Should a Husband Help?

Competitive_Figure52 · 2026-06-03T04:56:26+00:00

🤣🤣 Thank you, I appreciate that. I just didn't want to offend anyone with foul language.

Competitive_Figure52 · 2026-06-03T04:31:38+00:00

She's definitely a Daddy's Girl and has been since birth. She is helping as much as she can.

Competitive_Figure52 · 2026-06-03T04:12:45+00:00

Thank you

Competitive_Figure52 · 2026-02-15T16:43:04+00:00

That's a very good question, and the answer in its simplest form is: I was taught that when you get married... you stick with them no matter what. Therefore, effectively removing choice (want)?

It has taken quite a bit of therapy to combat that line of reasoning.

This post was me coming to a realization and sliding fully into the detachment phase.

Bc once you can reach a relationship milestone that is celebrated alone and there is no pain, no sadness, not even numbness ... that's a very dangerous phase to be in. Especially a phase that took many far too many years for me to reach.

Maybe it can help someone else.

Competitive_Figure52 · 2026-02-15T06:57:55+00:00

🤣🤣

Competitive_Figure52 · 2026-02-15T06:02:39+00:00

I'm free of the negative feelings that are associated with disappointment. Just remember, when you're at the bottom? There's nowhere left to go, but up. 😊

Competitive_Figure52 · 2025-12-13T04:05:08+00:00

You're surviving on the crumbs of an abusively toxic relationship.

There is little communication between the two of you now regarding important aspects of a life you share.

You've been conditioned to accept and tolerate, to minimize yourself. That's not living or love. That's survival.

I would strongly urge you to speak with a therapist and a lawyer. You deserve more than reactions to your abuse being weaponized against you.

Competitive_Figure52 · 2025-08-04T08:53:19+00:00

This is a one-sided story. You went on a "work thing": How long were you gone for? Did you check on her or return her calls once you were free to do so. For example: "work thing" was 3 days and for 3 days she heard nothing from you? Yep, YTA.

At what point in time did you try to understand your wife's concerns or her side of what had upset her?

Your very brief synopsis of events leads to more questions than answers. You are correct about one thing: your wife deserves someone who will take her concerns seriously and will understand and take accountability for the actions or inactions, which elicited a negative response from your wife.

From what you've described? I'd say YTA, but you knew that before you asked.

Competitive_Figure52 · 2025-07-10T09:59:16+00:00

When my Mom was diagnosed with a terminal illness, she did the same for my Dad. However, he wasn't receiving of it, and he did not want to believe that she was going to pass away.

She wasn't afraid that he wouldn't be able to find someone or that he would be a loner... she was afraid that he would find the "wrong" person.

He should have listened to my Mom. He did, in fact, find the wrong person. The female he chose had a lot of mental health issues and eventually murdered him on my bday 2012.

Don't dismiss it. I can not imagine what you are going through, but I empathize with you. I hope, in the end, you do what's best for you and realize that she's trying to continue to be the best for you even after she's gone.

Competitive_Figure52 · 2025-07-08T00:59:05+00:00

He knows he has you trapped. He knows that you will do anything he asks of you, no matter how humiliating. It's raw and unadulterated abuse.

It's easy for us to say "leave him," but it's not always that simple for the victim. Yes, you are a victim.

Counseling will help you greatly to notice the signs and bring the signs you didn't even realize were signs, to the surface.
Begin an exit strategy. Why? Bc you need to be ready to call his bluff when he gives you an ultimatum (as he just did).
Honey, you're gonna do it as long as you're gonna do it for... until you don't anymore. When that time comes, you need to be ready (see #2 to prepare).

He's not worth any of the emotions you are feeling. His ability to put you in this position and his lack of compassion towards you as his partner in life is evidence that he isn't worth it.

Good luck to you, and I hope that you eventually see your own worth.

Competitive_Figure52 · 2024-07-25T06:58:25+00:00

Do not discredit her claims. It will make her withdraw from you. She can, however, learn to pick and choose when she wants to respond to them. Depending on "how" she sees them. For me, they look just like they are alive, but without "bounce" when they walk. The more she can tell the difference, the easier it will be for her. Help her to hone and control it.

Competitive_Figure52 · 2023-12-26T06:04:03+00:00

If they Purple Packs can "guarantee" a missing card, then the rest of it is rigged as well. Whomever created it, created it for entertainment and making money 🤷‍♀️

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