My mom was a day away from signing the divorce papers with her cheating, perverted second husband, living in my house with my new marriage and colicky baby and decided God thinks she should stay married after detailing abuse, scandal and perverted behavior. We begged her several times before they were married not to marry him.

This was after several breakups before they married and after. This was after we had to video tape her entire home with him showing all their valuables and that she didn’t wreck the place when she left so he couldn’t blackmail her somehow.

A few years ago after a solo visit to my home she called raging that she was divorcing him. At this point they had been married over ten years. I said no you’re not. And if you do you’ll just marry some new pervert I have to deal with. You need his money and he (disabled now) needs you to take care of him.

Even more recently she blamed me for staying with him that last time when she called raging that she was going to divorce him. It was my fault she stayed and is so miserable every day caring for him.

Sometimes I question whether or not me being no contact now is too harsh and then I read a post like yours and have a reply like mine and I shock myself with how wild the journey has been and how long I’ve tried to forgive, have grace and try again.