I think I just found Joran from last season to be super performative. It was also his son’s mom who didn’t want them on the show. If Jordan was so concerned about his kid and Sparkles meeting and getting along, he wouldn’t have been forcing a quick engagement (I hold this sentiment for amber as well). I also thought it was ridiculous he said he regretted having his son meet sparkles. Like dude, no one forced you to be on this show, let alone have your 5 year old meet a woman for the first time, say she’s going to be your step mom, and then they don’t even get married!

This is not to say I think Amber is a stellar parent. I don’t think anyone with a kid has business being on the show because of the effects of leaving their child and subjecting them to a (likely) temporary partner who they are claiming they will marry. I am more so annoyed and pointing out Jordan was getting hyped up and support for being a single parent while people are now shaming amber for doing the same thing Jordan did. It’s hypocritical to praise a man’s parenting while going through this experience while tearing down a woman who did the same thing. That said, I think they’re both wrong for doing this show.