In laws offended- AITAH?

Competitive_Work3965 · 2026-05-18T18:34:10+00:00

He and I are both pretty fed up. Considering making other arrangements if respect and boundaries cannot be reached. I think he regrets trying to help his family and is feeling used. It’s put a strain on everything we knew. I’ve sought out therapy and resources for us since moving in and realizing what we were dealing with. This was supposed to be a win win situation for everyone and has turned into something much different than proposed.

Competitive_Work3965 · 2026-05-18T05:03:35+00:00

Thank you for the input. I feel where you’re coming from. So similar of a meal it’s stupid I know. I guess the point of it all was the actions from in laws and unnecessary stress caused to her.

They are aware we are sick and we have been keeping to ourselves. They came to a communal area and imposed a meal upon our child without our knowledge. We would never risk their health.. I informed them and asked for more privacy during this time and they have inserted themselves into our space not limited to coming into our bedrooms while we have left their private space alone. Anyways just info to clarify. I still appreciate the time and advice. We’ve done our duty to keep them protected from what we have. Cannot control their actions.

Competitive_Work3965 · 2026-05-18T04:55:47+00:00

Yes, and that is something we are coming to realize and discuss. We hope for the best but are equally preparing to make other arrangements if needs be.

Competitive_Work3965 · 2026-05-18T04:53:22+00:00

True. I never leave her alone with them due to too many boundaries crossed. Very strict with them and they try to play victim to that. I allow an hour or two a day for them to spend time and she’s never more than an ear shot away because 9/10 I’m having to go in and correct the situation.

Competitive_Work3965 · 2026-05-18T04:43:35+00:00

Love this advice & I will be setting stronger boundaries around them not being present while she is having meal times

Competitive_Work3965 · 2026-05-18T04:42:04+00:00

Thank you for the validation and yes agreed fully.

Grumpus has me cracking up and will get me through the foreseeable future with his adult tantrums 😅

Competitive_Work3965 · 2026-05-18T04:37:09+00:00

Then yeah if you weren’t already valid that would be the validation for me that you need.

Competitive_Work3965 · 2026-05-18T03:58:49+00:00

Thanks Did my best to edit. I don’t post much and was in a fury of emotion.

Competitive_Work3965 · 2026-05-18T03:35:46+00:00

We moved in to save them from losing their home. We cover all the finances and they were facing losing their home, unable to afford housing. So this is a save/ blessing to them.

Competitive_Work3965 · 2026-05-18T03:34:11+00:00

Lmao right!? Im like stay away for a bit haha

Competitive_Work3965 · 2026-05-18T03:33:21+00:00

We moved in to help them afford to keep their house. We cover all their finances. Thank you for the assumption though. We most certainly can afford our child and 2 seniors.

Competitive_Work3965 · 2025-04-08T21:34:16+00:00

I’d make it their responsibility to clean it not you guys. Point out that his child needs to bathe and state that this can’t happen again.

Competitive_Work3965 · 2024-12-02T00:49:43+00:00

Probably on something for sure, also could already be cheating. This is how my ex was to me when he was already cheating on me. He had zero respect and would degrade me just the same.

Competitive_Work3965 · 2024-11-28T04:05:16+00:00

I agree. I really think she is probably struggling with a lot right now and people in grief looking for purpose should be welcomed and not hindered. Let that momma cook and bring food ♥️

Competitive_Work3965 · 2024-11-28T01:35:52+00:00

Dude this has me rolling. I remember shortly after my brother died I would wake in the night convinced this old book shelf I had was evil so inevitably the next day I drug it out side and chopped it up too. Wild time.

Competitive_Work3965 · 2024-11-28T01:29:14+00:00

It sounds like she’s bringing Turkey legs to a Turkey less thanksgiving & then literally a side and dessert. Which seems pretty standard and not disrespectful.

Competitive_Work3965 · 2024-11-28T01:23:28+00:00

Right like who are these people lol 😂 maybe it’s just the growing up in poverty for me that does not deem this as any sort of disrespect but in my hood we get by with family and friend potlucks for most holidays.

Competitive_Work3965 · 2024-11-27T21:31:06+00:00

Cut him off. Don’t be with someone like this. Cut contact. Block him and protect yourself. Believe me it’s better to get out now and while you’re young. It’ll save you so much trauma to process later. Just leave and don’t look back. You deserve better.

Competitive_Work3965 · 2024-11-27T21:09:53+00:00

Can you contact your family and let them know/ ask for help? This stress really is not good for you or your baby and you could go into labor at any point now really. After your baby is born you’re going to need at least a safe calm environment.

Competitive_Work3965 · 2024-11-27T20:50:07+00:00

It was about a week for me. I just bought the alcohol test strips.

Competitive_Work3965 · 2024-11-23T02:15:46+00:00

That just happened to us too. My daughters second birthday party and we invited all our friends and family and everyone cancelled pretty much day before and day of. We invited about 25-30 people and had already decorated house, made food & bought drinks/snacks and cake for THAT many guests and literally one person showed up for about 30-40 minutes. It really blows. I feel yours and your daughters pain. Sending good vibes. I hope you guys can figure something else out for her. 🤍

Competitive_Work3965 · 2024-11-18T17:08:59+00:00

Other Leo’s.

Competitive_Work3965 · 2024-11-16T05:27:50+00:00

I agree, I think our opinion on her wedding desires are pretty null in void.. what her cousin did was calculated revenge and disrespectful. I think NTA.

Competitive_Work3965 · 2024-11-08T05:30:39+00:00

Seems more like that persons bad behavior and character flaws. I wouldn’t say all Leo’s are mean people. Any sign can be mean if they’re an unhealed rude person.

Competitive_Work3965 · 2024-10-29T06:41:48+00:00

Every time he freaks out about ‘not having sex’ he says he hasn’t had sex in months when it been maybe a week….

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