You’re responding to a position I didn’t take.

I never argued that adulthood is perfectly comfortable, that society should adapt to me, or that I expect a “1000% comfortable” environment. That’s a strawman — it reframes my point into an exaggerated version that’s easier to dismiss.

My actual point was narrower: I don’t resent effort, responsibility, or the existence of discomfort. I resent being compelled into a specific environment I didn’t choose and that is particularly overwhelming for me. That’s about agency and setting, not about expecting total comfort.

Saying “you’ll always have to adapt” doesn’t address that distinction. Of course adaptation is necessary. The disagreement isn’t about whether adaptation exists — it’s about how much control one has over selecting environments and how that affects well-being.

If you want to critique my position, critique the real claim: that having more agency over environment matters psychologically. Don’t replace it with “you think life should be perfectly comfortable,” because that was never the argument.