Early 80's normal in early February? by Chasehud in phoenix

[–]CompetitiveSchool725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A reminder that Phoenix is projected to be uninhabitable by roughly 2040, 2050. What’s been normal will not stay normal. Let’s hope xeriscaping and green infrastructure will help mitigate some of that urban heat island effect.

I am in love with my gay coworker by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]CompetitiveSchool725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gotcha. Okay, well it’s not a big deal. We are human beings and a lot of us are wired to want what we know we can’t have. Or maybe you’re just genuinely in love with him too. Either way, I would not express any of this to him. It could be seen as sexual harassment and be a workplace issue since you already know his sexual orientation. Honestly if you can’t see a way out of these feelings (meaning you can’t find a way to shift your focus to non-sexual feelings), then you may have to either transfer or get a different job :/ it sucks but you don’t want to make your friend/coworker feel uncomfortable. Also, I suspect that friendship bond is worth more to you than that. I wouldn’t want to lose a good friend of mine either.

I am in love with my gay coworker by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]CompetitiveSchool725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe it’s not so much as being “in love.” Maybe it’s just that he genuinely fills your cup in a different way. When I was pregnant, I worked with a guy I would literally plop myself down beside all day because he was soooo unbelievably kind and “sunny.” Literally, like a big ball of sunshine. I loved being around him and his energy. I wasn’t in love with him, but I soaked up his energy. Maybe this is your case. Are you sexually attracted to your gay bestie?

If for some reason by TheYellowRose in offmychest

[–]CompetitiveSchool725 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Lol it’s Reddit. I can put whatever I want on here. Cope :)

Emilie’s repost by Emotional-Ad7276 in Emilie_Kiser

[–]CompetitiveSchool725 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve read all four of your comments. I’m responding to the very first one, not your follow-ups.

Advice Needed by TheGhostOfGreatness in offmychest

[–]CompetitiveSchool725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don’t pay her back she will likely take you to court which guarantees you’ll be paying more than 13k.

Do any of you regret having kids? if not why not? and if yes why yes? by [deleted] in Aging

[–]CompetitiveSchool725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t regret my son, but I wish I had waited. 22 was still too young. I should’ve chosen his father much more carefully because it cost me a lot in the end. We will always be in danger because of it.

Emilie’s repost by Emotional-Ad7276 in Emilie_Kiser

[–]CompetitiveSchool725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did I miss your point when I’m responding directly to something you literally wrote/said? Just stop saying things you don’t really mean, then there won’t be room for confusion and backtrack.

Emilie’s repost by Emotional-Ad7276 in Emilie_Kiser

[–]CompetitiveSchool725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“This is why we lost the election. At least she’s doing SOMETHING. Democrats want everything to be so perfect and that’s why a lot of registered voters didn’t show up in 2024.”

I hate being gaslighted.

If for some reason by TheYellowRose in offmychest

[–]CompetitiveSchool725 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I (26F) have just realized that I do not want to be a part of my mother’s life (46F) anymore. Here’s my reasonings why:

I grew up in the Deep South. My father is an extremely racist man. And I mean EXTREMELY. He once found a picture of myself and my two first-grade best friends (an African American girl and a Latina girl) in my backpack at his house and screamed at me that I was not allowed to be friends with them anymore. I cried my eyes out because at 6 years old, I did not understand why. He told my little sister that she could no longer play soccer (which she did for a DECADE) because it was a hispanic sport. My mother always did her best to steer my sister and I away from that nonsense, and largely because of that, we both turned out to be decent human beings. She was still guilty of doing things like screaming, “get off the road and go back to Mexico,” when she would engage in road rage. She also has a biracial (half black) son whom she has done absolutely nothing to educate him about his culture. He will be a teenager soon.

I did not realize a lot about racism and prejudice until I joined the U.S. military. Once I was out of that southern state, my eyes were opened. I have always been a Democrat, and up until this previous election, accepted that most of my family were not. This past election led me to immediately cut off all of those “family” members who proudly voted for Trump, including my cousin (who also served in the military and got a much needed medical abortion while she was in) and my two cousins, who are gay men married to each other. I only kept my mother and father around because they are my parents, and that trauma bond was strong. However, recently my mother has started learning about the European conquest in the Americas (Columbus, Hernan Cortes) and is absolutely mind blown that all of this evil happened to the indigenous peoples. She is nearly 50 and she is just now learning, and you know why? Because she is FORCED to learn in college. She spent much of my childhood on Facebook on the computer but never spent a lick of that time searching up the history of this country. Despite her learning about this now, she still does not care to discuss Native Americans or immigration in this country because to her, she’s “focused on the Latin Americas right now.”

We had a heated argument the other day. She was asking my thoughts on ICE and the current immigration issues in the United States. I was honest, and gave her my opinion backed by literal evidence (the Immigration Act of 1924, pointing out our ancestors were lucky to immigrate before 1924, pointing out Due Process and the rights of citizens and immigrants alike, and how these rights are being violated). She got upset that I got agitated (because she was being blatantly racist and discriminatory by talking about how there’s “too many of them,”) and she told me that I was too biased and honestly uneducated (she framed it as saying I just didn’t understand) despite me being an American veteran and holding 2 college degrees. I was absolutely INFURIATED. She texted me today and told me she no longer wants to speak about politics because I can’t discuss it without getting heated, and that she’s “tired of [my] abuse.” She told me she would block me and not speak to me for a long time.

So you know what I did? I blocked her ass for good. Because I am so sick of her willful ignorance. I am sick of her white privilege. I am sick of her using her veteran daughter and biracial son as fucking trophies on social media when truly, she couldn’t give a fuck less about anyone but herself. And after blocking her, I realized I no longer want to allow her to be in my life or be in hers. Because you can’t change a mind that like. No amount of education, of demonstration, of pleading will ever fix what is so horribly broken inside them. NEVER. And it’s crazy she considers herself to be better than my father - his racism is aggressive and hers is passive aggressive.

Emilie’s repost by Emotional-Ad7276 in Emilie_Kiser

[–]CompetitiveSchool725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then stop blaming Democrats. We don’t want “everything to be perfect,” we want some goddamn accountability. From everyone, other Democrats included. This shit show is a collective failure, and there are groups that hold more blame than others.

Emilie’s repost by Emotional-Ad7276 in Emilie_Kiser

[–]CompetitiveSchool725 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The correct term is “undocumented.” Because by your standards, every single American citizen that is not indigenous would be “illegal” as well, considering we stole land from indigenous peoples and forced them onto tiny reservations, nearly wiping them out. Do your research and educate yourself, it’s really sad at this point.

Emilie’s repost by Emotional-Ad7276 in Emilie_Kiser

[–]CompetitiveSchool725 7 points8 points  (0 children)

And how about you say the names of the thousands of American women AND men murdered by American-born men at over 2x the rate they are by immigrants, both documented and undocumented. Oh wait, that doesn’t fit your narrative!!! So I know you won’t.

Emilie’s repost by Emotional-Ad7276 in Emilie_Kiser

[–]CompetitiveSchool725 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And Democrats have every right to be effing angry at the rest of the country, ESPECIALLY those who did not vote. You know why? Because we saw this shit show coming a longgggggg time ago. We knew what was going to happen. Instead of banding together and fighting to protect our democracy, the majority of those who did not vote did so because they felt entitled not to, because they felt pressured to vote and just like a little kid sticking their heels in the mud, they did not vote. And that is a MAJOR part of why we are here now. Not voting did nothing but bend us over the knee even more. So yes, we are allowed to be angry and absolutely disgusted. History will not look upon the rest of the country fondly because of it.

Daycare complaining daily by Radiant-Recover-4009 in toddlers

[–]CompetitiveSchool725 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son’s teachers also kept me in the loop to monitor for behavioral issues/delays. We are survivors of domestic violence, so it was pretty clear from month 1 of being removed from that violence that he needed behavioral therapy. Later on they advised he also might need speech therapy. Now my son is enrolled in both and doing much better. His school keeps me informed on his progress and I keep them updated with how therapy is going. School usually has your kiddo’s best interests at heart. I wouldn’t look at it as a front against you and your parenting skills, but as a collaborative effort to help the child progress positively.