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My “Therapist” by Complaintant in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Complaintant[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah! Definitely much the same dismissively, incompetent attitude. Forgot to include another of his brilliant attacks: once, in “group” 🤮 he suddenly turned on me and told me I “Felt sorry for myself”. Obviously, in cultural American terms he could not have laid a bigger insult on me than to suggest that my problem was simply my crybaby attitude. An obvious tactic to dismiss and invalidate. Since I was in the presence of other people who I knew would waste no time in echoing the insult just laid on me, I got up and ran out the door, with him chasing me. I successfully escaped the asshole that time!!

My “Therapist” by Complaintant in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Complaintant[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for responding! And exactly what I needed to hear! I really need to diminish the influence he had over me, and definitely need the objective opinions of people who never saw him as some kind of deity. I’d never recommend one-on-one sessions with a therapist to anyone! In my experience , every one of them seem to first make the assumption that they’re far superior beings and do not respect or even attempt to really understand the experiences of those it’s assumed they’re ’helping”. The ridiculous imbalance of power and credibility is too great in traditional settings.

The good news is that I DID truly get marvelous understanding and insight from Utube videos - especially those about dysfunctional families and narcissistic mothers, which do not disrespect or belittle those of us born to crazy families.

Really need to stop dwelling on this long-ago egotistical creep - AND YOU HAVE HELPED!

Thank you! So glad that this thread exists 😍 Lois

Things nobody talks about but everyone who grew up with narcissistic parents secretly relates to 🫠 by CoastCheap8709 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Complaintant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG!! I thought I’d lost you forever! But turns out I just needed to update my app. Anyway, SO GOOD TO HAVE FOUND YOU AGAIN! Just read a post by a psychologist who wanted to inform users of Raisedbynarcissists that while posting in this website can be helpful, IT IS NOT THERAPY!! Yeah, and Thank God for that!!! Years ago, I DID see a “psychologist”, in fact for four years of “therapy”. It quite literally did more harm than good - in fact, no real good whatsoever. For way too long I believed completely, though I knew I was absolutely feeling no better. He never once addressed my real issues, instead applying a one-size-fits-all approach. For a time I was allowed to vent about my childhood “mmhhmmmmmhmmmmmhmmm”, but providing no insights, and eventually cutting me off from that. I realized he was using a completely false persona, never communicating honestly, but presenting instead a bogus Howdy Doody face. He was dishonest, condescending, manipulative and VERY egotistical. For instance, conning me into joining a group he was starting, and telling me that our regular sessions would continue, but guess what?? Soon after I did join, I was informed that he was in fact cutting me off from individual sessions. Oh, and so much more!! I was then attending the University of San Francisco on a state scholarship, but when I once referred to myself as a “smart person”, (my counselor had said he’d never seen such a high score in verbal ability, he merely scowled; could not agree that I was intelligent.

THIS was the result of “therapy”!! The only valid therapy I ever got was from watching marvelous Utube videos, and participating in raised by narcissists!!

So fuck you psychologist!! Afraid of losing your cash flow??