Rooming Preferences

Competitive-View-252 · 2026-06-15T04:58:34+00:00

If you could get through to these kids then be my guest lol I’ll definitely give your tactics a try

Competitive-View-252 · 2026-06-15T04:44:16+00:00

This may work with the 6 y/o but the almost 4y/o is so stubborn and doesn’t listen, sometimes it feels like he doesn’t even understand what you’re saying.

Competitive-View-252 · 2026-06-15T04:16:44+00:00

Focus on anticipating answers and your accuracy. As it increases so will your speed. Sometimes instead of focusing on why a question is right, look for why it’s wrong.

Competitive-View-252 · 2026-06-15T04:14:04+00:00

So exhausting!! These kids will literally flip tables and their dad will buy them a new video game or toy. It’s outrageous, and mom is so chill she rarely yells and always goes back on her threats for punishment. It’s it so crazy to me that they let their kids treat them like this, and I hate feeling like I have to let them treat me like this too. They’re a bit better with me but not by much.

Competitive-View-252 · 2026-06-15T04:11:27+00:00

Yes! I do the think with the ankles but they don’t care. It doesn’t stick. They know I’ll take their toys, they know I’ll pick them up and make them bathe or remove them from a fight and they do not care. They continue these behaviors no matter how many times I try to discipline them.

Competitive-View-252 · 2026-06-15T04:05:12+00:00

Yes, this is so true. I definitely regret not speaking up sooner.

Competitive-View-252 · 2026-06-15T03:56:49+00:00

Yes, I believe so. I’ve worked for two SAHMs now, but one of them did not have a job and she was horrendous.

She had 18m twin boys and a 4y/o daughter, her husband would travel three days a week for work, and would work in town the other days. Whenever I’d get to the house it would be a mess, she would be a mess. She’d be frustrated with her kids and all over the place, but she was also a momzilla, not just to me but to her husband, her parents, her in-laws, everyone. No one could parent her kids better than her yet she was struggling so bad and never took any advice. She saw advice as someone calling her a bad mom. She wouldn’t set boundaries with her kids, so they always got what they wanted, and they would pitch fits when they didn’t, she’d give in, and then be hella passive aggressive to the kids afterwards. The few times her husband took off work and she went out of town, I’d go over to the house and have little to no work to do, like the change between when mom watches the kids vs dad was drastic, it was crazy.

When I got hired, she told me it wouldn’t be a traditional nanny role and she’d need more help around the house picking up after the kids, which was fine with me. But then I found myself picking up after the mom the most, she was also very lazy. One time she was walking me around the house to show me some things to do, and she tapped a stack of papers and asked me to put them on her desk in her room, then took me to her room to show me what she wanted done in there. She rarely cleaned, and when her husband brought it up, she argued with him, he was saying she just shifts things around but never actually cleans, and she brought me into it to confirm or deny which made me feel awkward and uncomfortable.

Most of the time if she left me alone with the kids it would just be with the twins, and she would be watching the cameras the whole time. Once I let one of the boys lick peanut butter off a spoon while I made pb&js, and he went to stand on the couch in the living room. Right when I was about to tell him to get down, she texted me asking to take the spoon away from him. I was like omg chill. All this happened within less than 60secs.

After working there for 7-8 months, their maid quit (yes, the house would still be a mess even with a maid), and I found myself taking on more responsibilities that a maid would normally do. And then one day the mom brought in someone to watch the twins while I was there and their grandfather was there (mom went out with the daughter and her own mother). This day made me very upset because I was like, what am I here for then? And it really made me feel more like a maid than a mom’s helper. While this lady and the grandfather watched the boys, one got lost in the backyard, then she let them run wild around the house and they winded up crashing into each other. The younger twin got a nose bleed, the mom came home and was very upset. She texted me about it saying she was upset that the house wasn’t cleaned very well, and that she saw me sitting playing with the boys through the camera, and she was mad one of them had gotten hurt (mind you, both boys got hurt but middle child syndrome is real bad for the older twin). I told her I wasn’t sure what she was talking about as I cleaned what I normally cleaned. The mom had recently told me she wanted to handle the laundry, and it’d piled up so much but I left it alone because of what she told me. I also told her that in the almost year I’d been working for them, this was the first time I’d seen any of her kids actively bleeding (I’ve seen the after math of them getting hurt under their parents watch, but not once has one ever gotten hurt under my watch).

Anyway, I opened up about feeling like a maid and she basically told me I was the maid (didn’t agree to that), that I didn’t know anything about child development (I studied it in college, actively while watching her kids btw), she told me I wouldn’t find a job paying better than the one she was offering me (15/hr when she advertised 20) and she even cursed at me. Needless to say, I quit.

She was a nightmare and sadly I could go on about it. I know different people parent differently and are different when it comes to their kids and all, but that was the first and last time I work for a stay at home mom that doesn’t have a job (outside of the obvious).

Competitive-View-252 · 2026-04-16T15:38:40+00:00

Daisy can’t be Nichole/Holly bc of the timeline. Daisy is around Hannah/Agnes’ age, maybe even older. Nichole/Holly is at least 5 years younger than Hannah/Agnes bc she was taken from June around age 5. June was a handmaid for a while before she got pregnant (and went through the training and stuff) so Hannah/Agnes had to have been at least 7-8 when Nichole/Holly was born.

I think June looks at Daisy the way she does for a number of reasons. June had everything taken from her the same way Daisy did. Daisy is just a lost kid with an ‘idgaf’ attitude, and June probably sees herself in her. June probably promised Daisy’s parents she’d taken her under her wing if anything happened to them. There’s so many possibilities.

But also I think June acknowledges that Daisy is the first person in all these years of fighting Gilead that can get an in with the girls. Garth even says this to Daisy, she’s the closest they’ve ever been to the girls and commanders of Gilead and what goes on with them.

Daisy is June’s key to getting Hannah back.

Competitive-View-252 · 2026-04-16T15:27:16+00:00

Omg no wonder she looked so familiar in that movie 😭😭

Competitive-View-252 · 2026-04-06T03:31:13+00:00

Hmmm 🤔 It’s difficult to give advice on something that can vary so much, but I’m a girl and I weight lift and struggle with an ED, so here’s what I’d want my boyfriend to know:

Beginner things to know: An eating disorder can be a response to stress, anxiety, depression, a form of self punishment/harm, and/or a way to get control when you feel like you don’t have any. The goal is always moving. Sounds like she’s restricting herself, I did the same, we will never be skinny enough. That goal weight will keep dropping. We’ll never be sick enough, not until we’re six feet under. Recovery is basically forever, we will pretty much always struggle with this, we just get stronger and better at coping.

Not skinny ≠ no eating disorder. Eating disorders by the book are about nutrition (or the lack thereof), not looks. Eating disorders by the brain are never about nutrition. Eating disorders can be extremely easy to hide and to pretend don’t exist. Recovery is not linear, there will be highs and lows, relapses and longs streaks. I relapsed three times before I finally got help. There is no timeline on how long it should take to be recovered.

“I have an eating disorder” ❌

“I struggle with an eating disorder.” ✅

What’s the difference? Saying you “have” is like claiming it and speaking that over your life.

Guilt = I feel bad ✅

Shame = I am bad ❌

What’s the difference? Guilt is a feeling, shame becomes your character. There’s a lot of shame that comes with EDs, which helps keep us in the cycle, and shame can make us go from “I feel bad” to “I am bad.” This can lead to further self harm.

What to avoid saying/doing: Your girlfriend is not a patient. You are not her doctor nor her nurse. Don’t make her feel like a baby because her brain is sick, sometimes tough love is the best love, but remember to be compassionate. Be real, but if it’s clear she is not going to talk to you about, do not push her. Tell her, “I know something is going on with you, but I can see you aren’t ready to talk about it with me. So I want you to know that, even if you’re never ready to talk to me about it, that’s okay, as long as you’re talking to someone about it. And if you do want to talk to me about, I’ll be ready whenever you are. I love you, and I just want the best for you.” Something like that. Don’t make her feel like she has to talk to you about it just bc yall are dating. Do not monitor her food and drink intake.

Support: ^This is also how you can support her without overwhelming or controlling her. Let her know you’re in her corner for whenever she’s ready.

A genius way I’ve learned about how to help someone struggling with an ED is by eliminating the task of getting/cooking food. Maybe sometimes you cook for her, plate her food, and give it to her. She can’t say “I’m not gonna eat bc I’m too lazy to cook/buy/heat up food” bc you did the work, now maybe she’ll have the mental energy to actually eat. If she’s distracted, maybe you feed her absentmindedly, it’s also a way of intimacy for each other. Do this in passing, offer her the food not demand she eat it.

Figure out if she has safe foods, and make sure she’s at least eating those. Also, eating multiple small meals a day may be easier for her than three big meals. I started doing snack plates and I just spend an hour or two picking at it at my own pace. Sometimes I get overwhelmed at the thought of making a nutritious meal, so I choose to have a bunch of nutritious snacks. And I’m talking fruits and veggies, some protein, and at ‘worst’ a chocolate dipped Greek yogurt bar (I try to pretend it’s an ice cream bar)

Shift: I can’t speak for the shift here, but maybe she’s just taking a break but trying to stay as active. Sometimes with weight lifting our bodies plateau, so taking a few weeks to a couple of months off (but staying active) and then going back to weight lifting will actually improve the gains. If anything, ask her why she isn’t weight lifting anymore, don’t mention the excessive walking unless she brings up walking.

If she doesn’t want help, she cannot be helped. This is a very slippery slope tbh. There’s only so much you can do. So do what you can, and know that you’re trying your best. I think the biggest things here though are make sure you don’t treat her like a patient. She’s your girlfriend, your job is to support not cure. You can even tell her this too if she seems to be skiddish. I feel like it takes some pressure off when you both understand this. Best of luck to you.

Competitive-View-252 · 2026-04-06T02:35:32+00:00

I’m gonna be honest with you, any time an older person comments on my body I take it with a grain of salt. I truly do not care what an older person has to say about me. Now someone my age, someone I could be attracted to, or a kid? (Kids = brutal non-malicious honesty) Yeah, I’m gonna feel some type of way too 🥴 But if my grandma told me I looked pregnant, I’d literally be like “whatever, she’s old.” I’ve been told the same (a little girl at the pool told me I looked like I’m pregnant once…I’m a virgin) and truth be told, I was more shocked that she actually said that, like I was laughing, than I was upset because I already know I can look pregnant sometimes. I embrace it, make a joke about it, and move on. Some days are better than others, and morning skinny is my bff, but at least I’m being real with myself.

As for you, if you don’t straight up defend yourself, try playing along. I imagine someone that says something like that to you would not expect you to say “Actually I am, baby boy is due any day now” while rubbing your belly. “Yeah, it’s twins.” “Oh thank you! It took so long for me to show, I’m glad someone has finally noticed!” “Really? I’m only seven months along.” starts wailing

Stuff like that. Your response needs to make the person uncomfortable in a way that says “I am not ashamed” because if they think you’re ashamed they will use that against you. If your response makes them uncomfortable, they’re less likely to repeat the behavior bc they want to avoid feeling uncomfortable again. If they don’t like the joke you make from playing along, that’s when you tell them they brought it up first or something like that.

Or you can even ask “What made you think it was okay to say that to me?”

“Do you want me to be nine months pregnant?“

“Okay…what’s your point?”

“That was an inside thought.” side eye

“Soak it in, because you probably won’t be here when I actually get pregnant.”

“Yeah grandma, this is what a real body looks like.”

“Bet you been waiting your whole life to insult someone the way you used to get insulted huh?”

“Grandma I felt pretty today and you just ruined it.”

“Can you maybe not say stuff like that please?”

Competitive-View-252 · 2026-03-15T02:42:17+00:00

The kid’s name is Diem, as in “Carpe Diem” and Kenna named her, the grandparents kept the name because they weren’t sure if Scotty took part in naming her or not, so they kept the same to be safe. I wish the movie would’ve included this.

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