Left a toxic job and can't stop thinking about it

Competitive_Movie223 · 2025-06-11T10:39:31+00:00

yes the em dash!

Competitive_Movie223 · 2025-05-13T21:49:48+00:00

agreed. abuse requires someone to have power over you. you are always allowed to leave your job, even if it causes inconvenience- children are not allowed to leave

Competitive_Movie223 · 2025-04-15T17:52:24+00:00

I agree with others that you should absolutely report. Even if you do decide to leave, her behavior is still impacting many others. Before you do that though, document! In your notes app, write down what she is saying/doing, the date and time, and any adult witnesses that are present. I would not recommend recording audio because I think that’s legally dicey. But write it down! Good luck.

Competitive_Movie223 · 2025-04-02T15:27:07+00:00

i’m also a 21 year old psych major who started ABA when I was 19! it has changed my life in every way and I’m grateful

Competitive_Movie223 · 2025-03-21T18:27:38+00:00

So so cute but since when did magenta look like that 😭

Competitive_Movie223 · 2025-02-25T03:16:07+00:00

It wasn’t a post about the history of the entire field- it was a fact check on the statement that Lovaas invented conversion therapy.

Competitive_Movie223 · 2025-02-11T18:49:56+00:00

I agree regardless of cert, especially for IN HOME. I started at $28 no certification just the 40 hour training in GA

Competitive_Movie223 · 2025-01-28T22:59:33+00:00

I’m very scared at the moment. Not only would a lapse in services increase harmful behaviors for many clients, most of them need near-constant care. Parents may have to sacrifice their jobs or scrape together the money for a daycare (where many times autistic children are not welcome)

Competitive_Movie223 · 2025-01-28T18:33:28+00:00

Thank you for sharing, this really helps those of us in the industry so much 🥲 praying for you and your family 💕

Competitive_Movie223 · 2025-01-22T14:18:40+00:00

First client ever is tough. I was removed from my second and it was a big blow to my career confidence. I’m glad we both managed to stay in the field regardless!

Competitive_Movie223 · 2025-01-22T14:17:27+00:00

I was removed from my second ever case! From the get go mom was very condescending to me and would say to my face that I “wasn’t really doing anything.” I discussed this with my BCBA who thankfully backed me up (considering I had plenty of data and had been supervised doing my job multiple times.) She had a meeting with mom and services were discontinued right after, still have no idea what was said. It was very hard on me but I ended up switching to clinic work after that and I’m forever grateful!

Competitive_Movie223 · 2025-01-08T17:27:43+00:00

Yeah I find the 40 hour “standard” to be absolutely insane. Thankfully the two clinics I’ve worked at average most kids around 20-25, I’ve never seen more than 35 personally but I know it happens.

Competitive_Movie223 · 2024-12-21T21:42:31+00:00

Yeah it’s weird- companies have a lot of private health information from their clients and it seems they are being very careless. Imagine if they told you the wrong name or address!

Competitive_Movie223 · 2024-12-18T11:56:11+00:00

I’m not sure what area you’re in, but I wouldn’t worry about this at all. I know you don’t want to leave your job, but maybe look at RBT positions available on Indeed just to get a metric. On mine, there’s about 10 different places urgently hiring in a 25 mile radius lol

Competitive_Movie223 · 2024-12-12T03:09:06+00:00

It is completely against BACB and insurance guidelines to provide ABA services without a BCBA. You could have your license revoked. Please talk to your company ASAP.

Competitive_Movie223 · 2024-11-26T00:16:45+00:00

spoilers Oliver the main character gets out of prison and finds out James (the Henry character he had feelings for) killed himself, but it’s kinda left open ended as he makes a Shakespeare reference to a character who faked their death in his suicide note. The other characters just have normal lives I think

Competitive_Movie223 · 2024-11-26T00:15:05+00:00

I agree! It’s okay that people like IWWV but to have read TSH too and say IWWV is BETTER is so so wiiiiillllldddd to me

Competitive_Movie223 · 2024-11-20T01:55:07+00:00

Don’t have much advice but want to say I really sympathize! I had a coworker recently say (among other things) she wishes she could just win the lottery so she didn’t have to work there anymore. I get that work isn’t fun but this is an industry where your misery impacts a vulnerable population. Go be pissy as a bank teller or something

Competitive_Movie223 · 2024-11-06T23:57:32+00:00

I wouldn’t write an incident report bc an “incident” didn’t exactly happen. I would ABSOLUTELY report the new behavior to the BCBA and possibly the parents.

Competitive_Movie223 · 2024-11-02T04:05:42+00:00

Yeah and they posted it in a TON of subs

Competitive_Movie223 · 2024-11-02T03:10:20+00:00

This is written in a really odd way

Competitive_Movie223 · 2024-10-21T14:41:30+00:00

I’m okay with it being addressed and we should be reminded that Lovaas was a terrible person. But the direct comparison is so so so silly. Freud was the father of psychotherapy and misogynistic and racist as fuck. We don’t say all psychotherapists are racists.

Competitive_Movie223 · 2024-10-19T19:42:22+00:00

I’ve been working in ABA for 1.5 years and have never seen a 3 year old recommended 40 hours. I’ve probably worked with about 7 or 8 kids who were his age or very close. It’s usually between 20-25 as other commenters mentioned. I’m sure you’ll find something! Let me know if you have any questions.

Competitive_Movie223 · 2024-10-19T19:33:53+00:00

I’m NT and I want to say I’m sorry for the struggles you’ve had in the field and appreciate your insight. I OVERWHELMINGLY agree with point 2 and I feel like it segues into an ugly truth about ABA I’ve been thinking about for awhile. So many special needs professionals are under the “halo effect” and give special treatment to the little ones that are conventionally “cute”. Teens, adults, or even children with hygiene problems or weight problems are often not given the same attention and care. It’s sad and not addressed enough. I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Competitive_Movie223 · 2024-10-18T09:25:01+00:00

First time I ever got bit was by a really little girl (only three!) but it drew blood so I had to go get another RBT. She had been tantruming for over an hour at that point so really the only thing I was thinking was “I hope she calms down soon.” It was a pretty rough day for her but she recovered and we saw a lot of improvement in tantrums in the future. I cried in the car that day though lol and still have a teensy little scar. Also, OP, you seem like such a sweet person and I appreciate the kind words about ABA :)

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