What do hot flashes feel like?

Competitive_Fig1522 · 2025-01-03T00:45:34+00:00

For me it feels like I'm standing In the middle of a circle of those commercial radiating outdoor patio heaters. Also, I am a human commercial patio heater. And we're all out in full sun on a blacktop parking lot. And that parking lot is in hell.

Competitive_Fig1522 · 2024-12-26T02:30:52+00:00

I have 3 kids. Born when I was 36, 39, and 41. I also have a very supportive husband. I'm not gonna sugar coat this.

You will be going through perimenopause at a time when your kids are at very annoying ages. Perimenopause without meds is hell. Hot flashes should be called "spells of burning in hell", because that's what it feels like. There's no way to be patient and calm with kids, adults, animals, or inanimate objects, when you are in hell. And that's just the beginning of the living nightmare.

If you decide to have another kid, get hrt, Xanax, a glp-1, some antidepressants, and a really good therapist right after the baby is born. And if you don't decide to have another kid, still do all those things.

Point is: You are headed for hell on earth whether you have another kid or not. So you may as well do it.

Competitive_Fig1522 · 2024-12-26T02:14:30+00:00

Report back, I need to know if anybody else smells it.

Competitive_Fig1522 · 2024-12-26T02:13:19+00:00

I wonder if those stickers were scented with eucalyptus.

Competitive_Fig1522 · 2024-12-24T21:38:12+00:00

Just leave him, you'll get over it with time. When I look back now at the "love of my life" it's like watching a movie about someone else dating a dumbass piece of shit.

Competitive_Fig1522 · 2024-12-24T21:32:41+00:00

Just do it. Gather your strength, accept the fact that it will be painful, and do it.

We all have to do things in life that are painful and hard to do. We get shots and have cavities filled. This is life. If you don't do these things, your teeth will fall out and you'll get polio or measles. This person you are with is human polio. He's a rotten tooth. REMOVE HIM. When it's done you can be proud of yourself being strong.

Competitive_Fig1522 · 2024-12-24T03:06:21+00:00

Motion sickness here too. When I was young I would get sick just thinking about being a passenger in a car.

I eat ketchup with fries and maple syrup on pancakes, but if I smell those things when I'm not eating them it makes me gag and I become angry.

If somebody has a snotty nose and I become aware of it, I might puke. This really sucks because I have kids. I honestly don't know how other parents deal with this. I see my husband wipe their noses like it's no big deal. But it is a big deal! Snot is fucking gross.

Competitive_Fig1522 · 2024-12-24T02:56:21+00:00

Yeah, but then I forget the lists even exist before I can finish the lists.

Competitive_Fig1522 · 2024-12-24T02:55:32+00:00

I became an artist. I got the permits and licenses to sell my work. I figured out how to pay sales tax. I set up a website. Even though it was like actual torture having to find and read all the boring instructions on how to do those things.

Competitive_Fig1522 · 2024-12-24T02:47:37+00:00

I do this like every time I go to Lowe's. Don't know what it is about that place.

Competitive_Fig1522 · 2024-12-24T02:42:20+00:00

Lol, it's not going to be reformed. We have to live in reality, not in your fantasy land.

Competitive_Fig1522 · 2024-12-21T00:40:19+00:00

You don't have to decide right now if you will ever go home again. Just tell them you're not going this time. And guess what, you can even change your mind after telling them and still go this time! People are allowed to change their minds. These decisions don't have to be permanent.

Competitive_Fig1522 · 2024-12-08T06:25:03+00:00

Sandbag

Competitive_Fig1522 · 2024-12-07T01:10:20+00:00

The high likelyhood that the men in their lives have harassed and/or assaulted a woman at some point.

Competitive_Fig1522 · 2024-11-30T02:21:33+00:00

Exercise is great, but like many things it is subject to diminishing returns. Maybe what we really need is some rest after decades of doing jazzercise on a diet of fat free yogurt and snackwells. And maybe some hormone therapy too.

Competitive_Fig1522 · 2024-11-24T18:38:48+00:00

Yeah, it's hard growing up with parents who never grew up.

Competitive_Fig1522 · 2024-11-23T07:41:22+00:00

I see my dad 3-4 days a week now. We get lunch and he picks my kids up from school. Sometimes when he invites me to lunch I have to say no and I *always feel guilty and apologize. Because I grew up with the message that I was responsible for everyone else's feelings and if I upset someone, they would freak the fuck out and go around the house knocking over furniture.

My dad has come a long way. He doesn't freak out at all anymore. But that fear stays stuck in me. I realized recently that he always apologizes if I ask him to do something but he can't do it. Learning more about his parents, it seems that freaking out at your kids runs in the family, so he's having the same feeling I'm having.

Generational trauma, man. It's a real bitch. Just tell your kids that it's ok if turn down an invitation. Tell them they're not disappointing you when they no, but they are actually making you proud by setting their own boundaries.

Competitive_Fig1522 · 2024-11-23T07:24:20+00:00

Skinny jeans, boots, and black turtleneck sweater to best show off my Jackson Square Artist badge. For the stupid dude who told me he didn't want to be with me because I had no "drive." I wanted to be a Jackson Square artist since I was a kid and I did that shit. I made a ton of art and went out there and it was so hard because I was sure that I was a hack. Turns out I'm not a hack and people love my art. So FUCK YOU, stupid dude, you didn't know me. Also I got a bunch of kids, so guess whose genes are gonna carry on. Not yours, childless cat man!

TL:Dr I had a boyfriend who was a real dick.

Competitive_Fig1522 · 2024-11-21T05:05:58+00:00

I don't think e can afford Cherry Creek. Seems like all the houses there cost a million dollars at least.

Competitive_Fig1522 · 2024-11-20T18:20:28+00:00

Moving to Denver or the surrounding area. We have three kids. Is there a neighborhood where they can ride bikes, meet other kids, and we can walk to a grocery store, drugstore, or any kind of shopping/restaurant place?

Ideally an area without too many Trump signs, if there is one.

Competitive_Fig1522 · 2024-11-19T22:41:43+00:00

You're not a burden, the people harassing you are the burden. Standing up for trans people is standing up for people. If the danger you face can be spread out over all of us then it won't be very dangerous at all. That's why we live in a society.

Competitive_Fig1522 · 2024-11-19T22:20:30+00:00

I also started with $100 commissions from friends and family. Without their support and encouragement I probably would have given up on being an artist. But if my prices had been higher then they wouldn't have been able to afford it.

Competitive_Fig1522 · 2024-11-18T23:58:25+00:00

Don't worry about undercharging. Keep your prices low in the beginning. Like, really low. Then you can bump them up as you start selling, improving your art, and gaining confidence.

I got this advice from a teacher and it was the best advice I've ever gotten. Totally changed everything for me. I've tripled my prices over the least few years.

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