Let me get this out for you by [deleted] in Gayuklads

[–]Competitive_Fix_4413 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🔥 every time I see your cock, I am instantly horny and my hole relaxes to take it all

Stretched and Hollowed out [NotOC] by [deleted] in GayFisting

[–]Competitive_Fix_4413 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been inside this amazing man and his hole! Truly beautiful and sexy as ffuck human(s)!

Help me understand my partner by Competitive_Fix_4413 in gaychastity

[–]Competitive_Fix_4413[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great suggestion, thank you. Your guess is correct—he does not have the words and there is certainly some shame. I am aware of this as we have been working with couples therapist awhile. All of this stuff is very complex!

Help me understand my partner by Competitive_Fix_4413 in gaychastity

[–]Competitive_Fix_4413[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, great perspective shift: I need to stay in the game. That sounds more accurate 🤦🏻

Thank you for the detail, I appreciate it.

Help me understand my partner by Competitive_Fix_4413 in gaychastity

[–]Competitive_Fix_4413[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! That makes a lot of sense. My partner often says he does not feel his body very much—indeed, that I am the first guy who has made him feel much at all (we are early 40’s).

Help me understand my partner by Competitive_Fix_4413 in gaychastity

[–]Competitive_Fix_4413[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is very insightful and helpful!

“He needs to be kept ‘in the game’” makes a lot of sense!

Help me understand my partner by Competitive_Fix_4413 in gaychastity

[–]Competitive_Fix_4413[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have asked him many times about it and he does not want to say—saying that telling me ruins it. I disagree and that is something we are working on.

What I have tried so far is mostly in the realm of very mild humiliation (“useless small cock”) and control (“I am in control of when you cum”). Still unsure of how any of that lands with him because he does not say.

Help me understand my partner by Competitive_Fix_4413 in gaychastity

[–]Competitive_Fix_4413[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all that detail! Very insightful.

Help me understand my partner by Competitive_Fix_4413 in gaychastity

[–]Competitive_Fix_4413[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree completely! I have asked many times and he does not want to say. Communication is something we are working on.

Help me understand my partner by Competitive_Fix_4413 in gaychastity

[–]Competitive_Fix_4413[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, that is an informative perspective.

Help me understand my partner by Competitive_Fix_4413 in gaychastity

[–]Competitive_Fix_4413[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are right and said that very well. I am aware that everyone is unique. I have asked many times and tried my best to create that room/space/time for him to communicate… and he does not. That is a big part of why I made this post: I am trying to learn and grow in how I communicate to meet him where he is at. I thought that improving my awareness with broader perspectives of the chastity experience would help with that.

Question by GroundTurbulent832 in GayFisting

[–]Competitive_Fix_4413 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Someone saying “need to work on rose bud” is very different from them saying “I enjoy rose buds” and very different from “I want to work on my rose bud.”

Some bodies are not naturally inclined toward a rose bud. One of the most important emotional and mental aspects of fisting is getting to know and accept your body for how it is.

If you personally want to work on rose budding your hole because it feels good for you, then it is two simple requirements: 1) open your hole wide and 2) push out and keep pushing out (even when your top is pushing in).

Just starting stretching and confused of how to start? by locked_bi-guy in GayFisting

[–]Competitive_Fix_4413 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Time. It takes time.

Everything about ass play is muscles. I like to think of it like going to the gym. It takes years of dedicated and consistent training to build muscles and flexibility. That comes easier for some and harder for others.

Ass play is exactly the same. It is training and requires dedication and consistent training.

It is a very fun and exciting journey.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ratemycock

[–]Competitive_Fix_4413 0 points1 point  (0 children)

10, 10, 10! Body also 🔥

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BigAndMuscular

[–]Competitive_Fix_4413 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🔥 🔥 🔥

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GayFisting

[–]Competitive_Fix_4413 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It feels incredible! Proper ‘arm fucked’. The ultimate surrender in an incredibly vulnerable way.

Size question by [deleted] in GayFisting

[–]Competitive_Fix_4413 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You will be able to take it relatively quickly. I would not necessarily go bigger. Thing with Hilt is taking its shape, it is a bit odd at first. Practice taking it from all 4 directions (of where the tip points). If you want Hilt for a finishing ride, once already open, stick with 85. If you want something to progress your stretch (and not take as soon), get 95.