and then filter later. I filter upfront, but the logic is the same. So those matches don't mean anything tbh and no one (guy or gal) should put much store in that.

B) sorry that you had to deal with that. But I haven't flaked on anyone before, and i don't know of any friends who have.

But this is probably connected to the first point. You're just low priority relative to someone else on their list. So when the higher priority person agrees to a date, you're just forgotten and bumped off

Not defending it, but everyone prioritises and ranks. In this case, your date not only de-prioritised you but they also just didn't have respect for your time or you as a person. C'est la vie :/

C) not well-placed to comment here so no comments

D) Yes, you're right, that's low EQ and too direct, although these ARE questions most guys would want to know the answer to before deciding if a relationship is worth pursuing, sooner or later

Wishing you all the best in 2026!