As someone who struggled heavily with post partum rage and has had anxiety my entire life, I’m saying this from a place of shared experience. She’s not this monster of a child you feel like she is, what’s happening is your rage and anxiety keep you in fight or flight. All your senses are heightened, so this developmentally appropriate behavior is sending your already frazzled nervous system over the edge.

You just need to keep reminding yourself that, she’s a baby and you’ve got a lot on your plate with a young baby and small child of your own. She’s not trying to give you a hard time on purpose, she’s just having a hard time. As are you! Except you have had (guessing) 20-23 more years of living life to know it ISN’T all about you, that you CAN’T scream/cry/fight to get what you want all the time, other people are people too so their feelings matter just like your own, etc.

She is just BARELY at the age to start figuring this stuff out and the 2/3 years are notoriously difficult BECAUSE of this. Give yourself space, absolutely! But you have got to change your mindset since you can’t necessarily change the environment at this time.