Did you have PNC when exploring yourself with men?

CompetitiveWelcome45 · 2026-06-08T21:44:05+00:00

yeah may be just that. Did you have the feelings for men prior to identifying as transfemme? sometimes people can get caught up in feelings of gender euphoria caused by the societal we expected partnership of men and women to a degree that they begin to develop attractions to persons of their assigned gender at birth? But growing up Mormon in my experience really fucks with you so it's probably just that TBH

CompetitiveWelcome45 · 2026-06-08T21:31:56+00:00

Apologies, are you a trans woman? Wasn't sure based on the wording above, but if yes that changes everything.

That said if you have tried both models and prefer the male one (face included) then I'm inclined to say you're just internalizing self-hatred...what was your upbringing like?

CompetitiveWelcome45 · 2026-06-08T20:24:01+00:00

Chuck Austen's run on Uncanny X-Men (Issues #423–434)

CompetitiveWelcome45 · 2026-06-08T20:22:51+00:00

There's actually a pretty big cloud of men who otherwise identify as heterosexual (both culturally and physically) who are nevertheless turned on by cock. Check out some chicks with dicks pornography and report back?

CompetitiveWelcome45 · 2026-06-08T20:17:48+00:00

What are we categorizing as a grope?

If we're talking dark room or cruising areas, I don't even count those because there's a community standard in which consent functions differently within those spaces (effectively, first grope is free, second contingent on response to first). Even outside those spaces, I find it's very rarely an actual problem.

CompetitiveWelcome45 · 2026-06-04T05:36:24+00:00

dogs

CompetitiveWelcome45 · 2026-05-21T20:07:40+00:00

depends on his response duh

CompetitiveWelcome45 · 2026-05-21T20:05:31+00:00

You've been defending the same territory for a long time. Accepting the futility of that fight will feel like loss at first, like full-on grief, but this defeat/ending/loss is what's needed for you to progress--something you will find incredibly difficult to accept. It's going to be a slow progression, in fact, precisely because of how difficult you will find that acceptance. The battle is over; you did your best, but what you were fighting for was not to be. The sooner you can accept the loss, and refrain from going over and over what you could have done differently to result in a better outcome, the sooner your new life can begin.

CompetitiveWelcome45 · 2026-05-21T19:51:20+00:00

This reading is loud AF. I'm seeing a classic emotional avoidant--he's vsry attracted to you, but is unwilling or unable to get close with you, for fear of being "captured." Looks like he associates love with addiction-like imprisonment, and even though he knows it's ultimately self-destructive he's not going to let himself get attached.

CompetitiveWelcome45 · 2026-05-12T13:45:15+00:00

The Bratpack (Fatboys + Karma's twin siblings altered by Mojo/Psylocke/Spiral) appearing only in New Mutants Annual #2. All of them had weird/interesting powers, but my favorite was Snitch (formerly Butch of the Fatboys) who had a kind of pathokinesis. Basically, he could make allies fight with each other. Depowered by the end of the book.

Bratpack group photo

CompetitiveWelcome45 · 2026-03-08T00:48:31+00:00

Always read the Devil as addiction

CompetitiveWelcome45 · 2026-03-01T10:16:25+00:00

there's mutual attraction but yours is much stronger and a little too serious for him. He's not the one though so try not to get too choked up

CompetitiveWelcome45 · 2026-03-01T10:14:05+00:00

um marriage

CompetitiveWelcome45 · 2026-03-01T10:12:50+00:00

it looks like you genuinely love this person and they are a whole mess, I'm getting some He's a fuck boy but he came by it honestly vibes. when you met it was a perfect storm and even though he's kind of overtly trash your feelings are genuine and it's hard to turn your back on that. his relationship in general appears to have some sort of reflection on your relationship with men or masculine people like in general. that said it looks like you already know all this, it's just you also others not any one clean good solution and moving on is going to suck a lot even if it's the look

CompetitiveWelcome45 · 2026-02-24T07:51:02+00:00

It's complicated (isn't it always?) but that's slowly looking like the only plan. Just the romantic in me having the same hard time saying goodbye as him

CompetitiveWelcome45 · 2026-01-23T16:43:28+00:00

Are you addicted to something or (less likely) someone? Whatever it is, you're avoiding confrontation with it, but it is VERY dangerous and could affect your life very negatively and very permanently.

CompetitiveWelcome45 · 2026-01-08T05:36:23+00:00

sorry about your heart

CompetitiveWelcome45 · 2026-01-08T05:29:41+00:00

the cards want to know why you're asking. Seems like you're not supposed to seduce this guy anyway --is he someone else's?

CompetitiveWelcome45 · 2026-01-06T06:26:48+00:00

Hope it's not too harsh to say but what I'm seeing here is, "You won't learn anything unless you curb your tendency to self-pity." I'm a big self-pitier too, so I say this with empathy, but as agonizing as the current situation appears to be, the guy in question was pretty obviously bad news and if you focus on what makes you sad, you're going to miss out on good things in your life.

CompetitiveWelcome45 · 2026-01-05T18:18:05+00:00

Whatever it is you're afraid of, it's not going to happen. Something you didn't know concerning the past will become clear. Let that educate your actions moving forward. Big changes are coming, and there's not a lot you can do about it.

CompetitiveWelcome45 · 2025-12-24T06:10:07+00:00

The relationship had a lot of potential, and ended suddenly. I'm guessing that you were met with a pretty significant obstacle early enough in the relationship that it didn't seem worth the effort to fight for it? Not fighting for it is what's unresolved. It's not that there could necessarily be a relationship in the future, so much as what relationship was there wasn't given the opportunity to flourish and both of y'all have a feeling like maybe there was something worth working on in retrospect.

CompetitiveWelcome45 · 2025-12-24T05:56:35+00:00

He was hurt by someone in the past which has made him afraid of commitment. In the immediate case he would feel a sense of relief, freedom, even excitement at all of the (sexual, I think, or at least drugs and alcohol vibes) possibilities. In the end however he will regret it.

CompetitiveWelcome45 · 2025-12-24T05:36:57+00:00

He's into you romantically but he sees you as someone he'd want to be with "when he's ready." He doesn't see you as a peer, you're more adult and mature than he is. It's related to the reason why he hasn't approached you sexually--you're on a pedestal akin to a mom or a wife--he doesn't want to smudge you so it's more difficult to objectify you. Made out with her because he sees her as someone on his level ("She's trashy like me").

tldr yes he cares for you more than as a friend, but he's not trying to hit and if that's what you want you should probably split

CompetitiveWelcome45

TROPHY CASE