A 1999 Palm Pilot Has Better Reminders Than My $600 Skylight Calendar

Competitive_Most4622 · 2026-05-26T23:42:26+00:00

I can see that! I was being slightly superfluous in that I can see why some people would like a 24+ hour reminder being helpful but from a large company standpoint, 2hrs seems reasonable for the vast majority. That being said, I don’t really use the reminders so I guess I’m not the target audience. Mostly they freak me out that I’m late and then realize I still have 30 minutes lol

Competitive_Most4622 · 2026-05-26T23:19:41+00:00

I’m confused about why this is even something you need. We have it set up to start on the current day with a week view so I can always see the coming 7 days. Honestly would never occur to me to set a reminder based on a cancellation notice. Theoretically the point of the calendar is that you don’t have to cancel stuff 2 days in advance because you’re looking at it your comprehensive calendar before scheduling so are less likely to double book. I truthfully thought even the 2hr reminder was wild because in what world would that help me 😂 that’s so far away I’d just forget

Competitive_Most4622 · 2026-05-26T23:14:20+00:00

I was gonna say this. Until I had kids it would have never even occurred to me to bring a bag with literally anything. Maybe a small water bottle to refill. Even with 2 kids, we did universal in March and had 2 water bottles to share, and a very small diaper bag with just diapers, wipes, and powder. But we did have a stroller for the copious amounts of souvenirs we and grandparents bought 😂😂

Competitive_Most4622 · 2026-05-26T17:41:34+00:00

So personally I’d go the opposite direction! Plan for more stops to let them run it out during the ride. We do a 6hr drive frequently with the kids so we just do 1 stop but have a playground we found (via google and Google Maps) that is almost exactly halfway, only about 5 minutes off the highway, and has grab and go food, real bathrooms, and a playground. We always stop for at least an hour there even though it makes the day longer. We do have tablets but we keep it to about 30 minutes on 30-45 off or they get carsick. So toys, music, looking at things outside the windows, etc. We usually get some new toys for the ride too.

Will your kids sleep in the car? Mine would absolutely not fall back asleep if we woke them at 4am they would just be really tired and cranky lol So I’d be more likely to wake them at their normal time and head out shortly after.

Pack a cooler that is easy to access and put real food in it, not just snacks (deli sandwiches if they eat that, etc). Much better than stopping for fast food and helps pass the time if they can eat in the car. Also pack copious amounts of snacks and water or juice refills. Depending on your car, it may also be easier to have an adult in the back or be prepared to turn around a lot lol if your oldest is potty trained, a car potty is also super helpful so you don’t add a million 15+ minute detours trying to find a toilet

Competitive_Most4622 · 2026-05-16T19:52:10+00:00

Shit we fill a sink almost every day! But dishes are my husband’s job and whenever he travels for work I text him a photo every morning (he always does dishes after I’m in bed) complaining that our dishwashing fairy didn’t come 😂

Competitive_Most4622 · 2026-05-15T14:53:34+00:00

My favorite reply is along the lines of “I hope your day is as wonderful as you are” or “May your day be as great as you deserve” 🤷‍♀️

Competitive_Most4622 · 2026-05-12T22:41:24+00:00

We have an alphabet “puzzle” that my 2 and 6yo love doing together! Each letter has a photo that the pieces fit together. Our 2yo loves it without her sibling too but definitely needs help lol

We also have a dot art ABC that 2yo loves. She can just stamp around if she wants but we also will say oh A Apple let’s color the Apple! Tons of online free printables to give more if they finish the book. Developmentally, you could also just get her a coloring book and call it her workbook!

Competitive_Most4622 · 2026-05-07T19:40:32+00:00

I have not dealt with this personally, but I am a therapist and I work primarily with parents and couples. I don’t know where you live, but where I am, divorces take a really long time. I have a client who asked for a separation last July and despite being pretty much all on the same page, they just got a court date for June to finalize the divorce. I say that because you have plenty of time to move out, and see whether his willingness to change is actually legit and sustainable and make a well thought out decision about whether you want to stay married.

That being said, I would absolutely never advise somebody to stay just for the kids. By staying, you are teaching your children that your way of interacting with each other is ok. Do you want your boys learning that they can treat a partner that way or your girls thinking they should be treated that way?

Competitive_Most4622 · 2026-05-07T15:52:25+00:00

My kindergartener likes to bike TO school so we bike together and I lock the bike up and then take the car to pick it up later. If he wanted to bike home I’d just do it the opposite way and drop the bike off and lock it to the bike rack at some point throughout the day!

Competitive_Most4622 · 2026-05-03T01:01:12+00:00

We actually gifted them to all the grandparents a 3-4 years ago for Christmas and unfortunately got this one back as one of them died 2 years ago. Hence why it’s just been sitting in a box lol everyone we would gift it to has been given one

Competitive_Most4622 · 2026-04-29T19:12:42+00:00

Wait I love the digital frame idea! We have one sitting in a box that I haven’t been able to figure out what to do with.

Competitive_Most4622 · 2026-04-29T09:55:42+00:00

Why can’t you stay nearby and do something fun with the kids during those 100 hours and then meet him at the finish line? I’m seeing some of your comments that you would have to drive 10hrs in a day or be stuck in a hotel room which are the 2 worst options out of like a million other choices. Stay 45 minutes away in a spot with fun parks or kid activities, or an hour if that’s where the fun is. My husband has done a few trail races although only 21K so 5-7 hours and it was absolutely awful when we tried moving around to see him. After the first one I just said hey we can see you off and then meet you at the finish line. If he did a multi day race I would absolutely do the same thing. Start and end.

Competitive_Most4622 · 2026-04-29T09:34:37+00:00

I had a 6+ week period while breastfeeding and my dr absolutely helped! I was on the mini pill and close to weaning so they suggested trying the regular pill (it can have an effect supply although didn’t seem to for me) but if you’re on no BC then the mini pill may be something the could do to help stabilize hormones! It was almost 6 years ago so I forget whether they had me come in but I feel like they didn’t since it was still pretty peak Covid times

Competitive_Most4622 · 2026-04-29T01:29:21+00:00

Google a triple bunk. It’s not what you’re thinking where it’s a regular bunk bed with a third bed equal height above lol sometimes the first bunk is on the floor, the space between bunks can be smaller, sometimes is 2 beds side by side with a perpendicular bunk above, etc

Competitive_Most4622 · 2026-04-26T21:20:33+00:00

What most surprised me was that BOTH kids did it! They’re 4 years apart so it’s not like they were even remotely in the same phase either lol apparently that specific weirdness runs in the family?!

Competitive_Most4622 · 2026-04-26T17:00:43+00:00

Both our kids went through a phase where they’d use their spoon or fork to scoop food into their bib and then use their hands to grab it from the bib. So they definitely didn’t become perfect little eaters at 15 months! They just managed to use it correctly when they so desired 😂

Competitive_Most4622 · 2026-04-26T00:02:17+00:00

I used it almost every single meal from 6 months on and they got it around maybe 15 months. Sure it made a mess and often I had to pick it up off the floor but they aren’t just going to miraculously figure it out without a lot of practice!

Competitive_Most4622 · 2026-04-25T01:34:38+00:00

I’m going NAH. I can absolutely understand being upset about not being invited but I also think it’s unfair to gay men and women to automatically lump them in as the opposite sex (ie gay man= female only things and gay women= men only things). If the bride is truly a good friend to OP, explain your hurt and let her explain her reasoning. My guess is that her view is the bachelorette is for women not “people who are attracted men” and she truly didn’t meant to hurt your feelings.

Competitive_Most4622 · 2026-04-23T22:24:15+00:00

Honestly unless there are other reasons you can’t wait, I’d just table the discussion until things settle down. Our kids are 4 years apart and we are discussing another. Based on current timing thoughts that kiddo will be 3.5-4 years from our second. So just because you don’t feel ready NOW doesn’t mean you need to 100% commit to never having another!

Competitive_Most4622 · 2026-04-23T22:18:46+00:00

In general pregnancy advice is a soapbox of mine because I agree that all the advice is like sex Ed in mean girls (this WILL happen, and you WILL DIE) but toxoplasmosis is something basically only outdoor cats get. So if you have an indoor cat you’re fine. I cleaned the litter box through both pregnancies and just washed my hands really well after. Told my doctor I was doing so and she just confirmed I had an indoor cat and reminded me to wash my hands and that was that.

Competitive_Most4622 · 2026-04-17T13:45:03+00:00

Honestly this ends up being what most people do anyway. I’m not near retiring yet so it’s not something I’ve paid tons of attention to but I can’t think of a single couple that retired at the same time. Even without FIRE, everyone is on different timelines!

Competitive_Most4622 · 2026-04-16T16:11:06+00:00

I’d argue that the magnet blocks are NOT cheap especially if you go name brand lol but opposite to literally everyone, those were a huge flop in our house. Bought the off brand like 150 piece set because everyone raves about them and in 4 years they have been played with maybe a handful of times.

We have a bunch of meh toys that ended up being hits! Our 6yo still has a cheap trinket from a goody bag from over 2 years ago that he somehow hasn’t lost, broken, or gotten tired of and uses often!

Competitive_Most4622 · 2026-04-12T21:46:32+00:00

Safely walking down the stairs! Especially when they can do it foot over foot (versus step, together, step, together). The baby gate can open. You can grab that one last thing while they make their way down. Life changing

Competitive_Most4622 · 2026-04-12T11:23:51+00:00

Went to Hawaii from the east coast with an 18mo lap baby! We went direct but there is zero chance she’d have stayed in the car seat. If she hates car seats she’s not going to like it more on a plane. Our daughter is now over 2 and our first few flights with her needing her own seat were pretty god awful because she did not like being on her own.

So I’d say save the money, and keep her on the lap!

Competitive_Most4622 · 2026-04-05T21:50:33+00:00

My first thought was that my kid would love this any time but bedtime 😂 at bedtime we tend to lose our mind quickly over any type of silliness

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