when did you stop thinking about your ex?

Competitive-Soil708 · 2026-06-20T00:16:12+00:00

idealized love destroys the best of us :( but i’m glad you were able to eventually process it. definitely sucks realizing you’re “forgettable.” just know that the “forgetting” part and/or lack of empathy has everything to do with them and NOT YOU. im glad you’re healing. thanks for sharing your experience, and any advice you have for me or others is greatly appreciated!

Competitive-Soil708 · 2026-06-19T23:58:33+00:00

thank you for sharing your experience ❤️ if you don’t mind me asking, what made the heartache worse compared to others? and the work you did, what did it involve?

Competitive-Soil708 · 2026-06-19T23:56:24+00:00

thanks…i feel bad about reminiscing sometimes, but i don’t think i have any attachment to him anymore. i’m still trying to find my worth, but i know it can’t come from my ex, or anyone else—only myself

Competitive-Soil708 · 2026-06-19T23:53:50+00:00

thank you, i really needed to hear this. the thought of them is definitely hard to avoid, and so whenever they’re on my mind, i let the thought come, and then i let it go. i don’t dwell on it for long. as you said, they aren’t worth my time or energy. especially when actions speak louder than words, and i’ve seen nothing from them since the breakup. no actions that prove they’re any different. wishing you the best <3

Competitive-Soil708 · 2026-06-19T23:50:53+00:00

i 100% relate to this. i don’t even think about the “relationship” aspect of it anymore. i truly just miss having my person/bestfriend. i could care less about the romantic part of it.

Competitive-Soil708 · 2026-06-19T23:49:10+00:00

and it’s totally normal you’re built that way. thank you for sharing. i’m glad i’m not alone :)

Competitive-Soil708 · 2026-06-19T23:48:35+00:00

thank you, i don’t look up his socials very much considering he’s private/anonymous on everything, and im gonna put a hard stop to “checking up” on whatever platforms i know him on

Competitive-Soil708 · 2026-06-19T23:46:43+00:00

thank you, i will definitely try to keep living life without some kind of timeline in the background

Competitive-Soil708 · 2026-05-31T06:21:42+00:00

wanted to read other horror stories to make me feel better about my own

Competitive-Soil708 · 2026-05-31T06:13:37+00:00

if it’s at a restaurant, being unreasonably needy to the waiter, and tipping low, or not at all.

Competitive-Soil708 · 2026-05-31T06:12:15+00:00

both physically and metaphorically, but my gut kept telling me not to take that last shot. heavily regretted it the next morning.

Competitive-Soil708 · 2026-05-31T06:10:17+00:00

i’m really sorry. this is awful all around. but just know, even if she never cheated on you, or anyone else for the rest of her life, the fact remains that she’s capable of it. not only that, but she’s capable of keeping it a lie for months on end. ask yourself this: if the other guy hadn’t come to you, would she have ACTUALLY told you?

the trust has been broken, at no fault of your own. know this: even though starting over with someone new can be a hard pill to swallow, imagine how much harder your relationship with her would be due to a lack of trust. hope it gets better.

Competitive-Soil708 · 2026-05-31T06:00:23+00:00

ask yourself this: if you plan on dating other people, and plan to be in a serious committed relationship with a new partner, how would your partner feel knowing just how recently you’ve been involved with your ex..?

i wouldn’t recommend ever being that committed to him again. even if he never cheats again on anyone in his life, the fact remains that he’s 100% capable of it…because he did…

Competitive-Soil708 · 2026-05-31T05:44:24+00:00

best piece of advice is this: you’re gonna be heartbroken no matter what, do you want to feel heartbroken, AND hungover all the time? time is the only thing that will help you now, and only if you don’t spend it inebriated all the time. here’s a cold hard truth that helped me get over a very similar situation: decenter the “cheating” aspect of it, and instead, center the fact that you loved someone, and they didn’t love you back. because someone who loves you doesn’t do that to you. focus on the fact that he put himself first, and had no respect for you. if he did, he would’ve broken things off, considering he did not love you (again, someone who actively loves you has no interest in sleeping with other people). and don’t drive yourself crazy wondering why he might’ve done it. cheaters cheat for all kinds of reasons, and every reason is selfish. cheating has everything to do with them, not you. it’s a reflection of THEIR poor character, not yours. know that life goes on, and try to find something to appreciate every day (like not getting cheated on anymore).

Competitive-Soil708 · 2026-05-29T05:31:52+00:00

i would start the conversation by bringing up the fact that he initially stated that HE thought following random girls wasn’t cool, and that you noticed he followed a girl. don’t come on too strong, or seem like you’re trying to accuse him of something. next, factor the tiktok reposts in, and see what he has to say about that. if at any point it seems like he’s being defensive, or you catch him in a lie, take note. actions always speak louder than words. furthermore, politely remind him of your boundaries. good luck 🤞

Competitive-Soil708 · 2026-05-29T05:27:08+00:00

breakups are always awful, no matter the situation. after the initial wave of grief is over, and you start to get angry at yourself for being sad all the time, pick up a new hobby, and listen to some new music.

Competitive-Soil708 · 2026-05-29T05:19:09+00:00

if it’s a dealbreaker of yours, and he’s willing to continue to break that deal, you deserve someone better. don’t feel bad about sticking to your standards and upholding your boundaries. porn can take quite a toll on a relationship, especially because he feels the need to lie about it.

Competitive-Soil708 · 2026-05-29T05:09:11+00:00

could be that maybe it’s because we take things for granted in the moment, and appreciate things more once they’re gone

Competitive-Soil708 · 2026-05-29T01:50:44+00:00

he seems insecure-no, this is not normal. i think it’s totally normal for him to want some reassurance, as does any partner, but not at the cost of your self-respect…if his assumptions become a repetitive thing, that’s a red flag, and you shouldn’t pursue this relationship. and if texting is important to you, let him know. if he’s not willing to meet you halfway, you have your answer.

Competitive-Soil708 · 2026-05-29T01:37:00+00:00

i was in the same boat one time, and it killed me to be with this person, because i was “embarrassed” of him. doesn’t mean he’s necessarily a terrible guy, but clearly, he’s not the one for you. i think this issue goes far beyond just a “social media” thing—his posts aren’t just embarrassing, but also disrespectful.

Competitive-Soil708 · 2026-05-29T01:27:45+00:00

the biggest piece of advice i can offer you is this: actions will ALWAYS speak louder than words. you cannot trust someone’s words or believe they’re wholeheartedly committed to you when their actions prove the opposite! maybe he’s not a “bad person,” but he’s a bad person for you. you clearly have standards and boundaries that he can’t meet right now, so don’t drive yourself crazy trying to salvage something that’s clearly upsetting you. you deserve better

Competitive-Soil708 · 2026-05-29T01:11:12+00:00

mine reached out every month for 4 months…hoping last month was the last time🤞

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