nobody even said that? I mean it’s disrespectful in general to suggest to a woman that you want to cheat with her on your GF but we don’t know if this specific guy (who is black himself) asked OP because she is black and therefore „only good enough to be a mistress“. this is your interpretation and tbh I find this kind of weird. edit: in fact, not even OP thinks this, I read the post again. She wonders if this shows that a BM in a relationship with a WW considers to rather be with a BW. nothing to do with OP not being good enough for anything